Psychology related to dolls

If people were really using dolls as substitutes for children, wouldn't it be weird for some of them to have dolls resembling adults? Especially since the artstyle shifted a little from animeish styles to more realistic styles in recent years. I don't really think someone with a buff Iplehouse E.I.D guy would consider it their child. ^^;
Also, you can leave dolls alone, whereas you have to constantly care for (young) children.

 

Nah, I've never wanted to have children. I see BJDs as doors to creativity, learning, and roundabout ways to communicate with my nearests and dearests. Some days, there would not be much talking if they weren't there. People (and me) are just too busy doing their own things.

 

I can honestly say I have no want for children, I don't see my dolls as a child to me more as a friend, though they do take alot of care I don't like even the idea of thinking they are my children.
I honestly do it to create the people I want to surround myself with.

 

I do like children a lot, but the way I like doll is different I think. For doll it was more toward expression and creativity of customizing and designing I guess

 

When I first saw a BJD, my first thought was, finally, the perfect thing to sew for: won't gain or lose weight, won't complain about showing up for 3am fittings, won't make that dumb joke about me sticking pins in their private bits, or ask, "does this outfit make me look fat?". For my purposes, BJDs are such an improvement on people.

 

I love this, especially "BJDs are such an improvement on people" xD

 

As a child, I never really liked the "baby" dolls that you were supposed to feed and change and take care of. I preferred Barbie and Darci - dolls who were more "grown up." Even now, all my tinies are elementals/nature spirits, not children.

As for actually having kids of my own - not gonna happen without major fertility drugs. I decided long ago that if I ever do decide to become a parent, I'll adopt a child instead of going through all that.

 

For me I think it's the act of doing something artistic that has a strong stigma attached to it. Since I was a young boy, dolls were not meant for guys to play with. I was discouraged. But now? Who cares? I feel subconsciously I like the idea of rebelling against what I was taught. Plus placing into it the ideal imagery of what I wanted my doll to be, what I wanted years ago, but can now fully materialize with some effort.

 

Hahahaaaaaaa, no. I never want to be a mother, at all, period. First and foremost I'm just a girl with a wild imagination, and I find it exciting to bring pieces of my stories to life. That, and a fascination with the beautiful, is really all it is. I like stories, I like art, and I like beauty. Hence my fascination with BJDs.

 

Nooo... I like them for the same reasons I like to paint, watch TV/Movies, daydream and read books. It's just another element of fantasy. I love children but no one wants a child to be trapped in a doll's body. That sounds more like a nightmare than fantasy. Actually, that sounds like a Hitchcock script.

 

I could never be a mom lol. Kinda want to be a dad someday though. However, my dolls are not surrogate children in any sense. I love making characters and the dolls appeal really well to that outlet. I'm the kind of guy who spends 30 min designing a Skyrim charcter. At some point I started using female characters for my role playing video games and well now all my dolls are girls. I like making cool female characters...it's just what I do lol.

 

I think his analysis is more appropriate to those who buy baby dolls and carry them around with them to supermarkets as if they're real babies. Having a doll that represents a character from a book we're writing, or a role play, etc, is so not wanting to be its mother, even though we are, in essence, its creator.

Personally, I have no desire to be a mom. I have 6 nieces and nephews I can "borrow" if I ever feel that urge.

 

My maternal instincts is no where near raising, the only thing i'm raising is the stubborn characters from my little world, At least a few of them are working with me now when i buy a doll to be them I babysit for nine years, i have no desire to be a mom right now, plus all my characters/BJDS are pretty mature looking. Over my area, i might be lable as a 'freak' if i go out with a BJD shopping O.o

 

My parents have that odd tendency to call my dolls my children as well -- my dad even calls me and my friends in the hobby 'doll mums' collectively. I keep reminding them that most of my dolls are adults, some have kids of their own and I am most certainly not their parent. They're not reborns, they're porcelain and resin art dolls representing my original characters and their story. I don't see how that's a maternal thing in any way.

 

I think those theories are all a little contrived. BJDs are like art to me, and why does any person like art? Humans have a need to look at things that are beautiful to them, and BJDs can be very beautiful. I think for most people, it's no more than another creative outlet. Maybe if you're walking around with your SD in your arms trying to give it a bottle, then you should find someone to talk to.

 

Hm, you know, there might be something to the "maternal" (paternal?) urge theory. It doesn't have to be so simplistic as "you have dolls because you want children." Psychologically, these urges can manifest in very different and individualized ways... In my case, I don't want kids AT ALL. I even don't like babies. But I definitely still have "maternal urges" somewhere inside. If you hand me a little kitten, I'll turn to complete mush, and start blubbering "I love you"s to it ^^; Kittens and small animals really get the oxytocin flowing in me.... I think someone might fulfill their parental urges in different ways--by having kids, by keeping pets, by collecting dolls... regardless of whether they actually want kids or not.

For me, there is a bit of a nurturing aspect when it comes to my dolls. Tending to them, making sure they are posed naturally, dressing them, shopping for them etc... My cuter younger dolls seem to activate a bit of oxytocin in me too. Cute plushies do that to me too. But I still don't want to have kids, nor do I view my dolls/plushies as children.

Dolls can also just be fulfilling one's creative or artistic urges... one person might use a canvas, another might do make-up, and another might style dolls...

 

I actually want to be a dad.
But to adopt and not give birth to one.

 

I definitely don't like most children and won't be having any, to my family's dismay
For me, dolls are a creative outlet, and I've always been interested in miniatures. They also help with anxiety, and I treat them more as little friends than anything else. I also just plain like to collect things, so it's only natural that all these things would lead me to BJDs.

 

I dont think its about the kid being a child or an adult bjd.
Some adults possess the mind of a kid and some adults need to be taken care of just like children.
I'd like to have a child that is MSD looking or an Ideliean Soom one.

 

I'm a guy, so I wanna be a mother too...? How do I deal with this new discovery about my life??