Rude/mean comments about your dolls

Most of my friends and family members are very nice and support when it comes to my dolls, even if they don't really get the appeal of them. My dad sometimes makes comments about me "wasting my money" which is a little annoying but I just ignore it. His girlfriend is very scared of dolls and thinks my girls are gross and scary. I understand that she can't help what she's afraid of, but sometimes she makes jokes about breaking my dolls and that does kind of upset me.

 

A friend told me how creepy my doll was so I stopped posting it in one social media account. Even though my doll at that time was wearing cute clothes and all.
Sometimes my siblings would say they get scared but not anymore. They got used to it.

 

I showed a doll to a 17 year old boy, my son in laws brother. He had been creeped out by dolls before. He said mine were nice.
I know it's not easy to avoid feeling hurt. We attach emotionally to our dolls. Many people, like me, are comforted by the dolls. They can help through a crisis. I began my interest in bjd after both my parents died in Dec.
About mean people, it's their problem not yours.
Some people are mentally still in the 7th grade, looking for some one to make fun of.

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I had a roommate once who was very cruel and abusive. My boyfriend at the time who lived with us worked nights when my roommate was off so was rarely there to see his behavior. One night he got really drunk and was hurling insults at me as he did when he drank and took pills. He started yelling that my dolls were creepy and I was a freak and immature etc. It always sat with me and when I had a very extreme life situation happen two years later that caused me to step away from doll collecting in 2013, I never forget his words. My mom even told me as I began a new life fresh in a new city to hide away my dolls and not show them to my friends, I had previously let them hang out in the living room and bedroom. My friends were mostly male but they showed the upmost respect to them, especially my first doll, a Little Monica Chloe named Ora. Very cute to see big burly dudes move her off the couch with a respectful "excuse me Ora!". But despite that, him being so cruel made me feel they all thought I was weird deep down, and I hid my dolls and dropped the hobby for 7 years.
But now I'm back, and I have many beautiful friends who think my dolls are pieces of art, and are very kind to me. So I have since let it stop affecting me

 

I'm really glad you're back! And yeah... guys today seem to be a heck of a lot more accepting of unusual hobbies and non-traditionally-masculine stuff. At least the guys I'd actually want to be friends with.

 

I think its cause they are less judgey then women? I will say one of my girlfriends recently helped me restring my Spiritdoll Blanc, named Blanche, when she came home from body blushing and faceup. She kept telling me over and over how beautiful she was and we watched a video about Popovy sisters and she was OOOHing and AAHHing. It made me feel very accepted haha

 

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, but I'm also glad you were able to find friends that respect you and your dolls! It sucks to feel shamed out of something you love so it's fantastic that you've been able to move on from it!

 

THIS! Some of my coworkers go the same when they see my dolls or the photos of them.

 

To this day, I still laugh about having "boring, weeaboo brats who all look alike"...

The person who said that meant it to be a terrible, utterly damning insult to my collection and a critique of my own apparent total lack of ~creativity~. But... nah.

I'll always be the first to admit that there's some truth to it. I'm NOT an artist. I'm just a collector. And I'm not going to apologize or feel bad for liking what I like.

 

I get comments that I should grow up, or that no one will take my pronouns (he/they) seriously if I play with dolls.

 

Same as everyone else. I get a lot of “creepy” comments. It does make me wonder why people feel the need to say anything.

 

I am always told that my dolls are creepy! (This is from non collectors). I try to not take it wrong and just move on!

 

Most ive gotten beyond the usual people being afraid of dolls reactions was I got shamed for having two 60cm Vics and two cherry elf v kid delfs. Because having two of the same sculpt was 'not creative and stupid.' I like them and they can shaddup >:C I plan for a third vic when I can find one from a trustworthy source and this person can suck it. xD

 

I have multiple DZ Raymonds and multiple DollShe Saints...there's nothing wrong with having multiples if it's a sculpt you love!

 

I have 4 twigling ingenues, 2 (soon 3) gamines, and I think it’s really cool seeing everything someone can do with variations of the same sculpt! Takes a lot of creativity to reinterpret it.

 

My fiancé likes to joke about how my dolls are firewood, at first it got to me a little cause I really adore my boys. But I just look past the comments now. But, last night we were going to sleep and he heard my dog shake so his collar made noise which made him question what the sound was. I told him it was our dog, but then he replied "you sure it's not one of your dolls running across the room?" to which I replied "no, they're in my closet, in their boxes."

