Is your doll a shield for you?

No-one is being mean, some people are being realistic and others still are being supportive. This is a debate.
The wording went- "Deep deep down what reason are they in your life?... Are they really there just to look at?---or are they covering you too?" The last bit of which I think you'll find is causing the friction.

 

*shrug* So do I, but why fight fire with fire?

 

I hardly think that what I said in any way amounts to flaming the poster. But that aside, I've reported it. The mods can decide if they want to allow this sort of thing on the site or not.

Either way, I still find it rude and entirely inappropriate.

 

I agree with everything Brightfires touched on.

The original post felt to me like a poorly disguised, condescending religious suggestion...

 

Which is why my original statement wasn't directed to you in the first place. I don't have any problem with the way you stated your opinion. It was the person who decided to bring in the "Kool-Aid" reference.

 

"I learned I would much rather spend time with nature and my close friends with the same views on life...I'd rather have few things and be just filled with love than to have material objects that can not be taken with me to the next life."

I don't believe you will be able to bring nature or your friends or love into the next life, either..?

Frankly, it's annoying when people say things like, "don't need them to survive." Okay, you don't need a lot of things...are you going to give everything away to charity and eat out of a garbage can because that's the minimum of what you absolutely need to survive? No, you aren't. I will help others, and I will treat myself once in while.

Material does not equal bad.

 

To the OP: I am happy that you found a way to live your life in as fulfilling way as possible ^^ None of what I say in the following is meant to offend you - I think religion is a legit way to happiness, and actually, I am also religious, though probably in a different way than you. So rock on!

Here the debate part now:

My opinion on this is, that "God" can be a shield as well. And not in the biblical sense of "You are my shield". I just think that many people hide between hypocritical religiousness to be liked by others or to "have a right" to judge others. You don't need religion to survive, neither. It just makes life more pleasant and less scary... like dolls do.


How do your dolls make you feel?

I love to look at and touch beautiful things. So, I'd say, my dolls are a very pleasant experience.


Deep deep down what reason are they in your life?

They are a wonderful hobby. A hobby that fits my taste for a hobby perfectly. You can be creative with them, you can play with them like children do (I mean play pretend, or what it is called), if you have children, you can play with the dolls together with them, or you can simply sit and stare at them, and you can just forget them for a day or two if you feel like that. They are versatile; they are recreation.


Are they really there just to look at?---or are they covering you too

I like BJDs. And anime, manga, lolita, just like you used to; and many other things - RPG and tabletop games, PC games, nature, books, drawing, writing, and of course, my family and friends. I am religous, though not Christian or even monotheistic. And maybe one or two of these things act as a shield sometimes, on a bad day. But they don't do permanently.

I think everything we do can act as a shield against reality for a certain time of our life. It is when we begin to rely on one single thing to cover us when it becomes dangerous.

 

This topic is similar to this active debate thread - Do you feel that ABJD's compensate for something you don't have IRL?

Finding a new direction for oneself can be a positive and life-changing experience, and it is easy to see how we would want to share our new perspective with others - new perspectives and insights can feel exciting! However, Den of Angels isn't really the venue for a deep exploration of a personal choice, which choosing to forgo material objects and hobbies is.

Please remember that keeping a question specific but also general enough so that others can contribute with their own perspectives is key, and that controversial topics like religion, in this case, are discouraged.