Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

The persons should be reported for that, since as many have stated, it's against DoA's rules. Not only that, but it's rude and unkind, and reminds me of that incident with the trolls that forced a girl to sell her doll. Sure, the dolls are beautiful, but it's just way uncalled for if someone would suggest that.

 

I think it is very not polite and unkind to PM an owner about selling a doll he/she had no intention to sell, so I never will do things like this.
But If I will receive a PM with such an offer, I just will answer “no, thanks” and will forget about this with no any offends/reports.

 

I have never had this personally happen to me, but I have heard about it happening before. I personally believe that is is absolutely rude to pm an owner of a particular doll asking them to keep you in mind if they ever sell it. We all know how much these dolls cost, and how much they mean to us. It's just unacceptable. PERIOD. If you want that doll go out and buy it yourself or scan the marketplace.

It's just unacceptable, childish, and utterly rude. End of story.

 

hmmm - I'd have to say no... but then if someone was crazy enough to PM me with something like this: "ZOMG *flails* Your Choa is like... stunning.... speechless.... I just sold my kidney and I have $2000 - please let me buy her..."

After I'd ROFLMAO - and got my breath back - I'd send them a PM saying spend the 2 G's on therapy and I'd spend the rest of my day laughing

But Nah I wouldn't be offended but no is a no and a repeated request would result in reporting to the mods... And I'd never ever do it!!!

 

I don't even have rare dolls and I get this all the time when they see a doll of mine that they like. I have been offered money for my doll, my first in fact. Almost double what I paid for him.

But I just politely tell them that I am flattered they would want him but I am not interested in selling at this time. And thank them for there time.

It is just the way I am.

 

I'd hand them a big 'ol stick and tell them where to go and what to do with said stick when they got there.

 

I think its very rude like everyone else here, but if I was a rule breaker, and a rude person, this might bite me in the butt for saying this, but I know the doll I would ask for. He/she would most likely get angry at me, and report me. I would be okay with that. Would it be rude if I asked for a replica of their face-up of a world famous unique make-up style?

 

I've PM'd a girl about selling a doll she had up on a list of WTT for something else. I asked her polietly even though it was on her WTT if she would be willing to sell it instead. While we didnt go through the transaction in the end she did agree to sell him to me.

I would NEVER PM someone asking about buying their doll out of the blue, if i couldnt hunt down one just like it even still i wouldn't do that, because its just kind of rude and i know if i got that question i would be like "uhh did i SAY he/she was for sale?" obviously if they arent listed that means the owner doesnt have an intention of selling said doll, so its best to NOT do that lol.

 

Couldn't they just ask for the website that sells that doll or read the public profile to find it? :S If it was limited and had sold out, they could try ebay or something.

 

To be honest, I think I'd be flattered if someone liked one of my dolls enough to go out of their way and ask if they could buy it. I really don't see anything rude about it, unless they're asking in a rude way or pretty much demanding it be sold. Of course, they'd get a simple "No, sorry, he's not for sale," but there's no reason to get all offended.

 

To me it would matter very much WHO asks this.

Examples:
Sometime ago i had some WS dolls, but found out I just cant bond with very pale/WS dolls. When i told the buyer of the WS doll i sold her because i wanted to see if i could bond with her in NS, she said something like " if you can't bond with NS either, please think of me!". I did not find that offensive at all. Some months later she pmed me again to tell me how much she loved her doll, showed me some pics of the new face-up and remarked she did not see me putting up pics of the NS version, and if that meant i wasnt bonding, with NS either, she would warmly welcome a new doll to her family and would love to give my girl a new home. I was not offended by that either.

Other non-offence buying attempt was by one of my regular PM-palls.
We send 100+ PM's to each other. We had talked in depth before about dollrelated and non dollrelated things like her grandmother dying, my angst during jobinterviews and things like that. When she wanted a certain doll, she asked me if i where willing to sell mine, i was ok with that.

The PM that did offend me was about a doll I HAVE NEVER MADE A SINGLE PIC OFF. Because i'm a lousy photographer and my pics make my precious ones look horrid, i just dont do photography.

The PM went like this

HI I AM HONKONG GIRL I LOVE YOUR PICS AND WOLD LIKE TO BUY YOURE PRETTY DOLLIE FOR CHEAP. CAN YOU MAKE ME GOOD PRICE?

Now that really pissed me off. I started to type a response, but my hubbie & preventer of harm would not let me send it. He was afraid i would be banned from that forum for foul language. I then decided to ignore the PM and hardly ever went back to that forum.

 

Erm, that probably wasn't even a real person. Sounds more like a bot to me. Especially since you never posted pictures of said doll, and "HONKONG GIRL" never requested a specific doll of yours to purchase.

For me it depends on how the question is phrased. "I love your X so much! If you ever think about selling her please look me up" is fine. I'd probably be flattered that somebody likes my doll, and would respond politely. "OMG I WANT YOUR X SELL HER TO ME NOW" is not fine.

 

Agreed with Ostrich. It depends on how the person goes about asking, really. The "tone" of the message kind of makes or breaks it. It can be flattering or totally offensive.

 

Personal circumstance do change. I buy stuff with the intention of not selling them again ever. However I've seen people enter dire financial situations and a quick private sale is often the best route.

As well as dollfies I collect anime cels and over the years I've received at least 1 offer a month from people interested in certain parts of my collection. I turn them down very politely.

The only time an offer annoys me if its clearly a "bottom feeding" number.
If an item is not officially for sale to offer the owner a fraction of the cost or market value is insulting.

 

She stated about which doll this was in the title. It was Hana Angel, at that time easily available trough Elfdoll and numerous dealers.

 

I do think it's pretty rude. We put a lot of time and effort into our dolls, and to have someone randomly pop up and say "Hey, wanna sell it to me?" is kind of...offputting. That said though, it's really not that big a deal. I think the appropriate response is to just say that you're not interested, and thank them for the offer. I would only be offended if they asked to buy it for an absurdly low price, or if they ask more than once.

I mean, there are much worse things to say to someone than "I love your doll and am willing to pay you for it." I wouldn't do it myself, but there's no reason to get bent out of shape over it.

 

i don't think it's rude at all. It doesnt hurt to ask. i have been asked many times
if i ever thought of trading or selling one of my dolls. I hadnt till the offer was to good to pass up.
This ONE and only time i did agree to trade. If your intent is to be rude, it will come across as rude.
If your intent is to simple show your interest and to say if you ever sell think of me. Then THAT is NOT rude.

 

I've never had this happen to me, but considering how irritated I was when someone emailed me out of the blue asking me to get them a limited doll just because I live in Japan, I would really hate being asked to sell one of my dolls. That's a gut reaction rather than an ethical one, but I personally would not find it okay.

 

I normally wouldn't mind being asked about if I'm ever willing to sell a doll, however recently I got two messages very soon after posting my box openning, asking me if I was going to sell. UH...I just got the doll, and my thread showed I was happy/pleased with it, so not very likely at that point. Was abit annoyed by those messages.

 

Personally I find someone asking to buy another's doll pretty rude. Especially since many people are pretty attached to their dolls. It puts the owner in an awkward position as well if they're trying to refuse without being rude back.