Mothering instinct?

Thats so cute to me. Dont feel bad I'm the same. My daughter (bjd) is the world to me.

 

Filling the mother child gap can be a reason to get anything. It doesn't have to be dolls. It could be a puppy or a kitten or whatever. But since dolls are so much looking like humans, people often think that must be the whole reason behind it.
I'm in my early 20s and I often get the comment that I have pets and dolls, when am I going to get my first child for the dolls?
If I really wanted a substitute for a child, I'd get a baby born or such. because those dolls can do the same as babies do: almost nothing!

 

..... *cracks up laughing*

I hate kids. I'm not nurturing at all. I hate dogs as pets cuz they're too damn dependant. I can't even stand my own cats sometimes, specifically around food time when they bother me.

No. Nope link at ALL. Least for me.

 

I have absolutely NO desire to ever be a parent. To be perfectly honest, the thought of actually having kids makes me feel physically ill. I'm far too much of a loner and I don't like to be constantly bothered; I get irritated too easily. Needless to say, I'm not a pet person either (and never mind the fact that I'm terribly allergic to most furry critters).

I love my dolls to pieces, but I don't (and never will) see them as being my 'children'. At least, not in the way that's implied in this particular topic. I don't even possess any 'mothering instinct', so...

 

Nah.
Trust me. I'm way too young for marriage and/or kids, but I do work at a nursery.
And it is COMPLETELY different to have maternal instincts for living babies than cooing over resin babies.
I love children. This is probably the reason I have a preference for childish dolls.
But I have lots of friends who absolutely hate/do not like/ have no feelings for/ are bad with children and babies, but love babyish and childish sculpts.
They just have a love for cute things.
My friend Lucy is absolutely TERRIFIED of children. She thinks they are cute, but she feels like she will break them if she touches them. She also has no maternal instincts whatsoever. However, she dotes over the little baby-like BJDs that she sees, but this is just because of their chubby cute faces, tiny bodies, or big eyes. Trust me, it's not the mother/child gap thing.

 

Hm, that´s a good question. Maybe yes, because when you don´t have children and feels your biological clock tick, than you can chose a bjd to be your child. But I think it´s mostly a choice you chose for you.
It´s in the nature of human to care for small and sweet thinks. A lot of people have dogs or horses to be their children replacement.
For my self, I´m at the beginning of 30 and with no partner, my doll is no replacment for a child. I have a lot of friends with children and this is a hole other thing to care for real children than a bjd.

 

From the extreme fascination and tenderness with which I handled my friend's first bjd, I almost did feel some sort of maternal instinct. However, I've always had this; my stuffed animals, dolls, etc, would be loved and treated like gold. I still have mint stuffed animals from the very early 90's. ^w^

 

I love dolls for their artistic endless possibilities and that fun little what-if that intellectually I know is not true. What if -- The possibility that they are somehow sentient beings. I like them to be dolls, not children.

But my cat, he might be the baby in my family.

 

Interesting question.

I can't really speak for others, but it does make sense. I've read some opinions and stories from others that would seem to suggest that, at least in some cases, dolls are a way to cope with a maternal instinct.

However, for me I'd say definitely not. I dislike children for the most part, but I'm undecided about having them. I'm in an awesome, healthy, steady relationship with a guy who understands and generally shares my opinion of kids. Going along with that, I don't care for childlike dolls at all, and especially not babyish ones! They're just not my thing. I don't care much for the hunky men either, but I don't have an odd recoil reaction when I see them, as I do with some tinies. No offense to anyone, I can enjoy most any doll in the right circumstances, I'm speaking on a purely personal level.

However, what is interesting is that, before I met my boyfriend, I had sort of lost interest in my dolls. I had other things going on in my life, but not so many things that I had zero time for dolls. But when my boyfriend came into the picture I got back into the hobby because it was something he and I could do together, and it was a lot different than the other activities we usually share (movies, books, games). Now we can make clothes and accessories together and bounce character ideas off each other.

I don't think this is an example of him and I lamenting the fact that we haven't reproduced yet. We don't so much dote on the dolls. Rather, we use them as an excuse to be craftier than we would usually be. I think it's more of a bounding experience for us, and not filling in a parental desire. But who knows... It can be hard to say exactly why we do the things we do.

Good topic! This got me thinking.

 

I don't like real kids. They're kind of annoying.

But Imelda doesn't cry, yell, throw tantrums, or break anything, so she's okay by me. She's also perectly fine with me dressing her up, because hey, she's a doll.

As a kid who was subjected to many an ugly dress and hair-perming, I'd never inflict that sort of nonsense on anything sentient.

 

As a 15 year old with a doll that, according to the company, is supposed portray a 17 year old girl, I can't say I feel too maternal toward her. She's more my friend. ^^
I'm not particularly attracted to tinies, but I'll see if that changes as I get older (and more maternal?).

 

THIS.

I have ZERO interest in children and to be honest, I just can't stand to be around them and don't like them. I'm 20 now and have felt the same since I was a child so I don't really see this changing all that much. As far as a mothering instinct towards kids goes, I don't have one.
That said, I have a serious mothering instinct towards animals, I just want to care for them and protect them

Dolls I adore but not as a mother, more as a friend. Arguably they're the best kind of kid though, no tantrums, no mess...yup, I love my dollies!

 

I hate children. XD

But I do like helping people, and caring for them, etc. So I definitely see a relation. Maybe not "mothering" but instead "caring for."

 

One of my dolls is an adult man and the other is a cat so I guess they have nothing to do with children It's more about loving cats and an old wish to play with male dolls (I had only female dolls when I was a child)

 

For me, I'd say no.
I have a huge interest in havind children in the near future, and the dolls just doesn't cut it, hah.
I have the dolls more to make clothes, face ups and take pretty pictures. But I think that there's more people out there who have the same mothering instinct as you do (like people and their pets).

 

While I'm a little awkward around children, I still like them but I think I see the dolls differently. I also don't have a mothering instinct to my doll because his character is older than I am.

 

No. Dolls are objects, and children are humans. If I would have feelings toward object what suppose to be toward human at the first place, I suggest, there's something funny goes on with me and I should reconsider my priorities and work on my points of view. But I don't have such feelings, and have no idea why would I have them.

 

Considering that the allure of BJDs for me is their ability to be customized, to pick out their wigs, outfits, mod their faces and bodies, etc., it would be really weird if I thought of this as 'mothering.' I'd never want to put a kid through that, it'd be like Toddlers and Tiaras. I do have very strong maternal instincts, (I want a horde of children and many of my friends call me 'mom') but BJDs don't fill that role for me. They fulfill my creative/express needs instead.

 

Mothering instinct... I do not think my dolls came at me because of it)
Although I personally know of several people. for which the dolls - it's something like a child)
For me, it's rather good friends and a facility for creativity)

 

I think the reason a lot of women think of their dolls as their children is because when most girls are very young, they are given baby dolls. They are taught how to take care of babies while they are children, and I think that kind of carries on into adult hood.