Omg... I actually got PERMISSION!

I think my mom's hoping I'll get tired of BJD and just give up saving. My brother not so subtly brought it up(after I had just told him the previous night) at the dinner table..."yeah well Katelynn wants a 600$ doll!"(after my mom asked him why he needed a 200$ bike) So yeah...she definately knows about Haku. But I haven't shown her pictures of him and I haven't shown my brother the new mold I've chosen for him(ah how my mind changes). Still, she did defend me...and I am 18 and it's my money so...she can kiss my bum!(unless I have to use her CC >.>)

 

Geh, my parents I still a bit against me saving up to spend so much no a single doll, but they don't really object because I never ask them for money, I save it up myself ^^;; (like from Chinese New Year and birthdays)

 

I'm lucky in the sense that my mom is open to it. But as long as its her not spending the money, which will be a little hard. I might be able to get them to chip in just a bit around the holidays or my birthday if I'm lucky. Otherwise they don't want much to do with it. Though my dad sounded intrested. But I didn't tell him the price :P.

 

As I'm twenty, I don't really need permission. xD

But parents being parents, I still get the disapproving glares whenever they find out how much I've spent "THIS TIME".

My dad is less tactful about it -- he'll get all into the "Isn't there something more IMPORTANT you could have saved it for? You car IS NOT going to last forever!"

But my mom just kind of sighs. She was a doll collector when I was younger, so she knows she has no room to speak. XD

 

Heh. I'm an adult so I can do with my money what I want. As long as I keep up with my bills and pay rent on time, I don't think my mom has any problem with me buying dolls. She seems sort of neutral about the entire thing, actually. And I've been very careful to be vague about mentioning the cost. "It was really expensive" is about the extent of it so far. She's never asked an exact amount and I'm not gonna volunteer the information, or I'm pretty sure her neutrality will turn into, "The dolls were HOW much? Why aren't you using that money towards buying a house, instead?!"


Um. Because houses require way too much time, money, and work to keep up with, and I can't mow a yard to save my life. Renting is much simpler.

 

Well...my mother and father were really against the idea at first, they did tell me if I wanted one, I was going to have to 'waste' my own money on it. Which, I was planning on anyway...I don't think I'd ever ask them for anything that costed so much. ^_^;;;

They seem to have calmed down about the whole thing though, whenever I talk about which dolls I might buy after my first, they don't say anything. Then again...I'm not acutally working at the moment...they may gear up again once I start working. ^.^;;;;

Congrats on your doll though. ^_^

 

..my mom actually bestowed one upon me yesterday for my birthday even though they were always referred to as a big waste of money. i'm still shocked ._.

 

my mums not into it but she knows its my money and i can do what i want; i earned it. im nearly 18 so...yeah

however, i dont think she knows i plan to own 8-10 dolls ... ^^; i have a feeling she may lecture me when i start getting my next few

 

Ditto with mine

Fortunately I don't live at home so it's not a problem.

Unfortunately, I have the SAME problem with my boyfriend who LOATHES them.

Of course, that doesn't stop him spending £200 on a PC and then giving it to his brother but complaining that I spend £200 on a doll which I keep forever *sigh*

Never mind, I'll always enjoy my hobby and if anyone else doesn't like it... stuff 'em. It's my money and my time and effort and I love it so *bites thumb* they can get bent ^_^

Although, I did consider selling my doll for a time just because he caused too many arguments. But now he's here and I love him too much to part with him for a week, let alone forever O_O

At 21, I refuse to ask permission to get a doll but I still don't talk openly about it because of the telling-off I get for 'wasting my money' - i.e. buying something with it instead of p***ing it up the wall on booze and designer make-up and jewellery like my little sister does - she only gets bored of it and gives it away but that's a PERFECTLY fine thing for her to spend her uni loan on

Yeah. Fairness has never been a common word in my family

 

My mother doesn't care if I buy a doll or two or clothes for them. It's my stepfather who is agisnt always bitching about this and that. I've never listen to him before so why start now. He not my father. You need to get a car. I know, I know, but the inscuares on my car is going to take my whole paycheck for me. So I want get want I want before I start pay off on a car and inscaurses on the car.

 

I never intended to tell my parents about dolls. Ever. I live several hours away from home, visit them only rarely... I figured it was safe.

I have a fourteen year old sister, who snoops. And found my BJD folder on my computer last time I was home. (I have to go home several times this year, and for several weeks at a time, so I can do my placements for teacher's college). She promptly yelled: "SHE'S SO PRETTY!" and made my whole family jump, and suffice to say, my parents saw pictures.

Then I told my mother, "Oh, I sell clothes for them." She congratulated me on finding something to do with my hobbies that made money. Then I mentioned how I intended to use selling to earn the money to buy one. (Never mind that by this point I'd been waiting a month and a half for my first to actually arrive). She thought it was 'silly', but if that was what I wanted to do with my 'extra hobby' money, she was actually okay with it.

I nearly fell over. My mother never approves of frivolous spending! NEVER!

And then my dad, who makes and sells musical instruments, offered to make a 1/3 size wooden guitar that would actually play!

I shall never tell my parents that I have one and a second is on the way... but at least I know now that it could be possible. Someday.

 

My parents were actually amused at the fact that after 24 years, I've finally taken an interest in playing with dolls! I was the kind to play with toy cars and building legos, so it came as quite a surprise to them! *well, I did have 2 barbies, and loved them to pieces for the whole year I had them, but then I hit puberty and by then, it wasn't cool anymore. They stayed in a closet for a very long time, until they were donated*

 

My mom is kind of against it. I've tried to talk with her, but she always says that I'm gone crazy and she doesn't want to talk about it no more. I try to get the doll money and then to talk to her again. Maybe she'll help with the shipping. I know her well enough to say, that she'll melt in the end

 

At least my family isn't extremely over the top about BJDs. XD;; I think it's more of the fact that I'm 14 y/o and I'm going to blow off so much money for a BJD (once I save up enough of course)! But yeah.

