Rude/mean comments about your dolls

probably the only rude comment people say about my dolls is the usual "she looks so creepy!". and I don't really care. I sometimes answer back, "Not as creepy as Annabelle though" lol I don't get it I mean bjds for me are really beautiful but hey, I can't expect everyone to like what I like.

 

I think I'm lucky...The only time I heard something negative was when I was taking photos of one of my girls in a garden in London during my trip last month (yes, I bought a SD size girl with me), some primary school boys pointed at me and said 'I hate dolls! They are creepy!'. Well they are just kids so I wasn't really upset by that. You know...little boys...
I brought my dolls to my work place a few times and my colleagues just welcomed them. One of my colleague said my dolls reminded him of Doll, one the character in a game called Bloodborne XD. Another colleague even bought three dolls for his wife and himself after seeing my dolls in person (two more BJD friends !).
I usually post my BJD photos on Twitter. There are many Japanese BJD lovers on twitter so BJD photos are quite common there. No negative comment so far.

 

Well, when I got my first boy, I was really excited and at that time I didn't know anyone from DOA (I joined DOA after I bought my first boy), so I shared my excitement with a RL friend (real life, not Rosen Lied - you know you are too obsessed with BJDs when you have to clarify terms to yourself LOL). I would actually understand if she didn't share my excitement because I get that we all have different hobbies but I felt that her comments that my boy was creepy and an utter waste of money were totally uncalled for. I mean, even when she raved about other stuff to me that I couldn't give a damn about I still tried my best to listen and to get to know her interests better, so I was really pissed when she kept repeating not once, but over a few days even when I wasn't saying anything about my doll, about how ugly and a waste of money my boy was. It's okay though, I thought he was a beautiful work of art and totally worth the investment and afterall [sarcasm] you can't expect everyone to appreciate art [/sarcasm] LOL. But yeah like I said we all have our own taste and definition of art but you don't have to be downright rude or mean about it especially to a "friend". Well, I never spoke to her about my dolls after that and I found better friends and fellow hobbyists on DOA to share my joy with.

 

Eh, my DH thinks they're a bit creepy and my SIL has kind of a doll phobia, but my parents were cool with me buying dolls as long as I wasn't in debt over them. The only time I've gotten any seriously nasty comments was actually at a small doll meet in a park. There were about 6 of us, one of who had gotten a new doll, and he was laying there unclothed because she was showing off the joints. Most of the rest of us had a doll or two each and we were sitting, chatting on a picnic blanket. There was a woman with (I think?) her family there, and she kept staring really hard at us. Like, for several minutes, not just a "what is that, I can't figure it out" kind of stare. One of my friends said jokingly, "Take a picture, it'll last longer" and the woman just started yelling at us how we were horrible people and should be ashamed of ourselves and obviously we were not right in the head. I really wish I'd had the guts to tell her that we were quietly enjoying the park until she came along, but at the time we all sat there stunned.
I don't take my dolls out much right now - I've been away for a bit and have just started to get back into the hobby - but I'd like to think I've gotten a bit thicker skin about them. I took Victoria to a con not long after I got her, and I think I might want to bring one or two out the next time I go to a con - especially if I can get some of my planned character dolls bought and worked on. (and I might make a "creepy chucky" shirt for one of them to wear... )

 

BJDs are works of art. people think they have to understand, but they couldn't.

 

It's the uncanny valley effect. Dolls are so realistic and lifelike and yet not quite passable as human. This elicits a fear response in many people that they can't articulate.

 

As with any major collection, there will be those who look at you funny. As someone who has various collections and has had various collections...its not just dolls. Although I will say doll people are far more vicious than other hobbies I have been in. Perhaps its because this one is more 'internet' based and interactions are through the safety of a computer screen.

Action figure collectors get just as much flack as doll collectors. I have friends who collect various 'toys' and they've shared with me their fair share of 'shame' stories from people who have either seen them buy a piece for their collection or seen their collection in person.

No one in person has said anything horrible to me. My parents don't really 'understand' it, I didn't play with dolls as a child but now I have -really- expensive dolls to them. My friends just shrug it off as another one of my collections.

Doll people however, have doubted my credibility and knowledge, insulted me for not spamming pictures...and otherwise made me doubt myself in this hobby a few times.

