Reasons for Doll Sexuality

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
No for the most part. Only my incoming doll Nuri (Soom faery legend Noellia) had a predetermined preference since she is the only doll currently based off an excisting character.

-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
Nuri was chosen to be straight. Dominic just seemed straight to me and I haven't found a preference for my Andromeda. I don't know what to call her, I don't see her as being attracted to anybody or anything. Asexual isn't the right word, since that doesn't rule out attraction. Aromantic maybe?

-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
Nope. At least I don't think so. I was raised 'freely', but I don't currently have any dolls that are attracted to the same gender. It just hasn't happened.. yet.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
Nope. Only Dominic has a partner in my thoughts. I think that partner is going to be a doll that hasn't arrived yet. But she's MSD and he's SD and a friend said that this pairing may be frowned upon. In my mind they're both adults though, she's just a small adult. Dominic does have a friend who's owned by a friend, but they're not romantically involved. Andromeda doesn't take interest romantically in anybody and Nuri as an original character might get her partner someday. But that depends if I can find a doll that would fit the other original character in my head.

-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
I would let the specific sculpt talk to me about his/her personality which forms partially when I face-up them. I don't think a certain sculpt can only be one thing.

-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
Dominic isn't obviously straight in that he's a crossdresser. That started when I tried a rainbow wig on him and it looked amazing. It didn't fit his character in everyday life though, so the story of his alter ego formed, where he wears a dress (and he looks so good in it too!) and rainbow wig.

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
Yes, goes with the story I'm going with. (althrough I haven't bought one yet)

-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
Choose it, like I said story, but If she demanded it I would allow it.

-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
Oh no, I'm fine with gay, trans, or bi people.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
No since she is a a child, but one day I believe if the doll's story really needs a another doll I'll get it, but if another doll owner wants our dolls to be lovers , I would only allow it if we're friends.

-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
I do think some sculpts might demand it, but if they did I would work with it.

-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
I don't have a doll but I'm fine with tom-boyish girls or a girl-ish boy.

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
Yes, almost all of my dolls are based on excisting characters, that happen to be straight. There are two characters with a deeper bromance-almost-gay thing going on between them, but that's all.

-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
I chose for them to be straight, mostly because I'm straight myself and it's easier for me to develope a straight character. Their story is very much centered around romance and gay romance just doesn't make me "squeee", so I don't much bother with it.

-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
Absolutely not.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
Umm, I guess so. ^^; This "neatness" is a bad habit of mine. I try to avoid pairing the spares (check TV tropes for more...) but it's difficult. Almost every one of my characters has a partner, future or past. There's always a lot of drama and angst included and none of them are together at the moment and I try to keep it so as happy couples tend to be a bit boring...

-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
I choose sculpts based on characters (mostly...) so it's a non-issue.

-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
Quite obviously.

 

-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi?
Well, that depends on which doll he looks good with. Most likely just pansexual.
-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent?
Maybe?
-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family?
No, but if he did, I don't give a flying fish.
-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama?
No.
-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs?
He ain't bi(probably will be pansexual?). But, if he were and it's against my beliefs....he's a doll.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with?
I would not hook my doll up with any other person's doll. I prefer my own. And not really, I don't. But, I feel like having a "lover" photo shoot would be cute.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll both a boy and a girl friend, or does he/her have a single friend and just has feelings for the other gender as well?
No.

 

-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi?
She really fits more into pansexual than bisexual. I planned her to be pansexual from the beginning as it's part of her personality.

-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent?
Her sexuality is independent.

-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family?
Nope. I don't share my dolls with family and all my friends are very open-minded. To be honest, I believe they'd have more problems with her actually personality than her sexuality.

-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama?
No. She's plenty of drama on her own.

-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs?
I'm a Christian but I believe in a live and let live lifestyle. I have no issues with it.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with?
She has three partners. One currently shelled and two who will be. She has many, many more partners who will never be more than pictures of course.

