Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

Here is a totally wishy washy response. I would never pm anyone and ask if their doll was for sale after seeing it in, say, the photo story gallery. I would probably not like someone pming me if they saw my doll in one of the galleries either. But now that I've read so many others gracious comments I think maybe I wouldn't be so upset. Maybe I would take it as appreciation toward my doll. If someone got pushy and thought that a high offer is all anyone cares about--that I would find offensive.

 

I think that crosses a line. There's a difference between PMing someone to let them know you love the way their doll looks and, should you ever decided to let him go, that they would be interested and just flat out half ask/half demand that you sell your doll.
Because that's what it feels like to me. They're not really asking, they're some what demanding and that is harassment so while it's against the rules, it's against the rules for a GOOD reason.

 

I would just politely refuse, but if they kept bugging me, became extremely pushy and demand that I sell my doll to them then that's crossing the line and plain rude. Then I would probably report them.

 

This has been happening to me as well. People looking for the limited set. And it has happened quite a few times. I have also had a couple of people asking if I was considering selling him. At first I was kind of flattered, but after a couple of times it is a bit troubling.

 

I would only say its okay if the person has clearly stated "Im not bonding, im might sell her, i might not.) But i just think its rude. Good question though!

 

I think that it is ok to PM someone once and ask if they are willing but if you get a no, then you should just walk away and not press the issue. On the other hand if you should get that question asked and you defiantely would not want to sell then it would serve you best to just politely say no thanks rather than ignoring the message and hoping they'll go away.

 

Hmm. Interesting question!

I feel that it is out-of-line for anyone to inquire about your selling a doll in any situation, unless you have made it clear you are interested in selling. Call me weird, but I'm one of those people that would state that I am interested in selling something if I was interested in selling something!

There will always be the people who go to garage sales and ask if your mop is for sale though, so I've learned to deal with them via a polite "No, sorry, it is not for sale".

If the person pursued the topic, or if they became belligerent/rude, I may consider reporting. That would be a last resort.

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I think it's ok. Asking doesn't cost a thing. He/she can still say no and I would not push again. If I was, then I know it would be annoying in no time. I would not do so.Maybe he/she was having a hard time and with my offering I could make a deal to make both of us happier? Outside of DoA...

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Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?

Well, I think I would say it one time, that I don't have the intention. If I would be asked a second and third time I would consider reporting. Because I would feel very annoyed.

Laoky

 

I do not think it's polite, and it IS illegal on the threads to do so. However, I am for giving the person the benefit of the doubt, so I would probably just tell them, "No, I am not going to sell this doll. You shouldn't be asking me like this anyway. Just access the Marketplace."

That way, they don't get banned and hopefully leave you alone.

 

No, absolutly! I think it isn't OK to PM an owner about selling a doll they had no intention to sell. When he'll want sell, he'll post it in marketplace. I'd feel offended if someone ask me about a doll I haven't inention to sell.

 

I have thought much about this and have to say that I have actually done this but in no way asking someone to sell me a doll just expressing that if that eventuality was ever on the cards that I would love to know.

I don't think it is alright to randomly ask to buy someone's loved and individual doll and would not ask but in an instance when a doll was possibly off topic on the forum as is the case with the doll I would love then it is a case of polite and certainly non intrusive expression of interest and one of my good friends found her certain doll in this way.

Hope I don't get shot down in flames for being truthful.

Just a final note to say that I truly respect the bond between all of us and our dolls.

 

Oh boy have I wanted to at one point, lol the funny thing is the seller actually ended up selling that doll and I had no idea. LMAO!

 

I think that if someone's so eager to get their hands on a doll that they ask you to sell yours then they must not really know what it's like to love a doll. I'd never ask anyone to sell their doll. it's like selling a pet (not saying our dolls are our pets but ya know)

 

And this is precisely why I don't think it's such a bad thing to ask an owner politely to think about you if she'd ever decide to sell the doll. I wouldn't mind if someone asked me.
It's all about hów you phrase the question: Asking to keep you in mind is not a bad thing and sometimes the only way to get a hold on a doll. However, pointing at a doll and asking "Wanna sell her for $400?"? Now that's rude.

 

If you phrase it after a compliment like "...and if you ever happen to want to sell him, I'd be more than happy to take him off your hands!", it can be taken as *part* of the compliment, even if you might not actually not buy it if you found it listed in the marketplace a year later, for whatever reason, it's just that you're trying to express that you like the doll *that* much. It's not *asking* if they want to sell, it's just, at the most, a "should you ever need to sell, there's a potential loving home here" kind of feeler that they can respond to if they wish - taking it as simply a compliment if they have no desire to sell it.

Outright asking if you're selling, though, is rude. If someone was selling *now*, they'd post it in the marketplace. If you're really interested in it, send out a feeler compliment as above instead, and certainly don't demand it sold for a certain price! Not very nice.

 

it is not ok, i have the experience ,even you think you want to do somethings for the people, this is only your thinking , so i think you should not directly send message to the people

 

It's tacky but I don't see it as ethically wrong, annoying at worst.

 

now that its finally happened to me, i feel as tho i can be opinionated...
i used to think it was just flat-out wrong, but ive had several pms about a couple of my dolls and they were all very...flattering. it was more like they just wanted to tell me how much they liked a certain doll, and as an after thought "if you ever think about selling him/her..."

handled like that i think its very different than "ill give you this much for a doll you have no intention of selling!" out of the blu (which has not happened to me). i dont think this way of doing it is polite or in any way acceptable. its kinda rude and i might be upset or offended depending on how it was done....maybe thats just me tho...

 

I've had people send me messages on myspace wanting to buy my custom modded DZ Feilian. But never on this forum. And i thought it was kinda creepy. But that's just me.

 

I agree with most folks, if someone asked in a polite manner that if I should ever want to sell my doll(s) to keep them in mind, especially with a compliment to the doll lol, it's okay and even flattering. As a seller, it helps me out down the road incase I ever do need to sell, as past requests will most likely get first dibs. That and I know that the person is respecting and understanding my love for my doll, and is respectfully making their interests known.
Now someone demanding or just plan out offers (ex. - "Hey I want to buy your doll, how much? or I'll pay $_._ for your doll") and of course just plan out constantly pm'ing to buy the doll off me would be plan out annoying and rude (and get reported).
I believe there's nice ways of going about it and indirectly asking without actually asking is most likely the best route. Cause even I can understand not being able to get that wonderful certain doll and so much wanting to get it as there are even now some folks who have certain dolls I would nearly just die to get, but would love for them to keep me in mind, as well.