Never taking your dolls out again..

My question: Did you know the buy was a doll-hater before handing him the puki? I know of some people who highly dislikes BJD, and I wouldn't dream of letting them hold one of my dollies...

As for a story, I don't usually take my dolls out, because I haven't had any good reason, and I'm pretty paranoid about them getting damaged in any way.

I've taken Xionesse and Seph (the soon-to-be-Sephiroth, I mean ) once out, as soon as I received them, to show them to a friend of mine (also a collector). We were outside seeing them with natural light (not direct sun), when an ex-friend of mine appeared and came to say hello (still don't know why). I got really nervous, because she inmediately noticed the dolls, and called them with a slang term, widely used here at home to design them by people who own BJD. Seeing as how our friendship stopped because she didn't want to talk to me for three months with no reason (she later came up with a lame excuse that I didn't buy and she stopped talking altogether), I was worried she might "attack" the dolls. Yes, I'm paranoid...

Fortunately, nothing happened, but I didn't stop being worried until we were inside again.

I'm planning to take one of my dolls to a convention in late october. I'm worried about it, because I've got to take either a train or a bus, for five to six hours. I'm still trying to decide. I know of people who has gone to the same convention I'm going with their dolls, with no problem, so...

 

I saw that you posted this on youube, under a box opening!
I'm bunnyfist!
But anyway, with friends like that, you need to learn how to kick some ass!
OMFG, the worst is that someone at my new school took off Duchess top and showed her nipples to the hole class. = 3="
Ugg, teenager boys.

Now as for the topic, I won't be afraid to do ANYTHING, just because of a few un-respectful jerks. That's just showing them they have some sort of power over you!

 

I don't really take my dolls out in the first place. I don't like having extra things to carry with me, so unless I am doing something specifically doll-related, like attending a meetup, visiting a friend who owns dolls, or taking pictures of the dolls, they stay at home. I worry about damage. I don't own any purse-sized dolls, but if I did I would not carry them in my purse just for the sake of doing so. I wouldn't want my keys to scratch them, a pen to mark them, or to get wigs or outfits caught on anything. If the doll was well-wrapped to protect from damage, I couldn't really see it anyway, so I'd rather keep it at home.

However, I did recently decide that there's a doll of mine I won't be bringing out of the house except for special events. I have an SD and an MSD, and I discovered that the SD is just too large for me to carry around comfortably. I brought her to a meetup that involved some walking about, and within a few minutes I wanted to pack her up in the bag and leave it at that. From now on, only the smaller doll comes with to events unless there's a specific reason to bring the other doll.

 

That guy s*cks! I'd like to punch him in the face and give him a kick in the groin for you and Desmond! How can he ever do it to a doll, not to mention, somebody else's doll! Well, I don't think I'll stop bringing out my dolls in fear of their safety but I'll definately not allow anyone to hold or touch them easily.

 

As much as I love my dolls, I never take them out in public unless there's a meet going on. Most people just don't understand why an adult would carry a doll around, and I'd rather not attract that kind of negative attention to myself.
Though if I ever were out and about with one of my dolls, it's likely my girlfriend would be there with me, and if anyone insulted me or damaged the doll, she'd be the one raising hell. She's more protective of my dolls than I am (granted that's not saying much considering I've back-handed one of my boys off a desk to prove he wouldn't break).

Now then, we're talking about places you'd never take your dolls again because of bad experiences. In that case, I'd have to say Washington DC. I didn't exactly have any sort of traumatic experience with my doll there, but it was crowded with tourists and there was a lot of walking in the heat involved. Not exactly sure why I had the balls to carry a doll around in such a place back then either... Something awful could have happened. o-o;

 

No, I haven't had any experiences that make me think I will never take my dolls out again. I have had instances where I have decided not to take dolls to certain events again, but not to decide never to take them anywhere. While I respect that people have fears, disinterests or dislikes of certain things, I'm of the opinion that aside from a fear, I should be allowed to indulge in what I enjoy. If they don't have an interest in it, then they don't have to look at it, touch it, or pay attention to it. They aren't there for the amusement of the people around me, but for me because they make me happy.

In preparation for taking them anywhere, I try to bear in mind the conditions I'm looking at bringing them into though. I won't take them if I can't handle carrying them for the duration of the event, or if conditions aren't going to be good. I have, however, carried one of my boys during a craft show to the intrigue of several of the guests. I've also taken them to the movie theatre, to work on a regular basis, and to a busy convention - if I got tired of carrying them or the conditions were too crowded, I simply slipped the doll into my well padded camera case. I take them with me to doll meets, but if I have to leave the area, I make sure they are left with someone I trust, or are in my immediate site. If neither option is available, I either suck it up and stay where I am, or I take the doll(s) with me.