 

Nothing too serious for me, I think. I've had a couple of online friends mention they're not fans of dolls or asked me to tag them on Tumblr so they can blacklist the tag and that's okay. I don't want to intentionally make people are afraid of dolls uncomfortable. But there has been a couple of occasions where I got a little upset about a comment someone made that, maybe wasn't rude, but... eh....

One person asked if my very first doll, which I had taken to the mall with me and a few friends, was a Justin Bieber doll. I was mostly offended cause I absolutely cannot stand Justin Bieber, but it was mostly laughed off.

The one that upset me more, was my husband kept saying that my doll looked like Garth from Wayne's world cause of his glasses and long hair. Now, this upset cause I had spent time an energy, got him a custom wig and even did his face up (which I normally don't do) so I had put quite a lot of work into him and I told my husband that, no, he doesn't and I don't like that he's saying that. Well, he kept. saying. it. and even started calling him Garth. It got to the point where I was so frustrated by it all that I actually cried. He had been teasing and didn't realize how much it was bothering me and has, thankfully, apologized and stopped doing it.

I also had one girl on gaia online asking about my doll (same doll as above, his photo was in my signature) and she loved him and was asking questions, said how cute he was. She asked his name and when I told her it was Jethro she did an immediate 180 and started bashing on his 'nasty old name' 'freaking ew, lol'. I'll name my doll whatever I damn well please, thanks.

 

Well, I don't display my dolls, so unless I talk about it most people are unaware that I collect. I have a supportive group of people who also collect and I think that helps. People being people will always criticize something they don't understand. OK, thanks for your input on my life, now move on. I'm too old to care what others think. I know that I enjoy my dolls and that's all that matters.

 

No, not yet or not that I'm aware of, and I'm thankful for that. ^_^ I may get a few confused stares when I go out and take photos in public, but no one's had the courage to come up to me and say something to my face, and the people that have seem to be mainly curious or think it's neat. Mine and my husband's friends seem to really like my dolls, too, as do my husband and my mother and brother and they have lots of positive things to say about them.
Also, I'm not very well-known in this hobby at all and have only been a part of it for a year, so I haven't been posted about in any confession blogs as far as I know. I'm pretty content with it like that as I'd rather not have people talking about me and just want to have fun.

 

I got some comments just from one very annoying friend, he kept saying my dolls looks like creepy demons, but I didn't care and he stopped. Despite, I often notice people bad thoughts in their eyes, and when I post some photo of my dolls on facebook/instagram, they don't react like as much as other pictures

 

My all family said I was crazy to love something who cost so much... and in the same time, my brother buy 3 or 4 guitars because he loves it and he play it good, and nobody is angry or scared.

 

I have never personally received any negative feedback from people around me, but I don't usually talk about my hobbies with people outside of my personal close friends or family (in real life).
When I first got my Mano however, I was PMed about people in the hobby saying things about two of my "dolls." One person screen-shot a thread where they were saying how awful my Limhwa Limho Mano looked,
I was referred to as "the one with the ugly Mano," in most of the comments. Another person also sent me links to a few threads where my privately ordered DIM MNM head sculpt was being made fun of in
some Russian blogs and also in the same blog where my Mano had being criticized before. I thought it was pretty funny at the time. I always thought of myself as an anonymous lurker who only posted from time to time.
Little did I know that people actually thought enough of me to know my dolls by how ugly they were/are to them. I never thought that my dolls would bother people so much as to make them have any sort of feelings toward them
(maybe I'm crazy, but I can't think of any reason to gossip about a doll, or how ugly the doll is... because it's just a doll? Or maybe I'm just too old). It might be because of the way I was raised, but I've always believed that if something
is not to my liking it's far better to ignore it; I save myself from looking at things I can't stomach and I can actually use that time to look at things I actually enjoy or do useful things with the spare time I have (which I really don't have that much of).
I guess I'm just a simple person. I didn't feel anything more than just being a bit surprised that I was "known for having ugly dolls" and that people I didn't even know, knew of my existence -- guess that's the "fun" part about posting online.