I think the comments that bother me a little are when I show people outside my hobby pictures of my dolls and they always say "they look so sad", but I don't see that.

Oh, and of course the usual Chucky comments.

 

The people who are really close to me think that they are cool and they respect my hobby. My boyfriend is not really 'into' them but sometimes he sees me looking at a doll and says they are cool and asks me if I'm gonna buy them. He also just asked me to wait for him before opening my big Gem of Doll order. It was stated on my dating profile that I was a BJD collector, so he knew that about me already, I made sure I wouldn't date someone who would be disrespectful about them, or someone with a legit doll phobia (I can understand that).

Acquaintances and internet people though... I have some followers on Twitter who like to randomly comment that my dolls in the BACKGROUND of my selfie pictures are creepy. Someone once asked me why I had weird s*x dolls, but it was a DV Mahiru, you know this is a little girl, right? I told them that it was saying more about them than myself, if they thought that a doll of a little girl was a s*x doll. They left me alone after that.

Honestly, if they don't have anything nice to say, they can stay silent? My dolls are not hurting them in any way, and they make me happy, why try to tear me down about something that doesn't impact their life and is making me happy.

People like to be mean for no reason.

 

Sorry you had to deal with that person. Sounds like an abusive jerk. They are probably so sad and black inside, they took it out on whoever is in front of them. My experience is very little, because I don’t really share my dolls in person. I am kind of anti social. Other doll hobbyist will say nice things, but I think doll friendly people tend to find the good in things and not the bad. My husband will say “creepy” or “emo”, and will crack a joke sometimes about them killing him in his sleep. I just say “That’s good, if that happened, then it was meant to be!” He says some of the bjds dolls look sad, so he is a little put off by that. Just because the doll isn’t smiling doesn’t mean they are sad. Don’t get me wrong though, hubby is probably the complete opposite of a doll person, but still bought and installed the new doll cabinet I asked for last Christmas. My son thinks it’s all “lame”. I have a glass case full of figures, which he calls dolls too and there is one in sexy clothing and he asked why I would want a figure of someone’s butt. He is only eight, so he would not understand that sexy is beautiful, so I said I just liked her face and rocker look. Then I threatened to move the “butt figure” to his room next to his toys and we had a big laugh.

 

So far, not too many issues anymore but I've had my share of upsets. Most people I know are supportive. They make jokes that they are creepy but otherwise only care if I'm happy.

In the community, I've had a few collectors get mean simply because they could (even if it's not directly at me) so I rarely post pictures and I definitely don't bother with their stories and telling them to people. I don't care to share them anymore, but I have them. I prefer just pictures now if I post at all or just conversing.

Otherwise, it varies. They make more comments on the prices than they do about the "creepiness", and depending on the doll I can understand. Though most of my grails will be harder to obtain, maybe I'll get lucky and find them anyway as I'd be fine if I could just find them. The prices may or may not make them comment but all well.
I've also been asked why dolls if I'm an adult. I've been collecting dolls on and off all my life. I love them, that's why. XD

I think the worst ones are those out there that say grails are stupid and not worth it. I get upset and heartbroken badly when I miss out on them or can't find them, so I disagree. They definitely mean a lot to whoever has them. I have my reasons for my grails and they mean a lot to me and I get it here and there. I'm quite tired of being told it's dumb to put so much heart into dolls, people backing out on their words about things and trying to gaslight me about it because I tried to go through with something (like buying dolls and stuff then them saying blah blah blah for example), or being told what I can and cannot do with them or for them (like I want an outfit or something as an example- I just do what I want with them contrary to what people try to say but it's still annoying).
It's really no fun hearing people tell other what they can do with their dolls or negatively commenting about one's doll for any reason. I see it a lot for faceups especially in this hobby. "Those piercings are horrible!" "Why so much makeup?" "Those eyebrows look so horrifying, like too big even for fuzzy caterpillars." I don't see why anyone cares if it's not their doll.

So I've started enjoying the hobby without putting too much out there. I mostly ignore the negatives now but it still sucks to hear it. I don't let people tell me my dolls are ugly or that pictures suck, etc.

Enjoy the hobby. Let no one discourage your love for them.

 

Honestly, everyone in my life just begrudgingly accepts it. Im mostly unashamed of my hobby, and if you want to get close to me you kinda have to be okay with seeing a ‘creepy’ doll or two. Lol