Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

My husband has bought me a doll as a birthday gift, but he knew which doll I really wanted. I’m not sure I would’ve wanted him to do so back when we were dating though - like many have mentioned if it hadn’t worked out or something I might feel weird about keeping the doll. Also we were in a very different financial situation back then - I probably would’ve been upset with him spending that much. But now I’ll happily accept a doll as a present from him lol!

 

I wouldn't mind but I'd tell them what to buy. Dolls are expensive, so I wouldn't want them to make a bad buy. However, I think I would probably love any doll that my partner picked for me!

 

My boyfriend has bought me a doll before, and he always checks and listens to me about what I'm interested in. He's good at making mental notes of dolls I like x3

I would say yes, as we both frequently get each other things! We both support each other's hobbies strongly.
He's super into Warhammer 40k, so I'm usually buying him a lot of models for that, and he buys me dolls and doll clothes :3

 

I'm not dating anyone right now, but I would be pretty happy if my significant other got me a doll. If I got a doll I didn't like, I'd probably try and regift it or try and force myself to like it (lol). Selling it might be an option as well.

 

I would say no. BJDs a LOT of money and I would be pretty uncomfortable accepting it. If the relationship ever ended, I would be very uncomfortable keeping something so valuable. If I needed to end the relationship, the guilt would be one more thing holding me back.
A husband would be different. I would know the financial situation very closely, he’d know my preferences better, and I don’t see ending as an open possibility (outside of an extreme situation) the way I would with dating.

 

My exes bought me dolls in the past. It didn't ended well with them neither the dolls LOL so I took it as a sign of not letting people buying me dolls.

I could accept a head or complements, but not the whole thing.

 

I would think in a GF/BF relationship, I would say no. I remember buying a $500 TV for my 1st BF and we broke up. I was so glad that I didn't give him the gift and kept it for myself. So in case of a doll, it would be the same thing after that experience. Anything over $100 I would flat out say no to. I mean who knows in that sort of relationship if it's going to go somewhere or fail. Then you have to worry about giving all that stuff back or not. UGH.

But if it was my husband buying me a doll. I would be like what computer stuff do you want? He knows the drill, I get dollies and he gets computer stuff.

 

I would not accept a doll as a gift from someone I'm not married to - that's just too much of a money sink for me to be comfortable with. However, my husband has and does "gift" me dolls/doll stuff on occasion! I put gift in quotations because we're both picky about our hobbies, so our "gifting" ritual is that we set a budget, buy what we want ourselves, then let the other person wrap it for the appropriate holiday/event. It's a bit unorthodox for some people's taste, but it works for us.

I have yet to have difficulty bonding with a doll that was gifted, but I would assume that selling it and repurposing those funds for something else that I would enjoy more would be fine with him.

 

I would like to emphasise what you said, Thespian, because it is something that has happened to me. I found out I was going to get a doll on layaway and tried to help, but my ex refused. I asked him to, please, not touch it when the doll arrived. I needed to be the one to open the box and wear it for the first time. It's weird, I know, but it's like a little welcoming ritual for me.
One day I found the doll dressed, without the box on my desk. It was one of my grails at the time and I could never embody a character in it.
So yes. I think that buying a doll yourself or having certain habits when opening it and spending the first few days with it helps bonding.

 

This does remind me of a husband story that is tangentially related. I purchased a LTF Luna at one point, my first Yo-SD, but didn't have the extra funds to get her a wig for a hot minute. I generally don't name dolls until they have all of their stuff, so she was nameless as well as bald for a bit. My now-husband (then-boyfriend) took to calling her Caillou, and even long after I'd obtained a wig for her and named her, I couldn't shake the Caillou association and ultimately never bonded with her. My husband remains very apologetic about that whole fiasco and no longer offers commentary on my incomplete dolls.

 

OH MY!
I can imagine! Well at least he apologised and didn't do it again.

 

I would tell them exactly what dolls I want

 

Several years ago, my husband knew I was saving up for a doll from an artist who I wanted several dolls from. At the time $800 was a significant amount of money and I could only save up for one doll over a period of about five years. Secretly! Behind my back! Without ever giving a hint that he was plotting! My husband managed to save up a matching amount of money. When I went to place my order and try to decide between two dolls, he let me know I didn't have to choose.

 

My husbund asked me about this before and I told him I prefered him not to... I like to pick out dolls that I like and I enjoy the process. But if it is doll accessories that would be fine.

 

I'd direct my partner toward a few of the ones I really want to choose from! And make sure to show them legit sources and explain that no, the cheep options you find on aliexpress and similar places are counterfeits and nnnot a magical good deal.

I'd definitely show them some of the LESS expensive ones I want in particular. I might even suggest they get me things like doll clothes/shoes/wigs/eyes/etc that I've been really wanting instead! Again, I'd show them wishlists I have on different sites. I'm at one of those points where most of my dolls are just wearing temporary outfits/wigs while I work on building up their looks, so in a way I'd appreciate those things more than another doll just now! Unless it's, like, my grail or something . . but finding him would be an actual miracle ahaha.

 

Then they better have a fat wallet because I'm taking them for all they're worth!

 

As others have said, if its okay economically for them and they want to, I would be excited. I do kind of treat dolls as something that comes to me instead of me actively looking for a right one.

 

I'm happy for my partner getting himself stuff he wants for whatever the cost and me spending on things I want, but we have agreed not to gift expensive things to each other so we don't have the pressure to match it up financially. So in this sense, I don't think buying a doll for a gift would ever come in question, really. I'd definitely cherish it should it be the case, however! I'd just hope it was an in-stock option

 

My husband "gifted" me a doll for my birthday a couple of years ago, in the sense that he gave me the money so I could purchase it. It was really sweet of him and, while that doll isn't my favorite for a few reasons, the fact he got it for me makes it special. He's always side-eyed the heck out of my doll hobby- he appreciates that I enjoy it and he's very supportive, but the cost makes him uncomfortable. Once I kind of got through to him that a lot of his "totally necessary and not for fun" things are indeed for fun (tools that aren't actually for house projects, replacing his car that died with a hybrid he really wanted instead of a cheaper car, etc), he started understanding it more. I'm fairly certain he actually ordered me a doll for Christmas, based on a snippet of a text conversation he accidentally showed me, and I'm very excited!

 

My bf has bought me other eccentric things that I collect that cost a fraction of what bjds usually go for, but I don't for a secod doubt that he wouldn't buy me one if the chance to do so came. Of course he would ask me for guidance and I would give him step-by-step instructions on what doll to buy and from where and how
So yes, I would accept a doll as a gift from him! And there's no chance he could get me one I wouldn't like, he knows me very well