Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

I don't know. I wouldn't want them to buy me a BJD.
My taste in BJDs in my opinion can be quite expensive. Also, What would happen if we break up?
Will they try to destroy the doll in front of me? I would be way too frightened, I would debate if i should tell them about my hobby in the first place. This is a very personal hobby of mine and I would feel awful if they ostracized me for it. It seems like people still aren't that accepting of people who collect BJDs anyway. If I were married to the person and i know our relationship isn't temporary, I might be okay with them buying me a BJD. I don't know though. I am at a point in my life where I wouldn't even want a close relative to buy me a doll. Out of fear that they would ridicule and mock me or make me feel guilty for being in this hobby to begin with. Hopefully, I will end up with someone that will understand my odd quirks and interests. Someone who will accept me for who I am .

 

I'd be way too concerned at why they are spending so much on me. I could possibly do half/half. I really like surprise gifts. Cause it really is fun to see what people come up with for a human.

 

I was a lot like you! My family knows about the dolls, but no prices, and they only found out 3 years into my time in the hobby! I told my girlfriend about my mental illness and my unconventional pets (a cat sized lizard) and some of my trauma before I told her about the dolls, I think because I knew if she was weird about any of those other things I could just write her off as a bad person or as incompatible. The dolls felt different.

we had been dating for almost a year and a half the first time I mentioned my dolls, and it was only cause she was feeling vulnerable cause she’d just wanted to show me her stuffed animal collection, and she wasn’t sure what I thought. So I told her about dolls. I showed her pics of dolls, I kind of just went “this is all you will ever hear me talk about.” And she thinks dolls are the coolest thing I do. There are some awesome people out there who will think your dolls are awesome.

I 100% get your hesitation to let anyone you’re not marrying buy you dolls. One of my biggest regrets when I broke up with my ex is that she had 3 event tinies that were mine, that I “lost in the divorce” so to speak, which is another thing that’s turned me off ‘sharing’ dolls—and those were ones I still paid for!

 

That is so sweet!
I am so sorry about your 3 event tinies. That really sucks.

 

Loptr is a career single. But I have received dolls as gifts. Actually, I started by giving them away, but then a friend and my parents surprised me with a head or a cheaper doll on four occasions. Straight-up blew my mind, and still does if I'm honest. There's an incredible person here on DoA who has given me full dolls out of the blue, twice, and traded me a body for a head. I will probably never stop paying it forward. I've bought first dolls for three different online friends, and now have the opportunity to do something I've always wanted to: help someone I know in person get into BJDs.

That said, the biggest difference between getting a doll from a friend or acquaintance is that it's not from a romantic partner. Negative feelings can surround any object that comes from them if the relationship fails. I admit that I've never had that issue with my stuff- the Taeyang doll and handmade gifts I have kept from a former friend always remind me of our good years, even though we parted on bad terms. If the partner offers, you should always consider carefully where your relationship is, where it's going, if they have any history of manipulating you through gifts/gestures, and whether your comfort level in owning that object might change should something bad happen.

...At the same time, they're offering to buy you a BJD. Most people wouldn't blame you for just saying 'yes!'

 

my husband always tell me that i spend so much money in my collection, but he supports me!! but sometimes i dont tell him until the figure arrives at home!!

 

I would have absolutely no problem, as long as its a doll I like and they aren't spending waaaaaay to much. If the person I was dating was in a less than okay financial sitch I would be okay gong havsies or them only paying for accessories or less expensive parts.
Most of the people that buy me gifts have no idea about my taste in dolls and will not spend more than 100 dollars on a doll, and I prefer MSDs and SDs. Soooo I doubt it.

 

I don't think I would have been comfortable with a boyfriend or girlfriend spending that much money on me in the first place. With relationships that have a very decent chance of ending, it just has far too much potential to get ugly. I'm married and honestly I still wouldn't want my wife to pay for anything that was beyond MSD sized, unless we'd recently gotten a really big financial windfall. I'd be incredibly touched by that kind of gesture, though, and if we were certain it was financially okay, I'd let her get me something.

I doubt she'd get me something I disliked because my wife is pretty in tune with my tastes and is also a fairly cautious person, so she'd probably make sure I was okay with whatever she'd picked out. On the off chance that she did, though, I don't think I could keep on disliking it for long. Thinking about how she cared enough about me to pick something out for me would automatically make me have warm and fuzzy feelings towards the doll, even if it was an ugly thing. I would never be able to bring myself to sell it.

