Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

Honestly? I'd absolutely love it. I don't care how far in the relationship is, it's his decision to do it.

If we break up, well, yeah the doll might remind me of him. But in situations like that EVERYTHING reminds you of him. That doesn't mean I'm going to stop eating Malteasers because he ate them and they make me think of him, or hack off my thigh because he touched it and I can remember how that felt. The doll can't help that it was bought by him, I'm going to keep it and I'm going to keep eating Malteasers.

Alternatively if I never liked the doll much all along I'll sell it and use the money to get a doll I want haha

I buy a lot of my dolls during bad times to make me feel better, they don't remind me of the bad times, they just make me feel better.

 

I'd be incredibly surprised and ESTATIC! I would not worry about the choice of doll because my husband knows my tastes very well and the things I look for in a doll. He's already said if he bought me a doll he'd get me a pukifee Pong.

 

I wouldn't mind someone I was married to/in a civil partnership with/other equivalent long-term relationship with buying me a doll, but I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with a boyfriend/girlfriend/etc. buying me a doll. I wouldn't want to risk no longer wanting it if the relationship went sour, and I'd also feel uncomfortable having someone spend that much money on me.

 

My partner and I have bought each other dolls before -- but I'm not sure if this counts, seeing as we are both in the hobby together. I know which dolls she wants and she knows my tastes enough to be able to safely get a doll that I would enjoy. However, bills and real life expenses always come first.

 

My boyfriend has talked of buying me dolls before, but has yet to actually buy one, mostly because the dolls I collect are way above what he has left at the end of the month. I am kind of glad that he doesn't, to tell the truth. Ultimately, we usually work together on it. Say I buy a doll on layaway, he sometimes takes over a little more of our monthly expenses so I can finish a layaway quicker. He only has one doll, but if he wanted to get another, I would feel comfortable taking in more of the monthly expenses so he could do the same, as well.

 

If my boyfriend buys me my grail doll without asking me, I will be over the moon. Because that means he takes note of what I like. I will not feel uneasy receiving such a gift whether he is my hubby, my boyfriend of 8 years or even just 8 months. It's more a matter of his financial state. As long as its within his comfortable means, I will love to be pampered. I have 2 dolls this year who are gifts from my current bf with whom i have been together for less than a year. He can't tell one doll from the next so when he wants to pamper me, I choose what dolls I like. In this case, I don't think breaking up will affect my love for the dolls. And if I do fall out of love with the doll, I will rehome the doll whether or not we are still together cos to him, it's the act of buying me something I like and not the specific doll itself. Ironically, he is cool about buying dolls/doll stuff for me but not other stuff like bags etc.

 

Honestly, I wouldn't be happy if my current BF buys a doll. I hate it when he pays for me. He has more important things to buy than gifts for me. Now, if he offered to pay shipping or get my doll a wig? I would be happy. But I'd rather he pay for school or his car, than my hobby.If he was more financially sound? I might be okay with it, if it was on the cheaper side, or if we bought it together. But, I don't see my current Bf and I lasting a long time, and that is another factor. If my hubby wanted to buy me a doll, it'd be a sweet gesture.

 

My girlfriend is gonna help me get my second doll together...does that count? So far she has agreed to help me get the head. (If I can't get the last $20.)

I need to sort of frankendoll/mod/hybrid the character...so I am buying pieces, and it will most likely be a slow process, with resin matching and all that.

But we've been together for almost 4 years...and she's always pitched in to help me get things I wouldn't be able too on my own. This is the first time she's been introduced to my doll hobbies though.

I never ask for anything, never been the type to ask. I like trying to do things on my own...but with her I've learned that it is ok to ask for a little help.


Now, I would never want her to buy me a full doll. That's just too much money in my opinion (for the ones I like, at least), I'd feel weird about it. However, it is a gift, and I would cherish it as such.

If we went our separate ways, I would still cherish that doll. My girlfriend has been a positive influence on my life, and is also my best friend. So the doll would be that little slice of heaven that I would get to keep. If that makes sense....?

I know I want to buy her a piggy pipos tho... >.> *hypocrite*

 

I've been with my boyfriend for five years and he's actually getting me a doll for christmas. Once upon a time I would have freaked out in a bad way if he spent so much on me, but things are different now. I feel secure knowing we'll be around each other for a long time and so big gifts like dolls don't seem like such a commitment (since the commitment is already there).

That being said, I would never ask him to get me a 300$ doll or something like that. I'm looking at 200$ or less. And I feel guilty asking for that much.

And I'll be picking the doll out. He knows me well enough to pick a doll on his own, and I told him that, but he still wants me to pick it out to be sure bc of the cost. I think it's sweet. I'd rather him get me a doll I'll love forever than another stuffed animal, chocolates I don't ever eat, or flowers that die in a week.

 

Very much agree! And as expensive as flowers can be, I'd rather just have the doll item anyway!

But I'm noticing a lot of people saying they'd "feel bad" for receiving a gift. Why? This is a concept I can't really comprehend. (I don't mean demanding the gift, I mean if they choose freely to do it.) If the person wants to give you something, and it will make them happy to do so....and it is a doll you'd be happy to own....how is this shared happiness a problem? How can it be wrong or bad to feel happy?

 

I'd let him. My husband likes the creative process and craftsmanship of BJDs and enjoys seeing what I and others do with them. If he offered/wanted to buy me a new doll, I think it'd be fun for us to work together on finding and picking one.

