Reasons for Doll Sexuality

I don't really pay attention to sexuality of my dolls, because none of them had a scripted character before they came home, so there is still so much i am to know about them, including sexuality. But i'm not going to find it out on purpose, 'cause it's really not important. As far as there is no my intention to make any of them a couple. I've dolls of both genders. At the moment they are not communicating, like, in any way, but if they ever will, they'll be just friends i assume.
Although if they ever gonna have a couple, i have no idea whether would they be straight or not... I wonder if that's because my own sexuality is still not quite clear, but i'm either gay or bisexual... Either way, my dolls' sexuality doesn't depend on mine.
Well, actually, i'd just say that dolls can date whoever they want, just like people :3

 

I have only boys and mine are all either bi or gay. Some are OCs I have had with me for ages and others have just evolved that way. While I do love yaoi and slash as well as all kinds of manga and anime, my characters formed long before these things became popular. My tastes led me to yaoi/slash/bl not the other way around. The popularity of these things has been good and bad. While there is more material available some think you may be into it because it's in fashion at the moment. It's the same with almost everything from clothing to art, fashions and trends come and go. I will like what I like regardless of what is fashionable. I see our bjds as a means of expression and I think we should just accept each persons choice.

 

The only character of mine that's currently already shelled as a BJD is a bisex anthro girl that has a preference for masculine, adult men.
The other in the way to be shelled are all heterosexual, and two are a couple in a long term, strange but stable relationship.
I have the tendency to get my dolls in couples, I don't know exactly why, and usually they are girl and boy couples.
As someone said, anyone can date whoever they want, dolls too, but I suffered in a negative way having some friends literally obsessed with the yaoi and slash phenomenon, (and whe I say obsessed I intend that they seemed to be not anymore able to talk of anything different than that) and even if in the past I had some male characters with same sex erotic/love interests, I lost interest in them and I'll probably never resume them from the mist of the past and shell them... but I don't exclude that somehow a new character can emerge. Or maybe just a male doll "asking" me for a male partner...

 

I have two heterosexual couples (well, as far as that goes... one is an unhappy arranged marriage and the other couple isn't quite dating yet but will be married in the future) and one bisexual boy who has a FWB thing going with my friend's doll but will probably end up with a boyfriend eventually, and the others are kids or otherwise uninterested.

I think there's a bit of a bias towards M/M couples because there seem to be more women than men in the hobby. Now granted, they won't all be attracted to men, but I suspect the majority are. And, well, two hot guys per couple is better than one? The F/F pairings I've seen mostly belong to guys, so that would support this theory.

 

Several of my dolls are shells for Marvel comic characters so their sexual orientation was predetermined . Rictor is gay. His boyfriend, Shatterstar, is bi (or I guess he'd be pan-sexual as he's a time traveling alien), Jono is het, Jubilee is...you know, the jury is out on that one. I honestly am not sure. She's never been in a relationship. As far as my own comic characters go, Daniel is het, Cam is bi, Lilly is a kid so I've not really thought about it. Eadan is a wild card and I'm still working on him. He's TBD.

 

Short answer: Yaoi Fans. Fetishing or idealizing certain relationships for one's own benefit isn't new- If this were the 80s we'd be drowning in Long haired Scottish men clutching pliant women in nightgowns. As it is, the current trend for women, (and this hobby is, let's face it, mostly women) is to oogle hot men with other hot men, for whatever reason, so we get a lot of Yaoi.

Also I wouldn't say the BJD community is More Diverse because of acceptance. I'd say it's heavily slanted to Yaoi couples because women want to look at their idea of hot gay men, mostly. Whether real gay men ever behave like that isn't the point- Yaoi is Popular. That's just a fact. Yes, this community is slightly more accepting of portraying whatever relationships consenting adults want to have, but mostly it's all about the Slash.
If the tendency to Dolly gay couples were simply an open-community thing, we'd see a pretty even spread of gay, lesbian, genderqueer, trans, and other identities as well as straight couples. We don't see this. We see Yaoi, Yaoi everywhere, and here and there a straight couple. Sometimes you see Lesbian couples, and Exceedingly rare are the gender fluid dolls in a pairing, or platonic asexual couple, or other relations.