 

I think if you're comfortable in your relationship and comfortable in your finances, maybe. But I've seen and heard so many stories of dolls bought by partners-turned-exes that lead to resenting the doll. I know that I personally would never ask my partner to buy me a doll, nor would I accept one as a gift (and she's tried lmao) but I do, however, accept clothes, wigs, etc. as gifts. I think there's a certain responsibility you feel when you buy yourself a BJD, whether it be $150 or $1500 that you don't necessarily experience when receiving one as a gift.

But hey, if you're in a relationship where spending hundreds of dollars on eachother is normal and you guys understand eachother's interests like that - then more power to you, go for it!

 

I would let them buy me a doll. But if I didn't like it I wouldn't sale it I would probably just box it up and store it but I would definitely let my wife or family but me one.

 

Since dolls are much more expensive than a gift I might normally expect for any occasion and since it's a highly personal hobby for me I will say that yes, I would be ok with someone giving me a gift of a doll if they took the time to ask me first for my consent. My personal background is that I have received manipulation gifts in my life and basically it's a terrible experience so the least they can do is ask first. After that I mean I think it makes sense to ask after some dolls I personally already know of and would consider ordering if they are planning to go to the trouble of that. I guess there's the very slim possibility that maybe you have a good friend and they find a thrift store bjd and want to give it to you or something in which case eh I guess all the rigamorole can be waved. It's nice to be thought of, and that is the reason for most gifts.
I can't possibly keep everything anyone ever gave me if I don't like it so I would hope the gift giver would understand that that might happen eventually. I wouldn't want to turn around and immediately sell it though. I would at least want to make a solid effort to "use" it first unless it was so off that I just didn't feel I could accept it in the first place. God how awkward that would be

 

I would definitely say no. If this was near the start of our relationship I would be uncomfortable with it and if this was when we were very close I still believe the money would be more useful saved up something more important in our future. Most importantly if I broke up with them I wouldn’t like to associate a bad memory with a nice doll!

 

There are many things I have grown to dislike because of people no longer in my life, but dolls have never been one of them. If a partner wants to pay that much money to shower me with a gift, I'd be...okay with it on that aspect at least. I'd have to REALLY trust them for me to not worry they'll use it as leverage against me later, though.

 

I asked him for one and he says I don't need a Kiki collection to match my furby collection

 

my partner buys me a lot of things honestly, they spoil me a little bit hahaha! They've bought me furbies, soooo much yarn, two lolita fashion dresses and even doll clothes at one point. They did also help me get my grail doll, a volks Hewitt so i guess that counts! They're kind of uncomfortable with spending a lot of money at once tho so id never outright ask unless I got another grail. Im so grateful to my current partner tho they really support me and my ways of expressing myself!

 

My wife actually bought me my first doll! It makes her all the more special I definitely don't ever plan on selling her, as she is one I really wanted!

 

I would say yes, but with the caveat that I choose where he buys it. Since my fiance knows nothing about dolls, I wouldn't want him to mistakenly buy a recast. I want to say that I'd want to choose what sculpt he buys, but honestly I think it'd be interesting to see what he'd choose and have it be a surprise.

If he were to choose a doll, I feel like he'd choose Ring Doll's Jee. I showed it to him last week because I thought it was cute and funny, and he actually really liked it, haha! I personally wouldn't choose that doll for myself, but I also wouldn't say no and would keep it. I doubt he'd ever buy me one, though. My birthday was on Saturday and prior to that he asked me if I wanted anything and I said, "there's not really anything I want other than some dolls," and he was basically like "yeah, no." lol

 

My partner mentioned a couple of times that he really wants to buy me a doll as a gift, specifically the one I was often talking to him about. But he does not know the name of the sculpt and I feel too ashamed and awkward to tell him even when he’s asking about it because of the price It’s a minifee by the way… He is not in the hobby as well, so without my help he wouldn’t even know where to look for it. Even though I would cherish the doll twice as hard if my partner were to gift it to me, no matter the sculpt, I don’t want to put this financial burden on him.

 

I rather be married or engaged first, these dolls are too expensive imo for a gift from a BF/GF!

 

My partner HAS bought me a couple of dolls; some were even a surprise. We've been together quite a while now, so they know what I like pretty well.