 

We were planning to rent a flat with my 2 friends when the uni starts. We agreed on literally anything else from the color of our teacups to the location of said apartment, but one of the girls would only have agreed to let my dolls in if I had kept them in a locked drawer all the time because they were so creepy and she'd imagine them coming out at night. I do keep all my doll things in a drawer that has a lock on it so it wouldn't have been a problem, but her hysterical reaction was. I forget my Ludvig all around the place while photographing him so I can't guarantee they're imprisoned 24/7. I can't imagine what would she do if she walked into the kitchen after midnight to grab a glass of water and found my forgotten doll sitting on the kitchen counter next to our kitchen knives. xD

 

I work with children who have emotional and behavioral issues. They have some of the worst language I have ever heard, and I was raised in a barn. My youngest charge is six years old, and if his requests are not granted immediately, I have seen him try to seriously injure someone. Just for being told no. Keep this in mind. I brought one of my dolls to work to work on and showed this little guy. He VERY politely said to me: Miss Jen, I think your doll is very nice, but a little creepy. I'm sorry.

I take that one response from a child who has major problems and measure everyone against that. And you know what? That one response makes the negatives worthless.

 

My very 1st doll event i went, this old timer touch my doll and say stuffs like she not supposed to be like this, wat year she made in, doll that year not supposed to be like this etc etc! She indirectly accusing my doll are not authenic! Its was my 1st so i got shock but luckily i took pictures of my coa .

 

When I tried to make my own FIMO BJD, there were legs and parts of torso hanging from my lamp on the desk. Everybody could see it while passing around our house. Especially in winter, when the days are shorter and I needed to use more light. My dear said it was a little bit creepy but I kind of understand him. It may have looked a little bit funny - just imagine you walk home and the first thing you see is a hanging leg.

 

Probably the worst of the worst were two separate incidents:

Was showing two of my friends on a roleplay forum I used to moderate my doll Avalon's faceup as I had just sent him off for the first time ever and was so nervous in getting him back. We had a newbie who was trying to be 'cool' and kept putting me down for liking my dolls. Including calling one of my dream dolls (DC Elizabeth) "disgusting and wrong" when I wasn't even showing it to them they sought it out just to mock it. And with Avalon he called him gross and disgusting. Which really hurt me actually because I was seeing my boy in a new light. It was like I had just bought him all over and instead I wound up crying I was that upset. Then same newbie, same dang month saw a picture of my RS Bei who was a Christmas gift that year... And said and I quote: "That's so gross. If I ever saw that thing I'd smash it into a million pieces for you." Like he'd be doing me a favor breaking MY FIRST GRAIL DOLL. I honest to god snapped at that moment. That was it and I was NOT going to sit there and let him insult me, insult my dolls and tell me my hobby was 'gross' and 'wrong' while he got to boast about how much he loved his hobbies. If he could brag about his action figures I could talk about my BJD's. The kid ran for the hills when he realized I had fangs and that yes - harassing an admin is actually a thing and I was going to make his time there very short if he didn't stop the BS.

The other happened here on the forum. Nothing major but annoyed me. RS Bei had been shipped and I was excited... Told by another member I was wasting my money and should've just saved up for a more expensive doll. Even after I said it was the doll I wanted, I was told it wasn't good enough.

 

Befor I started in the hobby I spoke to a friend and they said it's weird for guys to be into dolls. They insinuated that men in this hobby are perverts or flaming Queens, and I had to pick one if I did join.... well needless to say it did make me hesitate on joining in on the fun. And now that I've started, this individual won't speak to me.

I've heard some very intersting tales flowing around our friend circle. And it stems from them. He calls them "creepy, and sexual perversion, they have genitalia don't you know?" I think he's jealous that my boys are better endowed then he is. LOL! (I just don't understand the sexual thing with a doll)

But that's it really. I've just ignored it since my first dolls have arrived, Ignorance is what ignorance does.

 

I've had a couple of friends say things along the lines of 'they're so creepy' or 'that's such a weird thing to collect', but other than that not really! I think most of my friends know that I have odd hobbies already and so they sort of expect the unusual from me.

My partner is actually terrifies of dolls and has never said a rude word about them (other than likening my Yeon-Bee to Weeper from Batman ), although I have been told that if he ever walks out to find one of them standing and looking at him when he gets up of a morning, he'll drop kick her...needless to say, I leave my dolls sitting when they're not being fussed over