-Do you feel the need to give your doll both a boy and a girl friend, or does he/her have a single friend and just has feelings for the other gender as well?
The only active partners she has are girls. Boys are in her story but not in the time frame of the story that's on-going. ​

 

I have some of everything so I'm going to combine a bunch of the questions since the answers are the same.

-Did you know your doll was going to be gay/straight/nonsexual/etc. when you bought him/her?
Some yes, some no. It's a non-issue to me, so unless the character the doll is embodying has a specific preference they just are what they are. Most are pretty fluid, sexuality wise.
-What draws you to wanting gay/straight/nonsexual/etc. dolls?
Nothing draws me to a specific sexuality, it just happens.
-Do your doll/s cause controversy within your family? If not to they accept it or have you just not told them?
Hubster is unfazed by any of it, and the few other family members who even care enough to know I have dolls have no interest in my 'substitutes' as they call them. Rant for another day.
-Are there certain sculpts that tend to demand to be gay or do you choose all on your own?
They choose, though I wouldn't call it demand. It's not the sculpt so much as the personality that comes out once we get to know each other some.
-Do your dolls reflect something in yourself or is their sexuality completely dependent?
I guess, I'm not that interested in sexually defining myself or others so I don't see a need to pick for dolls either.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also gay or bi to hook up with?
A few dolls have expressed a desire for a partner. I'll buy them eventually, when I can and they pick one that agrees. I think there's a budding romance between two of my dolls right now, but who knows if it'll click.
-Is your doll obviously gay/straight/nonsexual/etc. or does their style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
A few. On both sides. Gender is as fluid as sexuality.

For those whose dolls have no sexuality
-Why did you choose to not give them a sexual preference?
I didn't, they just don't care (or they're too young to care)
-Does your doll have no sexual preference because they just don't, as is the case with some people, or is it your choice?
Mostly they just don't. I don't think any of them have made the conscious decision, but can't say it will never happen.
-Would it make you feel weird giving your doll a sexuality, since it's just a doll or is there another reason?
I'd feel bad forcing a sexuality on a doll because in essence they have become individual entities, and no one should have things like that forced on them.
-Does your doll have no sexuality because you don't want to give friends and families the wrong impression?
No, it's just the way they are. I don't care what most people think, that's not why I'm in this hobby.
-Does your doll have no sexuality because you live in a house with young children or are young yourself?
Hahaha, ah, no. We're pretty open about things like that with our kid, it's just a part of life. As for me, looking back I was surprisingly sexually aware as a kid and my dolls then (Barbie, etc.) were a big part of that for me. I used them to explore sexuality and gender a lot I realize now.
-Is your doll gay/straight/nonsexual/etc. due to your religious beliefs of any kind?
No, I don't see how a person's sex/gender has much to do with religion, even if I had one.

 

My dolls are asexual since they're children dolls. They may form prepubescent "crushes" on male or female characters (we'll see), but sexual attraction isn't nearly as big a deal for little kids as it will become later when they're old enough to have an actual sex drive, and since dolls don't age...Yeah, I'm not seeing sexual orientation as being a big deal for the particular BJDs on my wait list and wish list. Especially since I'm hoping my actual children, when I have them, will be growing up in an area that doesn't stigmatize homo- or bisexuality. When your mindset is, "some people fall in love with boys, some people fall in love with girls, and some of them fall in love with both," being gay is just something that some of your friends are and not a horrible inner demon to exorcize.

Although my personal mindset may also be because I'm slightly bisexual and grew up in a part of the US where this was (and still is) extremely frowned-upon. If I'd known that wanting to hug and kiss pretty girls was OK, I probably wouldn't have repressed it for all those years.

 

The children are asexual, save for maybe Antimony (as he's 14) but I'm yet to buy him and see. I already know Qua'ny is asexual/homoromantic, Aurelian is bisexual like myself and Avelana is straight. It's not really something I thought about, but more about how they interact with each other even if I haven't shelled them yet.

