Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

If someone in my everyday life ever tried this, I would be so stunned, I wouldn't even be uncomfortable. I would probably laugh and just say "Are you crazy? How about you give me your new car in exchange then?"

 

I Have Never Asked To Buy Someones Doll, That Be Rude. If I Like The Mold & Really Want It The Most I'd Ever Do Is PM Them Telling Them They Have A Great Doll & If I Could See Picture Spam? It Flatters The Owner & Who Doesn't Like To Show Off There Doll To Fans Of The Mold?

 

Though I think its a bit like you buy a dog and your happy with him/her and somebody walks up to you one day and says, 'can you sell your dog to me?'

I personally would feel a bit shocked or surprised at first, since it is a bit uncalled for, but I wouldnt report them, just tell them that your not selling the doll. People express that they are selling a doll when they feel like they want to. Its not your business to run around asking people whether they want to sell their dolls or not.

 

Life is too short for me to get mad, pissed, irked , or whatever. If they ask, I will simply tell them "no I have no intention of selling my dolls but thanks for asking I will keep that in mind" or something like that. I will find it rude if they keep harassing me or offer me a lower price than I paid for my doll(s).

 

If the owner has stated that they have no intention of selling, then yes, it is not okay to ask them to sell at all.

If they haven't mentioned it, I think it's alright to ask politely, but you should stop asking if they reply that it's not for sale.

I've not ben approached by anyone here, but I was messaged once about the possibly of selling one of my dolls on other forum. It's a limited doll so I can understand why this person was interested. That person was very polite about it and I politely declined the offer with a 'Sorry, but she's not for sale' and we left it at that.

 

I see nothing wrong with polite asking.

I would even see it as a kind of compliment: "I love your doll, if you ever consider selling her/him please think of me, I would pay (...)$". What's wrong with that? Or with: "Thanks for the offer, the doll is not for sale, but I will inform you if I change my mind."

Where is the problem?

Not accepting a NO would be rude though. But it's still "only" a case of bad manners. Ethics means for me things much more important than this.

 

I think it's a little rude to ask someone if they'll sell you their doll for whatever amount of money you are offering when they are not interested in selling their doll. I don't think it's ethically wrong, no, but it just really isn't polite.

If someone is interested in being updated if an owner ever does some reason sell the doll, it's a different story, but outright offering for a doll not being planned on being sold...

I don't think I'd report the person if anyone would offer me some specific amount for a doll I wouldn't plan on selling. I'd just politely tell them I am not selling and what they are doing is against the rules if they were asking on DoA. If they persist and not take no for an answer, I would report.

 

I think it's highly rude if someone that is already in the hobby asks to buy a doll that's not for sale, but I personaly have had just people just come up to me while I'm at like Micheals buying trickets with my doll and ask if they could buy it. When that happens I'm kinda flatered that someone would like mine that much...but I always enjoy their face when I tell them no > >insert evil laugh here<

 

I would be flatered and would not be offended

 

I have to admit that there have been a couple of dolls that I have coveted and I have very briefly fantasises about contacting the owners to ask them to keep me in mind if they were ever to sell them, but I would never actually do it. I think it is rude and a bit of an infringement on someone's privacy. I have had dolls for sale on forums before and have been contacted by people enquiring if one of my other dolls was also for sale (clearly not!) and this made me feel quite annoyed.

 

I've also found several dolls here that I'd love to own but I agree with those who say it's rude to send PM to their owners asking to sell them. Besides, I don't think they would agree to sell them anyway.

 

I, personally, find it to be an impolite question. If someone is going to sell their doll, then they probably would have put it up for sale in the marketplace. A person shouldn't just assume that someone will sell their dolls if you wave enough money under their noses. People put a lot of hard work and money into this hobby, and I would be offended if someone wanted to buy my doll when it wasn't for sale. People need to stop acting as if everything has a price tag on it.

 

I don't think it is very polite, but then again something like "if you ever decide to give a doll up, I'd be happy to offer a home on your pricing terms" and such I wouldn't find offensive and actually quite nice of them to state it politely.

 

Honestly I think its kinda rude! But it all depends on the way you ask the question. I would never do this anyway! Ppl get attached to their dolls and would probably be offended!

 

I consider this somewhere beyond rude. Evn as a non-doll owner I read this question and thought what kind of self-centered greedy- in any case I don't think it's appropriate at all.

Someone saying "If (s)he ever needs a new home call me!" is diffrent since it's meant as a compliment and heck in the 2 weeks I've been here I've learned some people do find themselves needing to liquidate their collection from time to time.

I have however heard tale (from friends) of people saying "Oh your doll whould be much happier in my house" and other things much to this same effect. This goes above and beyond and in MY case is a good way to get yourself decked and verbally reamed.

 

personally, i wouldn't really mind and will take it as a compliment how someone loves my doll so much they are willing to own him/her!

but just like what others said, it defiantly will get on my nerves if the person starts to 'stalk', 'bug' or 'copy' you-- invading your (and your doll's ehehe) personal bubble really!

 

I think the asking of a question is not a matter of moral "right" and "wrong". It may an etiquette issue but not really an ethical question- at least for me. Manners and all that jazz- not everyone is up on them especially on the internets. It happens.

Though such questions are apparently a DoA social taboo, it really wouldn't bother me all that much.

It's really not worth my time to report someone I can simply say 'no' to. This way it saves my time, saves the moderator time and saves everyone from a negative, unhappy, potentially "dramatical" interaction.

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and I don't believe such a question was meant to intentionally put another owner under some sort of duress.

 

Besides the point that it is against the rules:

I feel that it's kinda rude to just ask people blatantly. Although I do understand why people do it. How many times haven't I thought: "Wow, I would really like to buy this persons doll if they would sell it".
I would never ask, personally, because one can't just assume that people want to sell their dollies.

That said, I would not be offended if a person asked me "I really like your doll, if you ever thought of selling her, I'd be really interested".
If the person started to offer money or insist on buying, I'd be offended though.

 

I guess its not the best dolly etiquette, but I wouldnt be offended if someone POLITELY got in touch and said they'd be interested to buy IF I ever sold the doll. However, what really does irk me is people who offer ridiculous low amounts for the dolls I have sold in the past- then I actually feel insulted!

 

I envy people who see this as some kind of compliment. May be I'll be touched by this type of admiration, too, but I'll never ask someone to sell me his/her doll. I'm too shy for this type of question and afraid to sound rude. My English isn't perfect so I can unintentionally sound rude and robotic but it's not excuse for making someone uncomfortable with this kind of question.

BUT if I know about this owner as someone who sell his dolls often or something like that I'll definitely try and ask very-very politely about possibility of this particular sale. But it would be something like the type of PM LaceandBlood mentioned: "...if you ever thought of selling her, I'd be really interested." I think it's really rude to shove our money in someone's throats. There are many people who love their dollies dearly and would be offended with blunt offer.