 

speaking of my own dolls - they are all characters from my writing hobby so their sexuality simply developed overtime like any other aspect of the character. when most of my girls are straight i do have a few who turned out to be bi. so far both my boys are straight but one of them has an overly close relationship to another character so we'll see how it goes.

 

I just like to look on boys together. Especially if the doll is a skinny little womanly boy, why not? I see such guy only with a man.

I also have nothing against lesbian couples.They look wonderful and harmonious too.

 

My dolls are not supposed to have sexuality at all, 'cause they're like children in their personalities and i'm not interested in playing them like they have a couple or something. They are only my friends basically and none of them is in a relationship and will more likely never be.

 

This may be the reason for some, but judging by other answers in this thread, I'm far from alone in saying it's not the reason for ME.

Well, to be fair, the boys I have at home aren't really having sex. Two minis, only one of whom is a 'mature' mini, and one tiny, you know, it'd be weird. Vince doesn't have any sexuality at all, his character sort of solidified that way. Neither he nor Billy are child characters, despite having child-like looks, but Vince is distinctly asexual. Billy... I don't know, really. And Pete is possibly bisexual, but it doesn't matter in the end because the relationships he has right now are all platonic. (I do have lesbians, and heterosexual couples, but they're off-topic-- I don't have any resin ladies at all and therefore in this discussion I can only talk about my boys anyway)

The boy I'm saving for right now, though... He's gay. He's a character I write about and am in an RP as. He's NOT a Yaoi Guy by any means-- though his resin body will, by necessity, be gorgeous and 'fit' and sculpted without the pudge that I generally envision him having. He's a person to me, and sometimes when I'm anxiety-ridden and hermit-ing myself away from people out of fear and feeling the weight of loneliness with no idea of how to fix it, he's a friend, a soft little voice in my ear who'll bring me out of my worries.

He happens to only be sexually and romantically interested in other men. He's not flamboyant, really. He doesn't fit into all the stereotypes, and he definitely doesn't fit into the yaoi tropes. He's too old for that, and while he's not quite no-nonsense, I expect he's a bit too down to earth for a lot of that stuff. And he has a boyfriend and a job and bills, and favorite movies and music, likes, dislikes, friends and neighbors...

And in his particular little fictional corner of the world, homophobia isn't a thing. He has problems to deal with, but they're not Big Gay Problems, his sexuality isn't the cause of any drama or angst. His relationship isn't the source of big angst/drama, either. He's first and foremost a person, a fictional person that I got to be so invested in that I've budgeted out months of saving to get him as close to the way I picture him as possible. This includes his sexuality being what it is, but it doesn't define him, and... he's just sort of as far from Yaoi as it gets.

 

My OCs were gay/bi before dolls came into the picture. As someone said above, I find guys attractive and 2x the guy = 2x the attractive lol. I don't feel self conscious about my OCs being gay because they are well developed characters and are much more than just their sexuality.

 

It's probably a natural progression for those who are into BL/Yaoi/Yuri to have gay/straight/transgendered/cis/etc characters in regards to their dolls. I've been a long time fan of BL whether it is fan fiction, anime, or manga form since I was probably 12 (I'm 25 so I don't see that stopping anytime soon) and I'm also pansexual so for me it's something I'm comfortable with.

 

None of my dolls that I own or have planned are homosexual. I'm pansexual myself, so it's not as if I'm against it or anything. I think, for myself, it derives from the fact that when I started collecting bjds, I had no intention of making them anything like myself. I've always wanted my dolls to be very different from me in every way. From personality to appearance, my dolls are more of an "idea" of want I'd like to be, then like me. I guess it all depends on the person. Some people bond with their dolls better if they can relate to the character they're given, that's how I see it.