 

if you want to know everything about an (adult/older teen) character you have to create relationship or sexual preferences to make the doll seem more realistic
i only have one doll and she doesn't really have a story yet so i can't decide on her preference yet but i feel as though she want to have a crush or be in a relationship

 

When creating a character for a doll, I feel like backstories, personal style and little quirks about them are important. Sexuality just seems like a natural thing to include.

 

I think that a characters sexuality/ romantic attraction is important to being able to work with/write them. while sexualities/ romantic attractions aren't neccisarily the "most important" part of a character they are still important as it'll change the types of interactions they'd have. knowing what it is or might be (if a character is questioning) really does change how a story can be written.

For my main doll story, for the dolls I do and don't yet have, all of them are asexual (side note: Asexual and nonsexual are NOT the same thing, asexuality is a sexual orientation, nonsexual generally describes the practice of not being sexual/sexually active) and the majority are also aromantic. this fact does actually play into how these characters, in written form, interact with each other and others as well.

I suppose I find it easier for myself, as someone who identifies as queer to write queer characters, so a fair amount of characters I write tend to be.

 

Well, I have dolls that work for most of these sexualities so I guess I'll do 3 of them


For those with Gay dolls
-Did you know your doll was going to be gay when you bought him/her?
I don’t think so, but I always assume that my dolls are gonna be bi or queer and figure it out from there.
-What draws you to wanting gay dolls?
I myself am queer and I want representation I guess :P
-Do your doll/s cause controversy within your family? If not to they accept it or have you just not told them?
My family doesn’t know that I’m queer and they think my dolls are weird so they don’t ask
-Are there certain sculpts that tend to demand to be gay or do you choose all on your own?
Just like in real life, anyone can be gay no matter how they look.
-Do your dolls reflect something in yourself or is their sexuality completely dependent?
Yup, as I said before, its cause I’m queer too I guess
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also gay or bi to hook up with?
Not really, I would be worried that the characters would break up and that I’d sell the one who I’m not as attached to
-Did any of your dolls end up being gay even if it was not intended or against your beliefs?
Nope, they all start up as queer or bi when I’m writing their stories
-Are there any people you do not feel comfortable with sharing his/her sexuality with?
Not really, I mean they are just dolls so it doesn’t really matter who knows.
-Is your doll gay simply because you are and straight just doesn't appeal to you?
Maybe a little bit? idk :P


For those with straight dolls
-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
They all start out queer/bi and I decide where to go from there
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
Ash kinda demanded to be straight, he just likes girls too much
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
Nope, just cause he is only attracted to women/people who identify as women
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
I kinda do want to get Ash a GF, but as with my gay dolls I would be worried that they break up and I’ll feel the need to sell the less popular one
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
As I said before, anyone can be gay/straight irl, so why not in the dolly universe?
-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
Not really, my only straight boy could be interpreted as being bi or somewhat feminine cause of his body and “pretty” face


For those with undecided or bi dolls
-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi?
They all start off queer or bi
-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent?
Yup, they are queer like me
-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family?
My friends/family don’t really pay attention to my dolls, so not really
-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama?
Never, that is really messed up
-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs?
I am a large queer, it is not against any of my beliefs :P
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with?
2 of my bi dolls are in a relationship cause they are soul mates and they are the only ones who I am comfortable with being in a relationship cause they have been together for a long time in my canon.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll both a boy and a girl friend, or does he/her have a single friend and just has feelings for the other gender as well? (sorry if that was worded funny…)
My punk bi boy is a playboy and likes to sleep around with everyone no matter who or what they are, as long as they are sober and can consent.

I also have plans for an asexual doll, but since I don't own them yet, I won't write that up yet.

 

So far my dolls are coupled in opposite sex relationships. But I am open to having a doll with any idea of sexuality. My Xander loves his Chuchi-rie but in his ageless backstory he was with many boys and girls alike until he found her. When their eyes met from across the room their souls leaped from their bodies and slammed together intertwining with each other forever. I think giving the ideas the freedom to twist however they go, opens the doors for many unique stories.

