Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

Hmmm... trade gifts? Doll for me, gaming console/pc upgrades for him?

 

How could I say no, lmao!? But, my boyfriend has expensive hobbies of his own, so idk if he'll ever have the money for a doll

 

I wouldn't ever want my partner to buy me a doll - if they did so without telling me and made it a surprise, I trust my partner's taste enough to know that I'd probably love the doll! And any doll they'd buy me would have a lot of positive sentiment attached to it. But it's more of the money factor - I'd want them to save their money. I'd rather my partner and I spend money together on experiences rather than objects

 

I'm in an interesting situation. It's a long distance relationship and kind of complicated. Still, if it were to become more serious, I already know I'd tell him to save his money to take me out to dinner or maybe let's both save and go to Hawaii for our anniversary or whatever. If he surprised me, there wouldn't be much I could do about it, but I would always keep the doll if I liked it because I know I'll always be friends with the person that gave the doll to me. I don't exactly like receiving expensive gifts though, because then it feels like an obligation to reciprocate. But I like giving gifts to others randomly. I know, maybe a bit hypocritical, but that's the way I am.

 

I've been pondering that question for a while now. Since my boyfriend will be attending a university in Japan next year, he has suggested he wants to buy me a doll from Volks or something. The idea sounds amazing. I know he wants to encourage my hobby without having to get into it himself, but he honestly has no idea what my so-called "grail" dolls cost! Moreover, I don't like the idea of telling him what to buy, but I also don't like the idea of him surprising with any random BJD. Although, if he does end up getting me a doll, grail or otherwise, I would probably love/cherish it all the say. That sort of commitment from a significant other should not be ignored!

 

I don't think I'd feel comfortable with him buying me a doll. At least, at this point in our lives. I'd feel guilty about it. He's a college student right now and I wouldn't want him to waste his money on me when it could go towards paying off loans. Maybe I'd be okay with it after he had a stable job. Or I'd be fine with him buying me doll clothes or accessories as a gift, just not a doll for now.

 

Aw man I'd be so happy if my husband offered to buy me a doll ;_; hahah but I am so picky and my husband doesn't know much about this hobby so I'd probably want to be the one ordering the doll myself (which probably defeats the purpose...)

 

I don't think I'd want my boyfriend to buy me a doll. Mainly for financial reasons. They're too expensive to be gifts. Kind of like gaming consoles. A gaming console or PC would be too big of a gift, but a new game for it would be a thoughtful surprise. I'd be thrilled if he went to a store and saw a little prop that he thought would work and picked it up for me or something. I can't imagine he'd be able to shop doll clothes at all.

 

I would treasure it forever and make it look absolutely stunning. Depending on what doll it was, I might assume it to be a request to shell a character of his though! ...in which case, challenge accepted.

 

I'd decline at first but if he persisted I'd let him and pay him back in other ways! Like buying him several games he wanted, or buying dinner on more than one occasion. I'm thankful that he respects my hobby and I respect his! (He likes to collect amiibo and rare video game related items.)

 

I'd be very happy if my fiance came to me and said, I know you've been wanting a second doll, so go ahead and find one that you want as I want to buy it for you (rather than me having to check our money and work out a good time for such a purchase XD)

 

He already got me two living dolls

But honestly, I don't know if I would be comfortable with him spending such amounts of money on a doll for me... Luckily that would only happen when pigs can fly

 

Looking to buy my boyfriend two dolls to shell two characters in. (Or probably co-owned dolls, as he's more interested in the character side)

As far as I'm conserned, he would be allowed to sell them if he wanted, though I'd hope that he'd let me do it as he's not really knowledgeable about how much to ask or where to sell and such.

 

This is how I feel about it. But my fiance did spend over $1k on a gaming laptop to try to get me into gaming with him over a year ago. To this day I'm still super wary of such an expensive computer, but I agree with you. Experiences over objects together

 

@DarkLies212 oh gosh, I don't understand why/how people can spend big money on something to try and make people interested in it?? I mean, I'm not going to go out and buy an expensive doll for my partner to try and get them interested... It seems so counterproductive yes, definitely experiences over such nonsense!

 

@merrymelody I agree, but hey, I got a working computer out of it! And I guess it did work to some extent because we have played on and off together using it. So I suppose it was worth it in his eyes.

 

I'm surprised how many are against receiving one as a gift. I really like the idea. I mean, I'd rather have another BJD instead of another piece of expensive jewelry. I'm certain I would get way more enjoyment out of it!

With that said, I've been on the flip side and gifted BJDs. I put a lot of thought in it and they were very well received.

 

My boyfriend actually bought me my first BJD, although it was a Lati so not nearly as expensive as a lot of the bigger dolls I've seen. We've been together for three years now and live together, so we've both spent lots of money on each other. I guess that's why I didn't consider it a huge deal, since the price of my Lati is essentially the equivalent of a few fancy meals, and my doll has definitely brought me way more enjoyment.

Although my friends found it kinda funny that he got me a doll instead of something more conventional, I really appreciate my doll a lot more than I would've appreciated new jewellery or something. I already have way too much jewellery, some of which I never wear, but every time I take play with or take photos of my doll, it reminds me of my boyfriend It also shows that he supports my hobby, even though I know he would NEVER be interested in it himself. :P

 

Haha, I am way ahead of this, I have a listing of Grail Dolls on the computer, and my husband knows where it is.
I am getting him a wood lathe, either later this summer or for Christmas/Birthday.

 

ahaha hahaha sorry it's just... my husband would NEVER buy me a doll, he's the sort of person who whines if something is more than £10, he's SOOOO cheap so I have to buy all my own dolls. He gives me this "look" but he can bite me, he spends money on himself just fine just not on anyone else.

I think though, I wouldn't like to be bought a doll without picking it out. Giving a short list so it's a surprise maybe, but I wouldn't trust someone else to get me something with no guidance from me. My tastes are a bit... odd. My mother and sister have tried to buy me dolls before (playline, not bjds) and usually get it wrong sadly, because they don't really understand what I look for in a doll.
Would I sell a doll bought for me I didn't like? It's a really hard decision to make. I know it's mean but... if I knew there was no way the gifter would find out... yes I probably would. A doll deserves to be loved, not stuck in a box somewhere. If it was someone like my husband who would know? I'd have to just learn to love the doll lol, and maybe I would. Unless it was something I REALLY hated I think I could learn to love it for the meaning and sentiment behind it.

I would be so shocked if husband got me a bjd i'd probably faint though, but man.. one can dream of such generosity right?

Actually, a while ago someone I barely know bought me a doll. A really expensive doll at that. They knew I wanted it, knew it was out of my budget and knew I was pining. Loveliest thing anyone's ever done for me, I still don't quite believe it. Who buys an expensive doll for someone they've never actually met? The best person in the world, that's who.
It does leave you in an awkward "how do I ever repay this?" position, but at the same time, it's SO sweet and kind and just... lovely.
Now if only my other half was as generous huh? *snort*