Is it 'OKAY' to PM an Owner about Selling a doll they had NO intention to sell?

I'm a very hard person to offend so I wouldn't be offended by it but I do think it's pretty rude. Arashi I don't like people asking me for my things either, I had a neighbors grandaughter who would come over and she was always asking for mine or my daughters stuff... my home is no yard sale haha

Things like this is going to make some people not want to put up pictures, me personally, I have no problems saying, "no, mine!" but not everyone will feel comfortable doing that. It's against the rules, if they don't know then you let them know... if they persist then it's time to do something imo

 

I think it's really rude and a huge sign of arrogance, whether the 'buyer' in question thinks they are or not. It's my culture to hand over anything that someone else compliments, but lately I've had to change that, because online people never consider what might be custom for other cultures. Then again, I also find direct questions in real life to be very rude, but I'm trying to get over that, too. I find the people who "call first dibs" on a doll I own "just on the chance I ever sell them" to also be discourteous. I've had a lot of people call first dibs on the dolls I own (often the same doll), but they never consider if I don't want the doll to go to them or not. All I can do is smile strangely and be as vague as possible. I don't care if a doll is rare or not, don't do it.

 

since it is against DoA's rules to do it then it's not ok
ethically, I agree that it's not ok to PM an owner saying something like "I'd like to buy _____ for $____" and if I received such a PM I'd be offended but probably wouldn't report the person right away (I'd just reply saying no and that PMing such things is against DoA's rules), if they sent me another PM then I'd report them
if I got a PM saying something like "I really love ____ and if you ever want/need to sell them I'd love to give him/her a home" then I wouldn't be offended, wouldn't report the person and reply saying that I'm not looking to sell my doll but should I ever need to that I'll keep them in mind (actually a few years ago I got a PM from someone offering to sell their doll to me because they saw that she was on my wishlist, it was a very nice gesture and made me happy even if I couldn't buy her at the time)

 

I did not think it is okay. Because if an owner wants to sale his/her doll, the person will make a thread for it. Also ppl can make a WTB-thread if they are looking for a specific doll, so asking owners who did not post something about seeling a doll, asking for sale is very rude in my mind.

 

Eventually those girls learned their lessons when they tried to take one of my heirlooms and I nearly killed them both for it. They whined and one stormed out screaming but I told them off...In the end I grew a back bone out of it and one of the girls today is now my best friend...And she broke that bad habit.

 

Hmm, I think I find it more tacky than rude, personally, but that's probably because I don't seem to bond with my dolls quite as much as other people. I tend to resell things after a while, even things I was totally enamored with when they first arrived. I'm glad it's against the rules, because it's annoying and I can totally understand how some collectors would find it upsetting.

*Laughs* though the in-person equivalent is a much bigger pain in the butt, in my opinion. I live on a farm in the country, and every once in a while a complete stranger will pull into our driveway, knock on our front door, and ask to buy some random piece of equipment they spotted on our property. "Hello, I see you have a trailer. Can I buy it?!" "Um... no... we're kind of using that..." XD It's like anything they can spot from the road is somehow fair game. O.o At least emails/PMs are easier to ignore than someone on your doorstep.

 

Honestly, it isn't even just about the dolls, but the fact that someone's wanting something that you've no intention of giving up. Whether it's a doll or a kidney, coming right out and going "OHEY YOU'RE NOT USING THAT, RIGHT?!" is just horribly rude. As has been stated before, if someone wants to give something up, they'll offer it. Don't ask.

I was raised with the belief that you never invite yourself to something. Don't automatically assume someone's willing to part with something. Even if it's just sitting on a shelf, maybe it has sentimental value.

 

No its not okay and I am pleased the rules do not allow it and are there to protect us all. It is wonderful that owners are willing to share their dolls with us it would be a shame if they stopped doing this due to a minority who are embarrassing and annoying the owners to sell. I have also found with other things that some people who want to buy because its not for sale very rarely do buy when offered it. I'm so glad we have rules against it.

 

...seriously? If I don't put him/her up on the Marketplace, then he/she is not for sale. Simple as that. I'd appreciate a friendly compliment, but when it is paired up with an unprompted sales inquiry, it's just really odd.