It's awful what he did, but I don't think it should totally throw you off taking your doll with you if you really want to. I just think you have to take into account any possibilities that might happen and be comfortable with any risk that's involved. I'm ok with rubbed/scratched faceups because for the most part, I do my own. And most damage is fixable in one way or another. Lost parts on the other hand would make me really angry, so I avoid taking Icarus out with all his fantasy parts unless I carry them seperately and only take them out for pictures. And that guy? Yeah, I would have thrown him over the fence to get my doll.

 

Oooh my god you just made me feel the need to cuddle my SD!!
I couldn't imagine any of my friends being that horrible! I let a lot of people hold my dolls, but I first make sure that they know not only the general value of the doll, but also how much it means to me. I couldn't imagine letting a stranger hold my dolls.. I don't even know how I'd react to that!! In all honestly I'd probably be crying and beating him up at the same time!!! ><

No one should treat someone elses property like its nothing!! Weather it be a barbie doll or a $1000 doll... It means something to someone. :/ I just don't understand how people can be THAT f****d up that they can take someones possession and THROW IT in a conscious effort to BREAK it!! Who does that?????!

 

Just listening to your story makes my blood boil.

Grrrrrr... Glad your doll wasn't hurt. ^^

Hmm, I think if anyone said something really hurtful about my doll I would keep him home. =/ I know I shouldn't let other people's comments affect me, but they just do. ^^

 

I haven't had any moments like that, myself, but that's mainly because I'm paranoid and won't let anyone touch my doll other than other doll people (like my best friend who actually asked my permission to try posing him or do anything other than holding him to test his weight) and my husband/other family that I know won't hurt him.

That's horribly immature what he did, though. Like others have said, I wouldn't stop taking him out, I just wouldn't hand him over to anyone that asked. I don't care if it was a doll you got at the dollar store, it belongs to you and other people should respect that. And I would be pissed at my friend for acting like it was my fault by saying not to bring him out anymore. I'd probably say something like, "Maybe I won't bring YOU out anymore!" Immature, I know, but I tend to lash out.

Frankly I'd rather continue to bring my doll out in public and hang out with friends that are supportive of my hobby than lock my doll away like some dirty secret just to hang out with a friend who yells at ME when HER BOYFRIEND treated something that meant a lot to me recklessly. If my boyfriend did something like that to a friend, I'd be mortified and make HIM go get it and apologize.

 

no one touches my dolls, someone did try and pull down my pants when I was in grade 8, I ran after him, picked him up and threw him in a garbage can
when he got out I proceeded to kick him many times

 

Reading your story made me wish I was there to mug him for financial compensation, should anything have happened. But nothing did, and I'm glad that you were the better man by not reacting to his insensitivity.

I haven't ever come across the "they will never leave my house" thought. I only take my dolls out to meets, vacation, and if I want to do an outdoors photoshoot. Otherwise, they stay home, so nothing particularly happens. I've had terrible experiences with people reacting poorly to my dolls but the only thought that comes to my mind is "no one will touch them without my permission anymore".

 

I get paranoid when I take them out. But I still do. I enjoy taking them places and have yet to have any bad experiences that made me change my feelings on that. Yes, not everyone is pleased to see an adult woman with a doll. But generally I get odd looks or interested questions. People generally are curious. Taking them out shakes things up a bit, makes an otherwise normal day unusual for those who run into me and my dolls. I do take precautions though. I don't hand them over to anyone unless I know they'll be safe (ie trusted doll person or friend), if I put them down they stay right with me, like in a shopping cart of beside me on a table. I don't see a reason to not do something just because someone else might think its not normal for me to do it.

 

...What???

That's so mean and disrespectful! I would have made him go over the fence and get the doll! And if the doll had any damage done on it, I would make him pay for replacement parts! I can't believe that someone could/would do that.

I have only taken my doll out once, and when I got to the location I got scared and kept her in the trunk. I'm very cautious about bringing her anywhere. I'm still cautious about touching her and having other people hold her. I require the washing of hands before handling her, and I do not let people touch her face at all. She's my first doll, so she is important and special to me. I think I will always be overprotective of her, and any other doll I get in the future.

 

Wow, I'm so sorry this happend to you. What an idiot...people are so thoughtless.

 

btw; i dnt think the guy has a fear of dolls, if he had, he would not have held it in the first place,
My guess, he was just after attention. heck maybe knew the doll was more man then he ever would be, so tried to lose the competition T__________T

 

Im a dude. Im totally against dudes receiving nutshots for any reason, but that guy deserves one. Maybe 3 or 4 actually. Hope nuthin badly happened to your puki. As for never taking mine out, nah. I love showing off my boys, however i am very mindful of not letting people randomly touch them (they can only be held where they are clothed) and only if i can see that they understand that its a very peculiar doll. =)

 

I take my dolls out to meets and sometimes my friend and I will take our dolls out and about shopping or to lunch. But I never let anyone other than another doll owner touch my dolls. I'm too afraid someone will be careless with them without knowing the cost of the doll, never mind the emotional value.
As for the nut job who tossed the poor Puki over the fence, I think my rage at that action would have given me the super strength needed to toss his sorry self over that fence.