Omg... I actually got PERMISSION!

When I first told my mom about BJD's she was completely un-opened to the idea. She misunderstood them entirely and thought they were some sort of odd voodoo dolls. But once I calmed her down and explained that BJD's were only created in the 1990's, by Volks, to be like action figures (I wasn't sure how else to explain it so this could be a bit faulty) for Lolitas and v-Kei fans, she opened up to the idea. She helped me name my character for my first BJD. She still think's it's a waste of money, but she hasn't said no outright since it's my money that I earned and I've proved to be responsible with money.
My dad really doesn't care, so long as my mom's alright with it.

 

Congrats! Mine totally gave me weird looks when I said the price, but as long as I pay with my own money they don't care too much. They're not too keen on me having more than one but we will see...

 

My stepmom thinks they're pretty neat; she has a few antique dolls so she gets it a bit better than she otherwise might have. My dad doesn't really seem to care one way or another, though I suppose that's largely because I didn't get any until my late 20s, so it was my choice entirely.

 

My father just shakes his head and calls me weird. I point out he spends $200 a month on cable. That stops the conversation. But really, I make my own money and I don't buy dolls I can't afford, especially since my husband and I share that money lol

 

I like your way to end the conversation, LeilaNami. Everyone has their own little thing that they spend a lot on. Ours just happen to be dolls
My mom was actually trying to help one her friends buy me one last christmas. They couldn't figure out how to do it so just gave me the money for her. My mother is really excited to meet my girl, though. She really wants to make Metta a wardrobe.

 

im really really glad that im grown up mow, and old enough to have my own judge with things in my life. anything like what job im gonna take, what hobby im gonna into, its my own decision. of course i will listen my parents' voice, think about their words carefully before i made my decision, but im the one who i make the finally decision.
as well the hobby of BJD collection, i love them, and i can afford them with my work and reasonable financial transactions. so, there is no reason my parents could say no.
however, if im still a student, i have to live with my parents, i think its necessary to get their permission, cuz they have the right to know where and what their money has gone to~

 

I find it amusing how these threads can't exist without someone going "I begged my mum/dad/aunt/uncle/random stranger on the street for a doll and they said NO", like they're expectant of other people to just buy them what they want. I know a girl who got four dolls this way...

As for me, I have a job, my money is my money.

 

I've only told my parents about one of the realllly experience dolls I have. The last one is giving me a lot of issues because I keep getting big animal bills tacked on. So I haven't been able to drop my bill under 1k xx ugn....

 

They really against it at first. My parents. They don't get why it can be sooooo expensive, and just for a doll. But then at my 18 b-day, I nicely asked them for a loan and they accpeted it. Since I'm studying abroad and the doll I bought is ABJD so i decided to send it back to my country. The n I asked them to open the box for me. It hurts me that i can't do it myself but my country is notorious for *beep* delivery service so i asked them to check if everything is alright. And I think they are completely hooked qhen they touched her. Keke. Mission success ... (i guess?)
yeah but I'm glad that they don't just give me that huge sum of money ... that would make me feel uncomfortable ... a loan, they said haha!

 

I left home at 18 and didn't get my first BJD until I was like 28...so my parents had to say. =P But my mom did visit one time and bring a bunch of my out-of-town relatives to take a look at my new house, and I had my only BJD at that time on my dresser. Even though his shirt was hanging open, my mom and cousin thought he was a girl. My cousin was asking about him, and my mom went, "I don't like that thing!" She's a doll-collector too. I'm not sure what offended her. His androgyny, his joints? But I don't care. It's my money and her opinions don't really matter regarding my hobbies.

 

My dad actually just saw her for the first time today, and I've had her for months. I was restringing her and asked him for forceps, and when he saw the doll, he was like, "what's it for?" I think he assumed I was doing some art project, since I take a lot of art classes and am attending art school in the fall.
He wasn't weirded out like I thought he would be though! And though he asked where I got it, he didn't ask how much, luckily :- )

Anyway, I'm 17 with a part time job, so while buying a bjd vacuumed out my account, I made it back eventually.

 

I live in my own home, my parents can say what they like muhahahaha.

 

I collected Victorian dolls for years then moved to figures so my parents are more or less used to me collecting things! I haven't received my first resin bjd just yet but they don't seem to mind me using my own money on it. My mum thinks they're really cute so I can't wait for them to come in!

 

my parents never really had a say in it when i started with them...i basically was picked up from school one day and started telling my mom all about it, so she's kind of had to deal with it, but my dad freaks whenever i get ANYTHING for them, unfortunately, even if it's something small like new cords for them, (he flipped when he saw i had gotten my Julian a new body when it arrived...)

 

My parents were against it at first, but I'm an adult and I do what I want and they know better than to try and stop me. Once I got my first doll, my mom was much more open to it and is really eager to try making doll clothes for my dolls. She's still a bit about the price, and she doesn't want me to buy any more right now because I should be saving for when I move out, but she doesn't mind it. My dad just thinks it's kind of hilarious and weird.

 

It took 3 years to finally have my first doll xD
When I discovered BJD hobby I began to talk to my mother about them, of course she was totally against it. As she is blind, she is more negative about buying on internet, she first want to apreciate the items in person. 2 years later we went to a shop where they had one, and the kind man allowed us see a SD boy. My mom wasn't as fascinated as me xD but she liked the doll, she was specially interested about it's quality.
So we get to a deal, she would buy me one when I finished the high school, but one day looking in a forum's market, I found a doll I have ever liked since the first days, so in 3 days I convinced her to let me buy it. Actually she helped me a little bit xD

 

When I first discovered the hobby my mom wasn't too fond of it.
She didn't like the price tag.
But I have my own job and make my own money, so she doesn't have a say!

 

I'd long since moved out and been on my own when I purchased my first gal, so there were no permission issues involved.. well, except for me giving myself permission to spend what felt like a ludicrous amount of money on one item, as it felt to me coming from outside of the hobby. She was just that good.

 

I've been out of high school for two years now and going on three. It's really odd to me, to see all these people talking about how their loved ones feel about their hobby. Never before, have I ever asked my family what they've thought of something I did with my own money or time, as long as it didn't affect them. I know my mother doesn't approve of my loving dolls, but she never tried to stop me from doing anything like buying and collecting. I don't really understand why parents would. If you budget carefully, it's your own money and you're not coming to any harm over it (some people play videogames and never go out and exercise, or do their homework and I guess that's kind of acceptable in our society, over something that teaches people how to plan and budget and be creative and learn how to sew or paint or take a really good picture or whatever) I don't see the massive issue that a lot of parents have. But then, like I said. I never bothered asking first

 

well my parents always tell me never to buy a new one......I brought without telling them, I don't think they'll never agree with it, it is not because of the money-they think I have a mental problem !