Is your doll habit a dirty little secret?

Unfortunately, my fiance owns a couple of the most expensive BJDs in the house so has no illusions over the costs involved, and recognizes new ones that join he family so I can't even do what I do with fabric and other sewing stuff (sneak it in, add it to the stash and he has no idea when I come to use it if it's been there five years or five days).

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I agree with Lelite, I feel like hiding such a big expense and what is presumably an important hobby from one's partner isn't a good idea. I've always been up front with price of my dolls and many of the thier things (eyes, wigs, clothes, shoes etc) to my parents and my partner. My sister, who is also in the hobby, is the same way and I guess I just followed her lead with being open about it.

I've gotten the 'you could have spent that on something else' comments, but both my family members and my partner understand how much joy this hobby brings me. So if even it's expensive, I wouldn't feel right straight up hiding or misleading them about the cost.

 

My husband and i have a joint account, so I don't hide any of the prices from my husband ( I wouldn't dare/ couldn't get away with it). He and I usually discuss finances before any money passes. We both have our budgets, and we both talk with one another before we spend anything over $100. He's probably the only one who actually knows how much I spend on my dolls. He's also very supportive of the hobby, he surprises me sometimes.
My family gets a varied version of how much is spent though. Especially the in laws who seem to poke and nose about anything I buy period. Even if its a gift for the hubby. Thankfully, the hubby backs it all up, and tells anyone who asks that its no one else's business to know but ours, since its OUR money.

I agree with Lelite and FastFeet, best to be up front with a partner for a healthy relationship.



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I don't lie about how much things cost. I've learned long ago that lying is just too much effort.

 

My hubby and I don't have a joint account, but regardless I still keep him informed of my purchases. I might not tell him "hey, I'm thinking about dropping $900 in the current Fairyland event" and say instead "I really want two dolls from this event" but he's fully aware of how much the dolls cost. He sits with me sometimes when I make my mock shopping carts and agonize over what to buy and what not to buy. He's purchased dolls for me as Christmas presents before so he's under no delusions.

He has his expensive hobbies and I have mine. But neither of us makes large purchases without consulting the other and only after all the bills are paid, of course. It just works better that way for us!

 

I'm actually a very honest person, my family knows how much my hobby cost. My father especially always ask me how much I paid when I get something in the mail.
I don't feel the need to lie because for me buying a BJD for less than 300$ is a bargain, I'm not sure I told them how much a minifee costs though but that was more of an omission XD (always wanted a minifee)

I often ask my father about costs, shippings and taxes because he works at customs. I remember that when I did the Leeke group orders the courier didn't even bring it home, but to his office because they know each other XD

 

lol, I love this topic.

My SO is aware of how much I spend on this hobby, but he's okay with it. It means that I can't give him crap when he wants to buy fun but expensive hobby things for himself!

My parents have seen my dolls from time to time, and I definitely downplay them then. My go-to answer is usually "$100," because it's enough to make my dolls seem high-end and collectible, but not enough to raise eyebrows.

 

I love this topic too haha

I had kind of a hard convincing myself that it is okay to have dolls as an adult. My best friend always wants to know how much I spend on everything. And she always raises her eyebrows when I finally tell her. But I actually don't want to tell anyone, since they don't understand. My sister is okay with it. My mum is okay with it, but I would never ever dare to tell my dad. And I hope my mum will never tell him. It took me half a year to tell my boyfriend what I like, and it will probably take one more year to show it to him.

Yes I think dolls are my dirty little secret, but I think there are worse hobbies

 

It was, but I'm a little more open about it now. I keep it among family and my crafting friends. No one else really needs to know....

 

Personally I really don't care what people think when I take my dolls out in public, or if my friends or coworkers think its weird. I have taken a doll head to my job once to let a friend of mine see it (shes into dolls as well) and if others wanted to see it I would show them too. Some were creeped out some thought it was cool, the way I see it is if I have to tolerate your child you can buck up and deal with my hobby.

 

Bahaha. That's a good way to look at it -- I'm in the "Oh god, WHY did you bring your newborn/toddler to the office?!" camp. At least our dolls don't run around shrieking and don't require constant supervision, food, and entertainment. And, we can fit them inside our purses!

I've gotten a bit more open about my doll collecting. I'm an adult, with my own house/job/life three states away from where I grew up -- and it's been more than a decade since I moved away from home -- so there's really no need for me to tell anyone about it unless I feel like it. However, of course my partner knows about my collecting, and he's cool with it. A few weeks ago, I took a big step and told my dad. He was generally pretty supportive and seemed interested, although I could tell he found it just slightly weird. He at least had the good grace not to ask how much my dolls cost (because it's honestly none of his damn business, lol).

 

No, I collect comics and figures and anyone can see this as soon as they step into my room. I don't hide this, so I don't feel the need to hide my doll either.

 

I would say I'm a bit embarrassed to have dolls sometimes because I also have other dolls aside from bjds. I try not to spend too much, but sometimes I accidentally splurge. I feel guilty about "wasting money", but my dolls and their items are one of the few things that make me happy.

 

Great topic. No hiding here. My dolls are displayed at home and I get every question but rarely how much they cost.

 

I don't think I'd be able to keep dolls a secret, not when my room is bursting with anime figures and merch already. I'm clearing off a shelf to display my dolls whenever they arrive, so they'll be part of the big, crazy mix too. (I'm going to do my best to make them stand out, of course.) When anyone asks how much they cost, I just say 'a lot.' Followed by 'layaway.'

 

For me, I guess it is although I don't see whats so dirty. I don't plan on actively hiding my hobby but I won't tell anybody, if they see them or find out I'm not going to deny it but I see no reason to tell. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I know that. Yet I also know how many people will and do interpret it, they openly and proudly assume we are immature or strange and.....well.... nobody got no time for dat. Is it normal to want to have tiny people who you dress up takes photos of and play with?.... How should I know ... I just know what makes me happy and I don't want to have to explain or justify it.

 

Well, since i live alone i don't have to hide anything, but if someone asks me i keep it very confident about prices, so i just lie to myself XD

 

I don't keep my dolls a secret, I like talking about them. However, I do try to be discreet and not flaunt them for personal reasons.

 

Right? It would be impossible to do. XD

A lot is a nice one, though I am also fond of, "I can't remember."

 

Well, when my doll does come in I don't think I would be embarrassed or secretive. Plus, I'm known to carry off topic dolls around with me anyways xD But to be honest it sort of helps that I look fairly young.