Omg... I actually got PERMISSION!

hmm.. my mother's viewpoint on BJDs...

i'm an adult (well, recently turned adult... im so young x__x) , so i figure i should be allowed to buy whatever i want (well, things that arent bad ) with my money.

...nope.

my mother is really against the idea of me getting a BJD because they're just an 'expensive dust collector'.
she hasn't forbidden me from buying one or anything that serious yet, she just doesn't like that i'm saving every penny for something 'stupid' like a 'doll' .

im heading to university next fall, so i might pull the "i'm going to be lonely" excuse to make her change her mind.

my mother's never really been supportive of ANY of my hobbies though.... she always sees them as a waste of money/time/whatnot, so i dont really take it as an insult.

i'll have enough money for my first BJD in a week or so... the usual arrival is something like 2weeks-2months... so i'll have some time to come up with the excuse of a giant package coming to the door... buwhahahaha!

 

Oh congratulations ^^

My newest doll arrived...yesterday, actually XD I thought dad would be totally against it but he was even nice enough to take me to customs and pay for 1/3 of the customs charge for me when I didn't have enough ;__;
Sometimes parents just surprise you like that ♥

 

my parents were totally against it when I first told them that I wanted to get a doll (even though I had saved up the money myself and was not asking them to pay for it at all)
but now a few years later I asked and it's like my mom completely forgot about me asking the first time and said yes and now I have my girl! ^^

 

My mom had first looked at them and said that they were creepy, but I explained that I wanted to get different sizes to have as models in my shop, and now she's OK with it... My dad is glad that I enjoy them, and I am able to have them to sew clothes for! My parents are really understanding, and they don't really care what I spend my money on, as long as I earn it!

 

My mom freaked out when I bought my first doll, mostly because I paid so much for it (sadly, I hadn't done my research and overpaid). But after talking to her for a while, she seemed to accept my new obsession. Your idea seems pretty good. I might have to try that.

 

My parents didn't care, but I'm too old for them to have any say in it. I was really surprised though when my Dad wanted to make me things for them. His project? A bar so they could hang out and drink!

 

My parents don't understand them (they don't particularly -like- them at all either, according to them it's still a "waste of money") but they've put up with it, so it could definitely have been worse!

 

Even though I paid for it myself, my parents, or my mother at least (my dad was surprised, but got over it in all of 30 seconds and ignored it from there since it was my money), was defiantly upset that I spent so much money on a doll. She doesn't quite grasp the concept and kept asking if I wanted an expensive doll why not get an American girl doll

However, I think she'll warm up to the idea once she meets my doll in person, since she has a particular love of dressing things up (and at the moment has no female grandchildren to do so with). I'm hoping that aspect of the hobby will win her over, or at least get her to a little more accepting of it.

 

Woot! Congrats!

My mom doesn't like me buying dolls, cosplays, costumes, etc. She's against me buying anything, really.
And whenever I say "oh, I cant do this with you today because I don't have any money", she'll respond "But you can afford a $600 doll?"
As long as I have my bills paid for, saving for a doll [or other things that I want] shouldn't be of her concern. Besides, they're prettyyyyy.

 

wow. This thread really makes me appreciate the fact that my mom's into dolls too ;A; albeit, they're not the same types of dolls (where I like BJDs, she likes antique french dolls), but she understands the want to put down big bucks on a dolls and accessories, etc. So she was fine with my first doll purchase, my Pipos Charlotte, but recently I've been considering buying a much bigger doll, and I haven't brought up that aspect of my desire yet, and I'm not sure how she'll react exe;

 

My parents don't really understand them all that much but they will sometimes listen to me talk about them if it rolls around to that. I never really asked for permission though; I saved up my money and ordered my first and that was it, and it's been the same with my other ones as well. They just put up with the fact I was collecting dolls after that xD; I think they don't really care what I buy as long as I save up to afford it myself and don't ask for money left right center -and to my defense I've never done this, not even once, to this date.

 

Haha that got a little chuckle out of me xD although that is really unfortunate ._. .....

My parents were against it for about 2 years then after some serious eye rolling they finally let me get one for christmas =P woot!

 

I'm very lucky in the fact my grandmother understands, and my grandpa just chooses to stay out of it.

The deal is as long as I don't use my University student loan for it and I'm not putting it on a CC, they're happy.

My grandma thinks they're quite beautiful but so complicated and so much work, but she understands how much I've wanted one for years.

So I would consider myself very lucky! :3!

 

My parents don't really like my hobby and probably never will. But I'm 20 and paying for them with my money so, it's not like they can stop me. My mom at least is nice enough to put up with my constant dolly babble.

 

i think my dad just lives with the fact i have then and my mom is understanding to a point but doesn't think i need anymore. sadly i need bodies and friends for my dolls i have but she understands i enjoy it and can sew for them so it keeps me busy.

 

That's cool that your parents are okay with you getting another doll!

My mom's okay with me getting dolls because she knows I'm a responsible adult and I spend my money wisely. She thinks they're a bit expensive, but she also knows how much I've spent on some of my lolita dresses, so...yeah. ^_^;; She wishes they were cheaper, but she knows I won't go overboard. My boyfriend...well, when I first mentioned it he complained because of the price. But then I found out later that he was thinking about buying me one for Christmas! So I think he's okay with it as long as bills and stuff are paid first. Not like he doesn't spend tons of money on his video games (and just bought himself an XBOX 360), so he can't complain too much. lol

 

I am in my late 40s, I believe parents will approve of the hobby even if they oppose to it at the beginning. They may even buy you a doll as present. When they do ever offer to buy you a doll, please cherish the moment and pick the right doll, one you will keep for life. Say thank you with appreciation.

In the late 70s, my step father bought me a doll from Japan at the request of my mother. He hated dolls and at first refused the request but in the end, he grudgingly agreed. I did not get to choose the doll, he picked one for me , he picked the creepiest doll; a dark skin boy with big green glass eyes with light in it! The doll wore funcky brown/black jeans suit with high boots. Little girls like pink princess dolls with long hair, and beautiful eyes like Licca Chan. I treated the doll badly, I hated it. My step father has passed away since, but doll is still with me after 40 years. A rare 24" SekiGuchi Printemps boy made in Japan in the 70s. I appreciate him now, love him for life. His value has appreciated. I plan to incinerate him at my death.

 

well i used to play with dolls as a little kid and, with me being a boy, i could see the dread in my mums face. even to this day when i play with childish or girly toys she makes the same face so i dont think its wise to tell her im back into dolls

 

I'm 25 and I still get irritable grumbles from my mother about how I shouldn't waste so much money on trivial things like dolls and save for something I "really" want. I have no idea what the heck she means by that but I'm old enough to make ny own choices, so that's what I do. Even if my family will never understand. I will most defintely NEVER get permission for anything having to do with BJD's in my family. My family puts up with it but I'm never allowed to show them off with people around. Most if my family has had negative reactions and I've been called a litany of not so nice names over this doll hobby, but I love it. So the way I see it my family can kindly go fly a kite.

 

So I have one doll. I thought I wouldn't get any more. But, BOOM! I want like, four more now. How should I convince my parents/friends I'm not crazy? Furthermore, should I even get more dolls?