"PRETTY please?": the art of obtaining.

Even as a teenager, I would never have asked my parents to spend that much money on me...O_O
That just seems so...spoilt, I guess. I mean, they raised me to value self-sufficiency, so I've always slowly saved up for the things I want until I can afford them on my own. It was not my parents' responsibility to shower me in expensive gifts at my whim, so I had to wait to buy my first doll on my own, even though this took a few years...

 

My mom was perfectly fine with it, and even chipped in three hundred for my HZ Wang-Ye boy. As a matter of fact, she browsed through as many dolls as I had, and still occasionally does. So I'm happy to say that I couldn't ask for a better mother.

 

This, pretty much. I would never, ever have asked my parents to buy me something so expensive, and they wouldn't have bought it for me. My parents have sometimes contributed a bit towards expensive toys when they've seen me making a reasonable effort to save up for it myself, but the majority of my electronics, collectibles etc. were things I bought for myself. I'd never dream of trying to wheedle something like that out of them.

 

Haha. Hahaha. If I so much as THOUGHT about asking for a doll...I'd be put out. Seriously.

Of course, I am an adult, almost 30 now, so it really doesn't matter what I spend my monies on. lol As long as the bills are paid I am good to go. :3

Now, considering that I am in love with my college courses and have been doing extremely well (3.96 GPA), I have received pricey gifts for birthdays and Christmas. But that is all that I got for a birthday or Christmas.

I've never asked for a doll, or doll money, though. I've always felt that was my responsibility. I also like earning things myself, as it feels like an accomplishment.

Though, the aquiring doll, is pretty much the same as everyone else.

-See doll (Damn you Soom)
-*looks at finances, and then price* x_x
-Scours MP on DOA...no dice
-saves monies, almost there!
-Fate is Cruel and I need to use dolly funds for more important things
-Considers a layaway, goes to site
-Missed deadline to order.
*angst*

Rinse and repeat. >:/

Though I know what I want...I just never make it to the finish line xD

 

ah haha i'm not at that point, nor do i think i shall ever reach it, because i buy all ym own dollies with my own money *u*; that and my mom's really into antique dolls, so she understands buying expensive dolls eue;

 

Haha, same with me. My parents will never buy me a doll. I struggle myself to save up from my spare pocket money at first, but everything is far easier after I get a job
In fact, they're still against this hobby afterall. They say this hobby is just too expensive and useless. And the doll is creepy. Oh well ;___;

But if I end up regretting because I listen to my parents, it is my fault. So here I am, a proud and happy "mother" of seven ^^

 

I often battle myself on getting dolls the good thing is well no matter what I kind of win. Here is how it would sound if I could argue with me.

Me: LOOk doll! I want it
(inner smart me)ME: save money
Me: HA! I have a job I paid bills! Ha I want it
(inner smart me)ME: so...it is cute
Me: WIN you said its cute Lets get it!
(inner smart me)ME: arghhhh....but so cute.

No matter what I win :P

 

I read Alichino and thought the art was beautiful, so I looked up the artist on the internet.
I read she used ABJDs as models, so I looked those up.
I got on wikipedia, saw some Volks, and read that they cost hundreds if not thousands of dollars. Not interested enough to spend that kind of money.
A few months later, I revisited the idea and found Dollshe and Souldoll and "fell in love" with Souldoll Lupinus and Dollshe Husky.
I printed a photo of Lupinus and showed my mother because I thought she would like the costume. She reacted by saying "Wow, that is a beautiful doll." To which I responded with "yes, it is. I am going to get one." She asked me the price, I told her, and she said, "No way! Are you crazy." To which I shrugged and said, "Maybe. Regardless, I am not asking you to buy it, but I will buy it eventually."
She continued complaining about it, but I did not argue with her. I would simply shrug and state that I was buying one.
Lo and behold, after I ordered the head for my first doll and was ready to buy the body, my parents bought it for me. My mother has always been strange that way... "WHAT? NO!" *a month later* "TA DA! Don't you love it?" ok o__O
After getting the first one, I continued purchasing dolls with my own money, to which my mother frequently complained. However, I never really had the issues I read about some people having with their parents. Either my parents were far too lenient, or I was just a bad child because when I was told no, to be that meant "Ah, they do not like it. I won't show it to them/do it in front of them" but it never crossed my mind that it meant I actually could not do it. XD
(My first doll stays at my parents' house because they like seeing him sitting in my old room hehe)

Now to obtain dolls I have not been saving for, I usually pull money from different luxury funds (my restaurant money, money for getting nails done, etc.) until I have enough. Sometimes I write out my entire monthly financial plan and pick bits from this and that until I come up with whatever the dollar amount is I need for the new doll. -__-

 

The shenanigans I had to go thru - well, life - waiting for my retirement to kick in. Which is not trivial, can I just say LOL
Now I have put a lot of effort into finding the perfect dolls for my characters (ongoing project).

