Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

It's against the rules to PM an owner about buying a doll that they haven't listed for sale.

 

People shouldn't do that. Its not nice. People should only PM if your doll is on the market.

 

I think it's OK to pm a person and ask which companies his or her dolls come from, but it's impolite to ask them to sell their own dolls.

 

Personally I don't think it's right to send unsolicited "is your doll for sale?" PMs. I can see how some may take it as a compliment and all, but I still would never ask that. I don't have a problem with PMs inquiring the type of sculpt, where it was purchased, etc.

Just my two cents.

 

I think that's terribly rude, and i would offend me unless i put one of them on the market place, its fine if they just wanna know the sculpt or where i got him/her, but asking "I will pay X for X please consider me" is just not nice, (its also against DOA rules,)

 

I think it's rude too but I know what you mean. I saw someone's custom made doll that I would die for.

 

Well, seeing that most of my doll "family" consists of Volks Dollfie Dream girls, I NEVER thought that I would run into this problem. But, I suppose there's a first time for everything, seeing that "it happened to me" today.

It doesn't make any sense to me though, since DoA allows people to start a 'willing to buy" thread on the marketplace sub-forum. This would seem to be the natural "first step" in looking for a particular doll or outfit. I never thought of DDs as being "rare" before, but with their growing popularity and the fact that they are "limited" in the North American market, I suppose they could be.

I was just so taken back by all of it. I replied to the person, with a link to this thread and the hope that this was the first time that they did this. It's illegal to do this, but we all make mistakes, so I'm hoping they will learn from this.

My question now is, do I remove the list of my "Doll Family", so that people will not know what dolls I do own? I'm really torn now, because us Dollfie Dream owners make up such a small part of the DoA community, and I've received PMs in the past from new owners asking about how to care for them, people who had a particular question about a specific doll, and others who are thinking about getting one. Anybody have any thoughts on this? Please let me know what you think.

Just my two cents...

TC

 

I think doing this is extremely rude (not to mention against the rules of DoA, as many people have already pointed out!). Would you walk up to someone on the street and ask to buy one of their possessions? It's basically the same thing, whether in person or over PMs.

 

If my dolls are for sale, they'll be listed in the marketplace.

If that's not where (general) you see them, then not for sale are they and if you pm me asking to buy them (which is rude and tacky), that's what you'll be told.

 

I see no reason why you should take down the list. The person asking to buy your doll from you was in the wrong here and not you, and it's not your fault that other people are acting out of line, nor should you have to get the burn from it.

Speaking from experience I know how utterly frustrating it can be to try to find information on not-so-popular type of doll and am absolutely ecstatic when I find another owner I can hopefully ask questions to. So, as you mentioned, since DDs really aren't very popular and you enjoy giving advice to others about them who are seeking out information, then it would make sense for you to keep your list up and show off your beautiful doll bunch. Just my thoughts on it anyway

 

I would be a bit flattered as well, but the more pm's I'd get the more annoyed I'd become. It isn't fun having to tell people no, kind of like... turning down a guy hitting on you. It should go without saying in this community that we love and cherish our dolls/creations and people should be more respectful of those feelings.

 

Please don't feel pressured to take down your list of DD girls, one 'sales' PM shouldn't make you want to hide them away. Plus, as you said, people curious about Dollfie Dreams have asked you questions about them. Dollfie Dreams are in the minority on this forum and it can be difficult getting info on them. If you don't mind giving advice and spreading your love of DD, I don't see why you should take the list down. I had a lovely PM the other day from someone interested in Dollfie Dreams, wanting to know what type my DD was and whether I had more pictures of her, I was more than happy to give this person a link. I do like complimentary PMs out of the blue, they're always nice surprises...but I think unsolicited 'let me buy your doll' PMs are tacky.

I guess if it happened very regularly, perhaps it might be an option to avoid being harassed by different members, but this is only one PM, and you pointed them in the direction of this thread so you've also saved someone else from having an unsolicited PM in the future as well

 

I think it is rude. If you intended to sell a doll you'd have it listed for sale, or up for feelers. Just by posting your doll family list, or sharing which dolls you do have on a doll forum does not mean they are for sale! I think it is different to message someone saying you admire their doll, but certainly seems rude to me if you are saying "And would you sell her to me for $X ?" This was actually a reason I stopped posting photos of various dolls in other forums - I was posting to share photos, not be messaged "she's great, is she for sale?"

 

I don't think it's very polite of people to do that. When I hear about it, I get reminded of little kids being asked to give their favourite teddy bear to someone they don't know. I think it's okay to say "if you sell him/her, can you please keep me posted?" or something but not okay to give a price and stuff.

 

It's very unkind and rude, If I don't want to sell my doll why are you bothering me?
I love my dolls, they're like a child for me and they have their own story and name and if I haven't put them in a feeler or flickr pool that means I have NO intention to sell them.
If you like my doll, search on the factory's site or on the secondary market and buy it, it's simple.

 

The only reason I could think of it being ok is if you didn't say which of your dolls you're selling. (Like if someone has 3 dolls and is selling 2 but didn't specify which two were for sale) but in any other case, it's just rude....

 

I agree that it can be flattering. However, if you really love someone's doll, just send a nice PM saying so. It's really not necessary to imply or straight up say that you'd be willing to take the doll off of the owner's hands no matter how polite you are.

 

dont be afraid to ask.. but dotn be suprized by whatever their reaction is

 

I think it's rude. If they wanted to sell their doll it would be in the marketplace.

 

i realize it's against doa rules but i also think it's in very poor taste. i can see someone writing you to say they really like your doll or he or she is lovely or complimenting on an outfit....but offering to buy your precious one....that's just wrong!