Is your doll habit a dirty little secret?

The people that I spend the most time around all know about my Bjds. It isn't a secret that I have them, and I don't care if people know because I'm pretty weird, and it doesn't seem like an odd thing for me. I don't profess my hobby however, and most of the time, they never even come up with non doll friends. My mom has shown an interest, but only because I have an interest and I think she feels the need to. And one of my closest friends was the one who got me into dolls in the first place. I feel like as long as I have somebody close by who I can talk with about dolls, then I'm happy. It's not a secret, just not a commonly brought up subject.

 

Sadly, it is. My parents would kill me if they knew that I would spend so much on "toys", so I hide them. And live in fear when they visit that they may find them...

 

I generally only take my dolls outside when I'm going somewhere isolated or private, not because I'm embarrassed by them, but because I don't consider having them out in public safe. While most people are nice, there's always the risk you'll attract the attention of a jerk who sees something 'odd' and clearly fragile and damages it just to cause trouble. Or even just someone who is polite but clumsy, who might drop a doll or snap a finger off.

I don't keep most of my dolls out on display in my house, either. Mostly for protective reasons (Australia has higher UV ratings due to the damage to the ozone layer in our atmosphere, which makes Australian sunlight even more harmful for dolls than usual), but also because I don't want my living space to become completely dominated by my hobby. I own multiple 68cm+ dolls, so having them all out all the time would just be overwhelming.

 

My hobbie did used to be a secret, I hid it from everyone because I was scared of what people would say, but then one day every found out and they didn't care, so I am fully out in the open with it! And I couldn't be happier.

 

I finally came clean. He asked how long I was keeping that one and I had to tell him it was mine... I'm sure I'll get "the look" when the next one shows up XD

 

Yes! Well kind of, my goof friends have figured it out obviously. But I don't share pics on Facebook of my dolls. I don't know why. I guess I'm kind of afraid of annoying people. Or making them think I'm weirder than they already think I am! Lol


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I'm not big on attracting attention, and I am reluctant talking about them to other people apart from other BJD enthusiasts, I get that some people might not understand and think they're weird come to think I really don't talk about them to my family much apart from my mom. When I get my first girl I would love to go to a meet, maybe one day I can pluck up the courage!

 

More or less, my friends and family know me pretty well, I am a crazy My Little Pony collector and the few BJDs between them don't make a huge difference. My co-workers don't know about my hobby, I don't talk about it at work because there is no reason to do so and they wouldn't understand it. So yes and no

 

I am exactly this way. My friends and family know me and know the way I am but I don't talk about getting my doll at work. There is just no point since my boss just wouldn't understand it. Not that he would care, just wouldn't understand so what is the point?

 

It is for me. I don't feel guilty, but I'm not about to share my hobby; it just raises too many questions. When I told my first friend I ordered a doll, she started to explain how she knew this crazy girl who was addicted to dolls, kept buying them, went into debt, and said that other collectors were elitest and catty. For a few people, I believe, the hobby doesn't have a good reputation. The less questions, the better.

 

Yes, I have the same secret. LOL.

 

My hobbies aren't really a secret because I'm pretty much an open book whether I want to be or not. It's just habit for me to tell others about what I'm up to or if there's anything new. Even if I tried to keep this hobby a secret, everyone at work would find out because my older sister is my boss and she would tell everyone about my boy. She's terrified of him and tries to tell everyone how scary he is but I got the chance to bring him to my office and everyone loved him. I was able to have him sit out for others to see and when I put him away after lunch, some of them asked where he went. It was really cute.

 

When I first began this hobby no it wasn't-after the reaction I recieved from many non- doll collecting people. It has become a secret. Even my most closet friends know little or nothing about them- they know about the characters (since they have read my stories) but never have really seen them in person. I don't bring them up in conversations and if my close friends happen to I sort of glide over the subject.

 

to the general public, yes it's a secret...

my immediate family and my closest friends know about them of course, even a bit of my extended family, and then any friends i make through like the animanga and cosplay/convention scenes usually know about them unless it just never comes up, because i know those people will understand and not be weird about it

but peers/acquaintances i come into contact with on a daily basis, such as people who go to my school? nah, not gonna tell them about it.

i'm not ashamed of it or anything, i just don't want to tell those specific people about it. other than that if i deem someone cool enough to not be dumb about it or if we're close enough to share hobbies, i'll gladly tell them.

 

I'm not embarrassed of my dolls but I'm painfully shy and I don't like taking my dolls out in public when I'm not with other bjders or my family. I have no problem mentioning my dolls to anyone I meet but I've never felt the need to take my dolls everywhere I go and I really don't want to attract a ton of attention to myself when I'm out doing my own thing.

 

I have the same too ^^ But If we have the same secret, is that still a secret ?

 

My dolls aren't a secret . I don't go around telling everyone, but if someone asks me about my hobbies I don't mind telling them about my dolls. I also wouldn't hide them. I'd be a bit embarrassed to take them outside though, but that's because I'm a little insecure. Other than that I feel no shame, it's just part of who I am .

 

I know I posted in this thread before I got my doll, can't remember what I said but now that I have one.....

Is my doll a dirty secret? No....big huge no lol. She was shipped to my work, therefore my boss knows and then I couldn't resist posting pictures on facebook so now everyone I know, knows. I really couldn't care less what people think of me.

 

Nope, I talk about them all the time and even show them off via my cellphone. It's like I'm a proud parent or something. I see no real reason to hide them or keep them a secret. I'm at a age where I don't care what others think about my weird hobbies or what I do with my money.

 

I'm pretty open about them in conversation, I'm willing to talk to anyone about them if they ask what my hobbies are. But I'm not a big fan of taking them out in public. I don't really want the attention from strangers.

I have kept it secret from my mother so far though, but that's because I know she'll have the usual "you're wasting your money/I don't understand" reaction that a lot of parents seem to have in this community. I'll tell her eventually, when I'm ready. I'm not going to hide them from her if she comes over or anything, she'll find out then I guess.