 

I worked for my Ein ._. I wouldn't ever ask anyone for a doll, because they are ridiculously expensive and my family don't have a great deal of money, let alone to give to me for something that I don't need. Ein is five now, and he's the only one I own because at first I didn't want another, and then about a year ago I decided I did, but so far I haven't managed to get a job. Hopefully this summer I'll be able to earn some money to put towards him, we'll see. I don't mind waiting.

 

Acheron:
I don't mind waiting either. Marc is going to be three this year. :3 I think he likes being the only doll.
I have my heart set on a Sabik though.

 

Hee, I have my heart set on a Howl from Luts : ) It's not often you meet someone else who's had just one doll for a few years, cool : D Hi!

 

I would never ask someone to spend so much on me. What I get, I earn myself, unless someone surprises me on their own. I hope this doesn't sound harsh, but the thought of strategizing to get people to buy expensive items for you... It just seems manipulative.

Now, if you're young enough, you may have to convince a parent to let you purchase a doll using your own money. That's a different story.

 

Howls are gorgeous too. X3 and named after one of my fave anime/story characters. lol (Howls' Moving Castle)

Hi! Marc was my first doll...and I spoil him rotten. XD Or I try too. lol

 

When I was a teenager, I never asked my mom money for things for myself, she would only give me for important things such as school and that's pretty much it. Even though, my first doll was paid by my mother under ...unavoidable circumstances xP ,she didn't have other option but to pay the person who lent me the money ... I thought I was going to get a job I applied for when I was in HS so I asked a friend who had money, to lend me some for the doll I wanted so bad and that I would pay him in 3 months, he accepted and I didn't get the job ;__; so my dear mommy had to pay for it >__<...I got a job like 6 months later XD but I was able to pay her back and I bought all the dolls, everything related to BJDs and my hobbies (art, books, camera for pictures) with my own money.

We are not a financially-well family, that's why I didn't and I don't like to ask my mom for money and now that I'm older I want to give her money instead of asking and still being a burden for her shoulders, so to speak. But I don't see nothing wrong with people getting the dolls from their parents if they are still teens and have no money issues.

 

Things are slightly different in my story. I was all ready OLD when I found out about these dolls. But when I found them (I went from antique dolls to action figures like cy girls to Blythe dolls to BJDs) I knew I had to have one. I sold several antique dolls and then found a Volks Megu. I was so nervous...sending money to a stranger in another country. But it was a perfect transaction and now it is many years and many dolls later. I think I have been in this hobby since 2005... wow!
I still have to save for dolls and honestly I am working on giving attention to the ones I have instead of finding new ones to come home...at this I fail ALL THE TIME! Sigh! But I sure have fun!!!

 

My girls (11&12) both used their own money to purchase their own dolls a few weeks ago. They've always saved a portion of their monthly allowances over the months for something big and special. When they saw the BJDs ... they knew they had discovered what they wanted to use their money for. They also purchased their own wigs and clothes as well.

In the future we will probably help them out here and there as we can; but for the most part, we will still let them save and pay for the dolls themselves. I think they appreciate the dolls much more because of this.

 

Originally, my mom fought the whole BJD hobby idea thing...by now I think she's pretty much resigned to it. She certainly wasn't hostile in any way to my Kalix before I reduced him to a disembodied head...it actually got to the point where she would attempt to make him clothing. She wasn't (and still isn't) happy with my continued interest in obtaining dolls, but I've always asked for very little in comparison to my siblings, and in the end it was my money that paid for the dolls, all I asked for from her was her permission, so she's pretty resigned to it all.

 

Simple, I just told my mum that I need the dolls as reference for my art portfolio
Which is actually true, originally I only wanted bjd as reference, but my fondness for it is growing. =D and I find myself buying stuffs for faceups now and gosh their clothing is so expensive QQ

 

LOL! That's a great story! As for my dolls, I tend to start with a higher number than the doll actually costs, then soften the blow with the actual price. For example, I REALLY wanted to order a DC doll for my b-day (didn't happen, but that's a different story...) Anyway, here's how one of the convos involved went:

Dad: "How much does this doll cost?"
Me: "Well, they can cost up to $500, but the one I want is $300."

I only got about half the money needed for the doll and wound up ordering an RS Ju that's now a floating head waiting for me to get the money to order her a DC body, but yeah.