 

I laughed at this post because the man I'm dating is a long haired Scottish man and I'm currently sat here in a night gown. One of my dolls is a long haired Irish man - does that count?

 

Well, my OC's varies in their sexualities a lot. The are some which are gay, another one who's bi and then are the heterosexual ones -let's say all of my OC's are guys-


I don't really know how I came up with the idea of them being 'gay' or 'straight' guess I decided in the path of writing their stories or because their personality fits with other dolly of the family -and of their respective backstory-

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
Yes
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
I choose
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
I choose her to be straight because it wa fitting for her character
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
Yes, I am planing to save up for her boyfriend
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
Regardless
-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.) She wear's alot of dresses and skirts

 

Most of my dolls are straight, although, I do have two homosexual couples planned. I totally fall within the group that enjoys yaoi/boylove. It's what I like and I don't really care how others feel towards that. I try to keep my characters as real as possible and away from stereotypes, but we all know that it's pretty difficult not to fall into those traps. Both of my couples are a like and different in many ways. The don't have perfect lives or relationships and that's how I think it should be. Nobody is perfect and I try my best to have my characters reflect that. I write stories about characters I care about and I buy dolls to visualize those characters. I see nothing wrong with giving a doll sexuality based on the character it's meant to play. I like to explore different gender roles because in my mind it's makes for a very interesting story in which two characters can evolve into something else.

 

For those with undecided or bi dolls

-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi?

When I got my doll two years ago I didn't prepare very well. I think I might have had some kind of character in mind, but once she got to me everything I might have thought of was completely gone. It's not until this week I've finally figured her out. She wasn't intended to have a certain sexuality, but I've always known that she's bi. Even at the time I knew nothing about her background or personality I knew she was bi.

-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent?

Her sexuality is independent from mine. It's not even a big deal to her story; she's not the kind of person who is craving a relationship. She likes being by herself.

-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family?

No, not at all.

-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama?

No. My girl's sexuality hasn't really been brought up and where I live people don't really have a problem with bisexuality.

-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs?

Absolutely not. I'm very queer myself haha.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with?

Before I figured her out I kind of did. I felt like giving her a girlfriend (for the moment I only want girl dolls or maybe intergender dolls) would make her a stronger character since she was confusing me, but now that I figured her out I know that's not necessary. She's perfectly fine on her own.

 

-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi?
I hadn't really intended for her to be anything at first, then she eventually kinda morphed into being straight...then she came, and I knew as soon as I saw her face that she would always just be interested in beautiful people with no gender exclusiveness about it.-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent?
I don't personally have an attraction exclusively to just one gender, so I have a tough time understanding what it's like to not find girls and boys attractive. I guess there is a bit of myself in my character, as there usually is when creating a character I suppose.
-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family?
I don't think she should. Nobody really cares enough to ask if my doll is straight, gay, etc. so I've never really brought it up.
-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama?
I've not had to yet, but I don't think I ever will either. It's my doll, and I'm the only person I try to please with her.
-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs?
Nope. It's in line with my beliefs completely. ^-^
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with?
I think she'll end up with a girlfriend next. She may end up in a more open relationship if her girlfriend isn't opposed to it.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll both a boy and a girl friend, or does he/her have a single friend and just has feelings for the other gender as well?
She may have one, she may have both, she may even end up with neither. It's not really a need to give her one or both, it's more just that she seems like she'd be the type of person to want one of each or possibly two of one gender. She just likes the people inside, not the gender they are.

 

LOL LOL LOL Rosslyn for this PRICELESS quote: "If this were the 80s we'd be drowning in Long haired Scottish men clutching pliant women in nightgowns." Also, the 'yaoi, yaoi everywhere' - ain't it the TRUTH!? It really is despite various individuals popping up saying that's not why THEIR dolls are gay or bi. I'd say the majority here are - it IS following a decided anime trend. Whatever floats your boat, I say