Never taking your dolls out again..

Wow sorry to hear that. If that happen to me I would be soo mad. I only brought my doll to school twice. I only let my trusted friends hold the doll

 

That is absolutely horrible! How someone could do that to another person's possession, especially an expensive one, is beyond me. I hope you gave him a stern talking to.

I guess I'll only bring my dolly out with people who understand how important she is.

 

Oh.. Just, oh god! The first two stories were so horrible! DX
I think I'll still take my doll out whenever I want to, though. I'll let my friends hold them, too, because they're people who understand to act properly. I'll take my Näri to school as soon as I get her. But mine is an arts school, where people are generally accepting and nice. I wouldn't let anyone I don't know/like hold her, but I'd love to tell people about BJDs, and let them adore her Because it's such a shame to just keep them locked inside! >A<

 

I've not had such a moment for any of my dolls so far, then again I haven't brought them out all that often.

I'm a pretty paranoid person when it comes to other people touching my stuff. All throughout middle school I had one of those hard plastic pencil cases (the ones that were a semi-clear plastic and the lid was a different color than the bottom, they were really popular at the time, I think Staples and OfficeMax still carry them) and other kids would walk up to me and take crap out of it without even asking me in the first place if they could borrow it, like I was some community pen lender. And this was just middle school. High school was pretty bad too, kid's trying to yank keychains off of my backpack, kicking my stuff and other such behavior like that. Luckily I got into dolls towards the end of my senior year, and was wise enough to never ever bring them to school.


Now some dolls I'd be even more paranoid to bring out than others. Like if I ever had a tiny doll like a Puki, I'd NEVER bring it out more out of fear of losing one of those small magnetic parts or misplacing it itself than I would out of worry what someone else might do to it. I'd actually be more comfortable bringing out a larger doll because it'd be harder to lose parts for, and it'd be a little harder for someone to just yank out of my hands and throw it as well, I would think. If something like that DID happen, depending on the doll and where I was I might think twice about bringing that doll back there again.

On the note of saying the price or handing a bill to the person who threw the doll in the OP's situation, I think that if he was going to be immature enough to do that kind of thing, chances are he'd probably say something to the extent of "You got ripped off." and would have done it anyway.

 

Oh man... how absolutely horrendous! Poor dollies! :'( People can be so freaking mean and rude! It shouldn't shock me at the base of humanity. It really shouldn't.

I've had valuable books/textbooks destroyed by people who didn't like me as I was a book worm and did NOT like the social aspect of public school. I've had items stolen, things damaged, and I've been pushed down the stairs at my high school. Lessons learned and further avoided. None of this compares to the fact that should anyone damage any one of my dolls maliciously, they're dead.

I knew a person who didn't particularly like me want to see Lyr (SD Leeke Heero). Before I handed him to her, I looked her straight in the eye and said: I have an itemized bill concerning his price, the price of his clothing and shipping. Should you damage him, you damned well better believe I'll see you in court. Worked like a charm. Seems she did have brains after all.

 

I would slap your friend's ex and your friend for sure. Even though they do not like dolls does not mean that they can do this kind of things. I would not only feel super offensive but also furious. Fortunately your doll is ok. If anything wrong happen to it, you should fight for it. Your are the doll's only protector. Cheer up. You can definitely bring the doll out and have fun for sure. Just be careful and keep in mind who is going with you.

 

luckily, situations like this never happened to me before...or else I might end up locking my dolls inside my room

 

I KNOW this is not as bad at all compared to what everyone is saying here, but Eh. The other day I went to a Best Buy....

So. Everything was great, and this one employee randomly went up to me. First she said that she loved my outfit, and then started rambling about how she loved my doll. Okay, this isn't the first time I have gotten this.

But then she started like, poking at his face. T///T Told her to stop but she didn't listen and did it again later. T///T She was also touching his hair. And I was soooooo erked by this. So I just said I had to leave and I left. I am so relieved that he is fine though.

.....on a brighter note she said "Hey, I'm surprised that she doesn't have any boobs." I laughed and then awkward silence.....".....it's a boy." That was awwwwwkward.

((Oh I still take him out with me though. Just will be more uh...assertive to say the least.))

 

didn't have anything like the doll being taken but I had a friend who has now moved.Say if she was ever left a long with a doll she like to smash it with a hammer. I think she even ask if I would let her have a doll to smash. I of course said not and told her if she ever thought of doing that she be buying me a whole new doll.

 

How did you NOT punch him? I second it- you should have punched him in the dick! D: I would have! You have some serious self control, my friend!

But this is exactly why I'm hesitant to take my doll outside. I've read other horror stories about people doing terrible things to people's dolls. I imagine if it happened to be I'd have several arrests on record... <w<;

 

This reminds me of something... Once, when I was a little girl, I was carrying a stuffed cat around. I was dragged to a boy scout event with my older brother, and one of his friends kept bugging me about the cat. Now, I was about seven, which is a pretty appropriate toy-carrying age, and he was about, what, thirteen? At one point he asked to see the cat, and I let him have it, and he threw it. Nothing happened to it, I just went and picked it up and gave him a "what-the-hell" look.

People, they are weird.

But more on topic, I've only had good experiences when taking dolls out. The only place I take them is Otakon. The reason it works well is because I'm so careful about it. My rules are to only have one doll when I go, so I can keep tabs on it easily. I hold it the whole time and secure all the accessories. When people ask about it, if they seem nice I dump the doll into their hands, then I just take it back when I'm ready to move on. I've had only positive experiences with this. Sometimes I guess really strange stuff happens, but if you only take your dolls to doll friendly places, always only carry one so your attention isn't divided between dolls, and use good judgement, nothing bad will happen. Barring extreme circumstances, you are responsible for the well being of your property. People can be awful and we all know it, so we have to act accordingly.