Mom has split personalities about the dolls. When I told her that the dolls are customizable and hand made and big and very good quality, she looked almost interested, especially when she saw the pretty girl BJDs. *^^* But then whenever the money issue and technical thinking comes up, she's like, "You're spending all that money on a DOLL?!" o.0;;; I dunno what reaction I'll get whenever I bring them up. Always. ARRGH.

My brothers are like, "WTF?!?!?!?! THAT'S AN OVERSIZED BARBIE DOLL. YOU CAN'T SPEND THAT MUCH MONEY. I COULD GET A NINTENDO WII!!!"

T____T That comparison thing about BJD vs. Game console is sooo not working for my brothers. They're very unsupportive and say that I'll probably only spend a few hours with him/her the first day and forget about him/her after that. (That's what I'm worried about, too, but really!!!! It's an awful thing to say!)

As for my dad, he isn't like my brothers, but he says "go invest it in real estate and get more money. Don't spend it on such a consumer object." OTL |||| I understand his mindset and it's actually pretty wise, however I DO NOT CARE. =w=;; Besides, I might lose money rather than gaining it, you know? And then I'll cry because all that money had been entrusted to dad and that I should never have listened. OTL |||||||

But I think it all boils down to age and money. They wouldn't care so much if I was 20 or 30, you know? I'd be making my own money. But then they'd be wondering what I was doing with dolls at that age. o.0;;

But I sort of do make my own money... I shine my brothers' shoes for $3. >_>;; Other than that I rely on spare change my family members and I stick into the piggy bank and the allowance I get.

 

My parents think they're creepy, but they don't really care. XD It took me forever to get permission to use a bit of my savings, I promised I'd pay myself back. (Odd, owing myself money.. O___o) So they're fine with it. =D My mom seemed put off that I was getting a boy though. XD My dad says theres no such thing as a male doll.. they're too feminine. > >;;

 

Well...My parents were really against it...specially my mom. So I made a bargain w/ them that if I get good grades they'll buy me one and so they agreed (thinking I wouldn't be able to do it.) Then when they saw my report card they were shocked at my grades. Couldn't believe I could raise my grades that high. They talked w/ each other in chinese(as if I don't understand). They were totally shocked about my grades and said somethin' like 'So, you were just playin' w/ your grades and having us worried all this year that you wouldn't be able to graduate?!' So I asked my dad for the doll. Well...he got real angry at me(partly because I was playin' w/ my grades), so i shut up and went to my room. The next day when I was browsing the net he asked me if I really want it and how much it is. Then I answered "Yeah! About $700!" He got quiet for a second probably considering the odds. Then later he said "Alright, I'll buy that doll this coming September." And he did! My mom was about to argue but well DADDY DEAREST silenced her. He bought me my lovely doll w/c still hasn't arrived. They were captured in my trap!

 

OMG, your parents sound just like my Mom used to be. Except she would hang that prize over my head for MONTHS, every little thing would be contingent on whether I got it or not. Oops, I forgot to set the dinner table -- no doll for me

I cannot imagine my Mother ever buying me a doll like a bjd. For so many reasons.

I am so glad you were able to get through parental objections to get yours.

 

Well...I just got lucky because my dad...Doesn't run away from what he's agreed upon. He just didn't know that I never place a bet where I couldn't win. Hahaha! My mom was always the one who runs away that's why I included my dad in the bargain. Just to make sure. It's easy to get somethin' when you know the nature of the people you'll get the thing you want from.

 

I think my parents are warming up to my dolls.

At first they were, of course, like "that's way too much!" - well, my dad was. Mom STILL doesn't know how much Cain cost .. but now my dad is kind of warming up to Cain, glad that I'm making lots of things for him and do faceups and am finally interested in photography (he's a professional photographer).

My mom, however, calls Cain 'it' and thinks he's scary, I'm sure, even though she's never flat-out said it. ;= = Maybe she'd like them better if I had a girl doll .. but .. I'm just not into girl dolls .. I love my boys.

So..

 

I brought the subject up a couple months ago to my mother (just before my birthday), and she kinda just went "You!? Doll!? WHAT!?!?" then "How much!? WHAT!?" then "You want a doll!? But you've never shown interest in that kind of thing before!" then "Are you sure? You really want a doll?" and then "Maybe. We'll talk about this another time. I'm too busy right now to be worrying over this." (And really, she was, so I don't blame her. ) It hasn't come up since, but I did ask her during our singular conversation (right after she freaked about the price and I decided asking for one outright was out of the question) if it'd be okay to save and get it myself, and she said sure in that what-the-hell-has-gotten-into-you way that mothers have. I don't think she remembers that I'm saving for a doll because she usually forgets superfluous things like that, BUT she does keep offering me extra jobs like shampooing carpets and things for extra cash. Much more often than usual. I think this may be her subtle support. (Or maybe she just knows I'm saving for something, and wants to give me a chance to keep at it as I don't have a job yet. That's probably more like it. ) I know that part of the problem is that she doesn't really know exactly what BJDs are, and probably thinks they're like those fugly-cheap-porcelain-dolls-with-the-fabric-bodies-that-don't-move-and-clothes-that-you-are-never-supposed-to-touch-or-remove except expensive. I still don't think she will really approve, as I do have college costs approaching on the horizon, but I don't think she'll give me too much grief either. She's cool like that.