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be gay when you bought him/her?
I did, I always knew that Ghost was a gay female.
-What draws you to wanting gay dolls?
That's just the way that character developed. It wasn't something that was planned.
-Do your doll/s cause controversy within your family? If not to they accept it or have you just not told them?
Not at all.
-Are there certain sculpts that tend to demand to be gay or do you choose all on your own?
I think you can make any sculpt gay/bi/lesbian/queer/asexual/trans/ect. Its personally choice.
-Do your dolls reflect something in yourself or is their sexuality completely dependent?
She has the same sexuality but her's wasn't picked because of my own.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also gay or bi to hook up with?
I already now that Ghost has a partner called Temple and I do plan on getting her.
-Did any of your dolls end up being gay even if it was not intended or against your beliefs?
No.
-Are there any people you do not feel comfortable with sharing his/her sexuality with?
Not really. Everyone who I know personally knows my own sexuality so there is no way I would feel uncomfortable telling any of them that I have gay characters. I think they would expect me to as it the relationship type I can relate to more.
-Is your doll gay simply because you are and straight just doesn't appeal to you?
No. I have straight characters as well. I have more straight characters than gay when I look at them.

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
Yes
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
I chose, mainly because they are based off of characters I created.
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
They are not necessarily opposed to LGBT but it is uncommon on their planet.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
(It depends on the character) With Jo and Lily, they weren't originally a couple, but that's how they ended up before I got the dolls. I have them both in doll form.
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
No, I don't think so. BJDs are very ambiguous, so I don't think it can be helped.
-Is your doll obviously straight or does their style suggest otherwise?
I believe that no matter what style you give a doll, it could be interpreted as either straight or LGBT. But in general, my dolls tend to have styles that reflect their given gender.

 

-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her? Yes, all of mine are.
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so? They demand to be especially Natsume.
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family? I am not a fan of yaoi or yuri so they must be straight.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? Two are already a couple and I plain to get my new guy a girl as well. So much fun for shoots
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt? I choose.
-Is your doll obviously straight or does thier style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.) Lol. Well Natsume my Doll Leaves Kiki and Kouta my Doll Love EnEn do have feminine sculpts but I try to dress them manly. Natsume would kill me if I didn't lol, he's got a bit of a complex about his girly looks.

 

For those with straight dolls
-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her?
All mine are atm, but I am toying with the idea of my next projects being bisexual and asexual.
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so?
The characters I created for them were straight and they didn't demanded me anything else.
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family?
Nope. I'm straight, so that's not the case. My family is not a big fan of other sexual behaviors but they are very understanding so I have no doubt they will support anyone close if that was the case.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with?
Yes, from the very beginning. When I bought her I already know I had to find her a good male, and I have found him.
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt?
I don't think it has to do with the doll. As well as different people can have different sexual behaviors and it has nothing to do with the face they have or the clothes they wear.
-Is your doll obviously straight or does their style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.)
My girls dress very girly and my only boy dresses manly, but I don't think that has to do with the topic. A very girly girl can be gay as well as a very manly man so it really can't be used to define the sexuality of a person.

 

For those with Gay dolls
-Did you know your doll was going to be gay when you bought him/her?

Yes. All of my boys are gay.

-What draws you to wanting gay dolls?

I write slash/yaoi fanfiction and even in everyday life I like to pair ramdom guys togheter and think of them like a couple. (I'm crazy, I know.)

-Do your doll/s cause controversy within your family? If not to they accept it or have you just not told them?

I don't talk about my dolls sexuality with my family ahahah. But my friends know, they know me and it was obvious for them even before I told them.

-Are there certain sculpts that tend to demand to be gay or do you choose all on your own?

I choose on my own. For me all can be good sulpts

-Do your dolls reflect something in yourself or is their sexuality completely dependent?

No, I don't think so, they are completely dependent. I'm straight and so far I haven't found any girl that I like romantically.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also gay or bi to hook up with?

Yes! I have a couple and I want to buy for my little single boy a parter in the future *---* unfortunately I don't know anybody near me in the bjd hobby

-Did any of your dolls end up being gay even if it was not intended or against your beliefs?

No.

-Are there any people you do not feel comfortable with sharing his/her sexuality with?