And if something bad happens, violence is not the answer, both ethically (well, that's how I feel) and logically. It's a lot easier to prove that you've decked someone than it is to prove that they've harmed your property. The person can deny that they broke your doll, but if your knuckles are torn up and their face is battered, you look pretty suspect, lol!

But all that said, I feel really bad for everyone who has had bad stuff happen to their dolls D: That sucks.

 

Sounds like you learned a precious lesson! It is a multifold one.

(a) Never bring your valuable items near jerks.

(b) In fact, don't even bring valuables near places you know might contain high concentrations of jerks. It's not worth your time & blood-pressure. High schools and football games are both, separately, jerk-heavy environments; a football game at a high-school qualifies as a war-zone. Hostile Territory. Ditto malls, food courts, cinemas, heavy metal concerts, car races, and martial-arts expos.

(Of course you can still love/attend all of these things even if they do attract jerks; you just need to accept the reality that you can't have nice things there. I adore metal shows, & attend them frequently, but I'd sooner eat Drano than bring a doll with me.)

(c) If a boy ever asks to see your toys, say No, because he will throw it or break it.


Now you know. And knowing is half the battle.

 

Wow, I'd totally sue anyone who would harm my dolls like that. I'm always careful on who I let touch my dolls. When I was at Doll North in Toronto this May, I was waiting in line for the doll marketplace to open with my 13 year old godson, I held Marina and I let him hold Violet. But he was having major issues on how to hold Violet, and I'm like be careful her wig can come off!!! So in the end I grabbed Violet and let him hold Marina who is lighter and smaller and easier to manage as her hair is attached to her head.

 

I haven't had this experience, but then I've only taken dolls out for doll-related events and very rare photoshoots. Other posters have expressed much my own philosophy: I'm not going to take an expensive and - more importantly - emotionally precious doll out into public without a specific doll-oriented goal in mind. I want to focus on what I'm doing and not be worried about that doll, which I do even when I'm at doll events. Also, I'm a snobby geek. I like to be my geeky or BJD-collecting self around others who understand, not just anybody .

And seriously, responding with actual violence wouldn't teach the offender any lessons if you were the one to get arrested for assault and s/he just got a few bruises, except that you can get somebody else in trouble by messing with their stuff.

 

I know the post is old but...That's just horrifying O.O!!! If someone ever did that to my dolls, I would just rage on and on. I haven't owned my two boys for very long but, to me, they are like members of the family. Anyone who disrespects a family member deserves a good scolding and a reminder of what could have possibly happened, not to mention the cost of the doll(s). As other said, I'm surprised that you showed so much restraint. I would have gone off on the jerk until he reached the point of sitting in a corner to cry and feel guilty about what he did >_>. Very happy nothing happened to your little sweet one.

 

I personaly haven't had a bad experiance bringing a doll out into public...
the only times I have brought a doll out is with my small doll at school for an art project, and for a presentation on dolls in my Japanese class
A couple girls in the Jap class were interested and asked questions. But were very nice and respectful, they didn't touch him until I offered to let them hold him. And once they were done looking they handed Kell back, thanked me and went back to their seats...
All the boys in the class were freaked out at the other dolls I had for examples so I didn't let them within 2 feet of Kell.
LE dolls + Teenage boys = warning & stern look from me.
All-in-all a pretty good experiance, but I would continue to plan ahead for any time I take out a dolly. 'Specialy in places with lots of people.

 

First thing's first: know who you're hanging out with before you bring your dolls along. If you know someone will be there who you don't know, don't take your dolls with you - I hear a lot of stories where friends of friends have taken and done things with people's dolls, and some of those things have been kind of costly. I'd suggest talking about them, and showing them pictures, and gauging their reactions. If you feel like you can trust them, bring your dolls next time; if not, then don't. If your friend asks why, you tell them that you don't feel comfortable with them near your dolls.

You take a risk when you take something that expensive out with you. Emma has only been out twice, because I'm just way too scared to risk something so expensive being damaged if I tripped or dropped her. The safest thing for me to do is to not take her out at all. If anyone decided to sue anyone, you will be asked why you'd take something so fragile/expensive out, knowing it could get damaged. You'd still probably win if you can prove that person damaged your doll, but you might also get a little scolding.

Second, I did have a very odd time taking Emma out for the second time. I was doing a presentation, and I somehow brought her wig, but left her head-cap at home, thus she had to go wigless - and people all seemed to think it all was bizarre. I was embarrassed, of course, and told myself I wasn't going to bring her out anymore (at least for a while). The semester was ending the day after that, so didn't need to worry.

 

Yeah you friend's ex is a big jerk, just reading that was awful! I say never speak to that person again! It shows a total lack of remorse, compassion, and respect for a fellow human being! People can be so awful sometimes.

But know that, that person is the exception not the norm. Most people aren't that degenerate to do something so heinous.

Seriously, that's why I bought a pair so steal toe boots and pepper spray!

 

^True, but at the same time, you can't assume that new people will be kind and courteous. While it might be a little tedious, I go by the rule of 'everyone's suspect' until I get a good feel for their personality. You can't blindly trust someone, thinking that they will be considerate. That, in my opinion, makes you extremely vulnerable to people who might be inconsiderate.