 

Being given a gift automatically creates a sense of needing to give something back of equal or more value. This can create unwanted tension between you and the gift-giver, especially in a relationship. Even if they say it a thousand times they don't want anything back, there's still that feeling that you should be able to give back. To return the favor. If that is not possible, yeah people start feeling bad!

And besides, a lot of people struggle with self-worth issues - deep down, some of us even feel like we're not even worth to be loved in the first place, let alone be given gifts of more than $100. Something as big as a doll or an iPad or even a nice dinner can create a lot of insecurity.

I would absolutely refuse such a big gift. I'm in no need of extra dolls and while the gesture is of course, heartbreakingly sweet, being given something so expensive will just freak me out and trigger my insecurities. Luckily my boyfriend knows this and will let me know in advance when he plans on getting me something expensive (and of course, I will try my best to give back as much as I can). I want equality in my relationship and gifting expensive dollies does not belong there ;p I dunno, I feel belittled I guess?

Still, it is absolutely the sweetest thing to give a doll of course - heck, I would not have any problem giving dolls to others! x'D But I would understand if the one receiving it would feel as objected to it as I do, so... Call me a hypocrite, but I am harsher to myself than to others ;p

 

I have to agree with what people here are saying about having my s/o being financially stable. Or at least, that the gift given wasn't outside their means. Personally, I think that one can get a really decent msd for less than $300 if you pay attention to the Marketplace.

I'm actually planning on buying my best friend a doll, so we're working together to find which molds she likes and what sort of dolls. I promised her I wouldn't let her find out how much they cost, mostly because I'm going to find several she likes and pick one of those to give to her. For me, the reason to give a doll is to share my hobby with someone I love, and since she appreciates the hobby and would get a doll of her own if she had the money, why not?

However, I'd really hope my s/o had taken the time to pick a doll mold I liked, or I might have trouble falling in love with it. ):

 

I would think it would totally depend upon the relationship you had. AND... you can't stop someone from surprising you. I had a friend give me one of her dolls--it was a total surprise.

And no, I am not selling the doll, even though it wasn't ever a condition of the gift (since there were no conditions at all). I'm just sort of attached and sentimental that way... I don't like selling gifts that are that major. If it was something small and unimportant... some shoes or a wig, no big deal. But a doll is important. And I'll always remember how wonderful my friend was to give her to me. That's the big thing about it... If we somehow had a falling out--? I don't know what I'd do then, but probably wouldn't sell the doll just because of that, but would definitely not feel I had to keep the doll, either!

BUT--as a rule, I don't want dolls as gifts! I am picky about what dolls I want and I can afford to get what I want and don't want someone spending their hard-earned money on dolls for me. But if someone really wants to do something, what can you do?

 

It would be nice if my boyfriend did buy me one, but again, I'd rather he spend the money on things that we could do together (like playing Magic!)

Besides, it's something that he's not too versed on so I'd have to help a lot with it~ and I know that he'd end up finding it a bit weird (although he'd still love me regardless) XD

And if we ever did break up, I wouldn't sell it. I'd probably change the style of it so that it becomes less reminiscent of the time we spent together and more a new style on its own OwOb

 

My husband (then boyfriend) was subject to me constantly talking about what I wanted for my first BJD. I would look at eyes and wigs and one doll in particular. A couple of days before our wedding, we go to meet up with his dad and his dad gives us a gift of quite a bit of money. We were both shocked and very grateful but I didn't think anything else of it. In fact, I wondered about putting it towards our honeymoon.

We get in the car to leave and he turns to me and says: "I'm buying a really nice FX lightsaber. You still want that doll of yours?" I flipped and was like "OMG YEEEESSSSS~ are you sure I can have it?" A month later, got my boy in the mail~!

 

I would actually be really nervous to let a partner buy me a doll. For a start I would feel horrible if they got me one I just didn't like and felt obligated to keep. Secondly I would feel guilty about price. And lastly Id be scared about the outcome. Even if they got me a doll from my wishlist that I loved, id be worried about the relationship breaking down and then been left looking at a doll I once really wanted and possibly been sad/angry and the person who got me them. I don't want to emotionally link a doll to someone. I realise I may be over thinking this but still!

 

I wouldn't let anyone buy me one. If they wanted to add a little to the sum for a birthday that would be ok though.

 

I actually wouldn't mind a person, be it boyfriend, husband, just a close friend or anyone buying me a doll. I guess there'd be a part of me that would feel bad, in a 'why didn't you get something you wanted instead?' way, but I'd definitely appreciate it and love the doll, regardless if I broke up with that boy, or whatever, even if it was a doll that I didn't like at all, I'd find a way to make it work for me! Maybe that's because I don't expect anyone to buy me a doll, since I don't have a boyfriend and none of my friends can actually afford a full doll, haha.

 

I'm married, and my husband enjoys getting gifts for me. However, I am more of the practical sort, and would rather we just take care of the family and the house instead of get pricey gifts for each other. In the past, I've gotten jewelry, clothes, shoes, handbags, gift cards, which I've enjoyed, but felt that the money could have been used for other more necessary reasons. He's recently expressed interest in gifting me with a doll...but I've so far told him that I don't want him to buy me one. I prefer to keep the doll purchases as something I fund myself, whether it be by selling things I no longer use, or saving up on my own. I guess my reason for this is because it's my doll collection, and the dolls make me happy, but really have no effect on my husband other than him being happy for me. I'd rather we spend the money on something we could both enjoy--like spending time together, just my husband and I, going out to eat at a nice restaurant, and maybe going to the movies or to a concert.