No, I'm proud of their sexuality.

-Is your doll gay simply because you are and straight just doesn't appeal to you?

No, I'm straight C:
Years ago my bestfriend told me something like "I don't know anyone as straight as you." and I asked her why, and she said "You write about gay men, dream about gay men, you are happy thinking that every men that we see in the street is gay and wish you were born as male to be gay. I don't know, I think that you like c*** (emh...bird) too much."
I litterally died.

 

For those with Gay dolls
-Did you know your doll was going to be gay when you bought him/her? Only one of my dolls is gay and I knew he character from before the doll arrived so yes.
-What draws you to wanting gay dolls? I tend to write yaoi fiction. That's it.
-Do your doll/s cause controversy within your family? If not to they accept it or have you just not told them? My family doesn't know about their sexualities or backstories in general. Some of my friends do, but relationships don't come into it much since the only gay doll hasn't arrived yet and he's not currently part of the short stories my friend and I write.
-Are there certain sculpts that tend to demand to be gay or do you choose all on your own? I tend to choose sculpts that fit a character so I would say any sculpt can be any sexuality.
-Do your dolls reflect something in yourself or is their sexuality completely dependent? I'm personally bi and don't have any bi dolls as of yet. This may change in the future, but as of right now, sexuality is determined by the character.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also gay or bi to hook up with? I have the gay boy's partner already but the relationship is rather rocky so they won't get together until much, much later.
-Did any of your dolls end up being gay even if it was not intended or against your beliefs? Nope.
-Are there any people you do not feel comfortable with sharing his/her sexuality with? I would feel comfortable with most of my friends and immediate family. Extended family, probably not, and definitely not my grandparents, much as I love them.
-Is your doll gay simply because you are and straight just doesn't appeal to you? As I said, I'm bi. I do have a pair of straight dolls, who I'll get to next.

For those with Straight dolls:
-Did you know your doll was going to be straight when you bought him/her? Yes and no. My straight boy was originally bi and my girl was always straight.
-Did you choose for them to be straight or did they demand or ask to be so? The characters just developed that way and I saw no reason to change it.
-Are your dolls straight as opposed to gay or bi due to your own personal beliefs or because of the beliefs of family? No.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner whose doll is also straight to hook up with? No. Their characters just came together separate of me buying the dolls. Each was an independent character until they began to interact.
-Are there any sculpts that demand to be straight or do you choose regardless or sculpt? No.
-Is your doll obviously straight or does their style suggest otherwise? (a boy that wears pink for example.) I don't think so. Clothing doesn't define sexuality. They wear what fits their personalities.

For those with undecided or bi dolls:
-Was your doll at first intended to be either gay or straight and neither seemed to fit or were they always going to be bi? My undecided doll is actually starting to lean more toward asexuality, which was not something that had been planned beforehand. My second undecided might end up as bi, but I'm not quite sure.
-Do you feel your doll expresses thing in yourself or is his/her sexuality independent? I think their sexuality comes from the character.
-Does your doll cause conflict with friends and family? No.
-Do you ever say your doll is either straight or gay to please someone else or to avoid drama? No.
-Is your doll bi even though it is against your beliefs? N/A
-Do you feel the need to give your doll a partner? If so, do you wish to buy (or already have bought) him/her, or do you find another doll owner to hook up with? No. He may have a best friend later, but for now he's single and has no interest in a relationship. My possible bi boy is going to end up in a relationship with a doll I am currently saving for but won't discover his sexuality until much later in the story.
-Do you feel the need to give your doll both a boy and a girl friend, or does he/her have a single friend and just has feelings for the other gender as well? My asexual is single currently and I don't feel a pressing need to give him a boy or girlfriend.

 

My choices for my characters'/dolls' sexualities, gender identities, and ethnicities are mostly based on me wanting to represent as diverse a group as I can! I have some homo, some hetero, some bi, pan, and an asexual doll ^^ and some agender, androgynous, cis, trans dolls. I want to represent the way sexuality and gender are a spectrum and everyone is different.