Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

Honestly, if someone just came up to me and was like "Can I buy your doll?" I'd be slightly miffed. It's a different feeling from something like "if you ever sell her, I'd love to buy!" I'd probably simply not reply to the PM. I find ignoring PMs to be incredibly rude, but if you're going to be rude to me, don't expect me to be polite back.

 

well i wouldnt really report it unless they have got me on a bad day or have asked me alot and just anoyed me but if you feel offended then do because members should know the rules i guess you can give a new person the benifit of the dout and say ok no i dont want to sell but for further notice it is agenst doa rules to pm people asking for them to sell...

 

No, it's not okay, because if it's not listed for being on sale, it's not for sale. And I won't report them on the spot, but if they are being very pushy about it or very annoying, I would highly consider it.

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I'm going with what I've seen most people say... No. If I wanted to sell a doll I'd have it listed on the MP. However, I wouldn't be offended but I would think that person is INCREDIBLY tacky. I'd probably be offended at the amount since I view my babies as priceless..

Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?

At first, maybe not. I'd have to be in the situation. You see, it is my nature to be polite. I'd simply explain that while I appreciate they love my doll as much as I do, I'm not interested in their offer at that time. If they persisted, I'd report him/her.

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?
No, I don't think so. As others have said, obviously the doll's not for sale if it's not in the marketplace. It's rude to assume that you could basically bribe someone to give up one of their dolls. However, I have heard a story or two where someone's persistence paid off and they eventually bought the doll. I don't know the situation but it leaves an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach and a worry that the original owner somehow felt pressured or harassed into it.

Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?
I'd be polite and respectful initially but if they persisted I would likely get very annoyed and warn them that I will report them.

 

Personally I could never compare a doll to a living thing (seeing as they're not -biologically- alive) and therefor I'd also take it as a compliment should someone express their interest in one of mine.

As it has been pointed out before, expressing an interest is not the same as being pushy and when done politely shouldn't be taken as anything else than a compliment and a possible life-line should the owner of the doll ever need/want to consider it.

I've been collecting other items (mainly My Little Pony) for over a decade and there I get asked quite frequently about some of my ponies, even though they weren't for sale. I've never ever considered it tacky, rude or inconsiderate - just as a compliment.

That being said, had I not seen doll collectors reactions over the past two years I would probably express my interest in someone's doll.

 

I have never received such offer, but if I ever did I am sure I would not be offended. After all my doll are not living beings. I treat them like my favourite bag or dress. Once I am gone my dolls like all my other belongings will be given to my daughters or sold off. So I don't see the point of getting too attached. I can't control where my dolls are going to end up in the future.
I treat them like pretty precious things, beautiful but not essential for my hapiness. So if someone asks me, I would be flattered.

 

I think it's rather rude.

"Hey, your doll's pretty cute. How much for it?"

O_O

My dolls have dignity!

 

I'd be offended especially if it was concerning my first bjd since it was a gift.
I'd probably be really polite about turning them down unless they insisted, then I'd probably report.

 

It's definitely rude...Even if someone comes to me in a very polite way I'd find it impolite.

 

No, it's not okay. If they don't have the intentions, that's that then. If you ask anyway, it's quite rude.

 

I used to think this was super rude no matter how you phrased it. Now I think it can be done properly... Basically, I would not mind if someone said something like, "I love your doll, and if you ever consider selling it, I would be really grateful if you let me be the first to know." That's fine, and helpful to both parties if the owner ever does decide to sell. No problem whatsoever.

However, if someone said "I want your doll and I want to pay x amount," I would be really annoyed and send a reply that basically said "never ask me about this again." If they sent another message, I would report them. The problem isn't that they want to buy your doll; it's that they think they can boss you around to the extent that they can buy your property when they want to and for the price they name. That's severely disrespectful to the owner as a human being. I'd be just as mad if I was told to sell someone any of my other possesions in that way. It's honestly not about the doll at all, it's about respect.

 

I don't think its ok because the owner might feel pressured

 

It's really bad form to just ask to buy things from someone that they clearly still want. Especially if it's a rare or limited sculpt. I can understand really wanting a sculpt that isn't for sale elsewhere, but sometimes patience is a virtue and if it's meant to be, that doll may fall into your future at some point anyway. I believe very strongly in karma and bothering someone for their beloved doll would probably put some bad karma on your record, which can't help.

 

Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

That strikes me as a very rude thing to do.

Would you as an owner report the person, or have your own way of dealing with it?

I would tell them: Not just no, but #$%^ NO. (I'm sure you can guess what word would is replaced by those symbols...)

 

I think it's a little rude to ask, even if the intention isn't necessarily evil or malicious. Whether or not I would report the person really depends on how they react when I decline the offer- if they continue to hound me about it, then I'll report them, but if they're cool and they back off after that point, then I see no reason to take it any further.

 

I think the person who's asking is answering their own question. If it's not for sale, then it's a no.
Depending on how they asked, I'd be humored if they were polite. If they were rude, well... I'd just say no.

 

I think it's a bit rude to ask out of nowhere, but considering the person may not know any any better, I would kindly direct them to the company who created my doll and let them know they can find their own there. If they continue to be pushy I would warn them and if it continues I might consider reporting the situation.

 

I do think it's rude if someone clearly says they are not selling it or is constantly putting up pictures or obviously showing how much they love the doll. I mean, you can see the person taking care of it and obviously enjoying their doll so why would it be for sale?

On the otherhand, I've seen saying they're selling a bunch of their dolls and just link to an album with all your dolls and there have been times where I've asked only to be yelled at as "that doll is obviously not for sale" And that is of course one of those instances where you really can't tell.

It definitely can be frustrating though. I've had people ask if they could buy my car as I'm driving it before. >_>

As for what to do, usually I'll just ignore the person or direct them...if they keep bothering me about it, then I'll usually report them.

 

I think tone is the key to something like this. If someone contacted me saying "I really love your doll. If you're ever selling it can you please let me know" I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. Some dolls are very hard to find, customs are clearly one of a kind and sometimes you just fall REALLY hard for a doll and would give your arm to own it. I understand that, and am not at all put out if anyone chooses to ask. Someone PM'd me about a doll I bought in the MP saying that they saw I bought it and if I ever wanted to sell it would I let them know because they had been trying to buy it also. I didn't mind that at all.
At the same time, if someone said "I'll offer you X amount for your doll" I would be a little irritated. That's different to asking to know if I ever choose to sell on my own accord.
Also, I had a doll for sale in the MP once, and got a PM saying "I'll buy your doll for X ($50 less than I was asking). Send me your paypal details and I will pay tonight. This is my shipping address" as a first communication. I found that SO rude that I ended up feeling so unhappy about the whole transaction.

It was mentioned that someone offered a doll for trade and the person replied saying "no, but I would trade for X". I don't find that particularly rude to be honest. You have every option of saying thanks but no, and I know from trades I have done someone will see something in your collection you haven't even considered offering for one reason or another, but when they suggest it, it's an idea you're really happy with. If I am offering a trade I'll offer a doll or two, but I realise that they might not like those dolls, and if I really want the trade I might need to consider others. It is easier to offer one doll and have them come back with "no, but I DO like these ones" than to list ALL my dolls or have them say no to what I offered and then find out they'd have taken a doll I hadn't thought to offer.

Does that make sense?

I will never be put out by someone asking politely about a doll that is not for sale/trade, but I will get offended every time by people who handle things rudely, whether it is for a doll in my collection or one I have for sale. I can't understand why others would be upset about a polite message. I know I have had a couple of really exciting trades come out of someone saying "well I DO like X doll that you have" and then things going from there.