Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

I haven't had anyone to buy me a doll. However my girlfriend gave one of her dolls to me as she felt she couldn't bond with it and I on the other hand fell in love. At first I was super uncomfortable about taking the doll when I knew how much money it had cost. We had only been together for a couple of months and it just felt wrong! I knew I could never do anything to her that would even compare to this...
But, after couple of weeks thinking, I decided to take her. I know I would give it back to her anytime if she wanted, or if we broke up. I'm still not a 100% sure if I made the right decision : D

But if she, or someone else would want to actually buy me a doll in the future I would still be strongly against it, mainly because of the money. I have some money on my bank account that I got since my mother passed, so it would be ridiculous to think that someone with less money than me would my an expensive but in the long run useless luxury item to me. A doll wig or clothes for gifts are fine, other than that would cause me more guilt headache than happiness I think.

 

If my boyfriend wanted to buy me a doll, I would let him. However we are getting very serious and may get engaged any time now. I think it's different for someone who is with a guy/girl in a relationship that probably would not last much longer. Without wanting it to or not, the doll will probably become an association for the person that left you/you left.

I spend hundreds of dollars sometimes for his model airplane hobby, so why shouldn't he spend hundreds on my hobby? I think he has been hinting at buying me a doll anyway!

 

My boyfriend kept saying he would buy me a doll for about 6 months and I kept telling him no. He eventually suckered me into telling him which doll I wanted and in doing so, I ended up giving him the link to where he could buy it! He then teased that he was going to just do it behind my back until I finally just gave in.

I still call the doll his, though. Just because he bought it. P: Which he's fine with. xD

 

My 2 dolls were paid for by my boyfriend of 2 years. He's actually planning to get me either outfits or a doll as an engagement present. It was kind of cute to hear him describe it, saying he was glad I have small fingers because he can only afford an MSD XD
It's sweet, but I'm uncomfortable with the idea of people spending that much money on me, and my current dolls don't feel quite like mine. If he wants to chip in or something, I'm willing to count it as a birthday present but I want in to actually make my girls mine

 

Ok, we did it. I had to choose the doll I wanted and he gave me the money for it. He would never choose a doll himself because he isn't enough into BJDs yet to know what exactly I want. And now I am really happy with it, even though we talk about a lot of money here. We are getting really serious even if some people say it's too early. I can't wait to get this doll, she will probably be my favourite! I'm just not sure how to stop him from buying me a doll every month now... o.O

 

I don't do the dating thing at all, but I have had friends give me dolls, which I have really appreciated, and have given friends dolls as gifts as well.

I certainly don't expect anything back from my friends because I enjoy giving them things, and I really don't care what they do with the gift once I give it to them. I don't buy into the whole idea that receiving a gift automatically makes me indebted to the gift giver or obligated to keep that gift forever. It's mine now, I can do what I want with it. If someone were to give me grief over that, they clearly don't know me very well at all and too bad?

I personally find more commonplace gifts like flowers a complete waste of money as well as just overall a dumb gift. I don't like flowers and they have no use besides smelling up a house. It shows more thought to buy something that is more tailored to the person's interests. My older sister did once try to see if she could buy me a doll for Christmas by talking to my best friend, and my best friend suggested to her to buy me a new camera instead as I could also use that to enjoy my dolls without ending up buying the wrong doll. That was a very surprising and much appreciated gift.

 

It would be up to him but I don't like people spending money on me so I would probably try to dissuade him Also depending on what he wanted to do I would probably encourage him to buy me one of the cheaper dolls on my list or even clothes or accessories for the dolls I already have.

 

Actually, my story is a bit different. My ex, with whom I had a relationship for two years, left me over a huge misunderstanding. When he came back to me a couple months later, asking me to take him back, he told me he'd bought me something he thought I'd appreciate. I didn't know until later that the 'somethibg' was a 400 dollar doll, and the first one I will be getting, too. He really knows how to impress a girl. ^_^;

 

If my boyfriend would buy me a doll I would be very happy and thankful that they would go this far to get me something I've always wanted. I would probably do the same in return and give them something of equal value to whatever they wanted. If they got me a doll I didn't like I would still keep it and treasure it because it came from someone I truly care and love about and I couldn't just take their hard work of getting one go to waste. I would never try to sell it because that would just be mean and rude.

 

My boyfriend of two years bought me my first doll. We're young, yes, but he gets an enormous allowance and his parents pay him to study more than an average student, so he can more than afford it. I would never ask him for a doll- the one he bought me was a Christmas present, it wasn't just for giggles. Of course I tried to persuade him not to, but once he gets an idea in his head of how to spoil me, it's hard to change his mind. (But I'd be lying if I said I didn't secretly like it.) I did actually end up selling her, but made sure it was 100% okay with him first, and I like to think I'm pretty good at gauging his reactions by now. However, the money that I got from selling her got me my grail doll, so all's well that ends well I suppose

 

A dear friend of mine got me a fullset JID Isar for her birthday. Yeah, we have an odd relationship.

 

Well, receiving a doll as a gift wouldn't be new to me, my boy was a christmas present from a friend. I do, on occasion, feel a bit guilty that she spends so much money on me when I could never pay it back in any way (at least not within the foreseeable future), but on the other hand she knows that so it's her decision. Now, if it was a boyfriend/girlfriend it would depend on the state of the relationship; if it was a very new relationship I would get suspicious, if it was a serious one I would just be very very happy. And either way, if it went beyond words and they actually got me one, I would keep it, simply because I wouldn't have the heart to say no. That is, as long as they spent their own money and there were no strings attached.
As for getting a doll as a surprise, with no idea beforehand that I would get it, I hope everyone that knows me knows not to do that, because I don't handle surprises well at all, and something that big would be likely to cause me a mental breakdown

 

Ha! I would be very shocked considering how much they creep him out!

However, also, secretly thrilled.

 

I've bought my wife 4 dolls. I would never just pick one out at random, though; she picks them out, and I pay for them and save them for a special occasion. And she's getting me one for Christmas. She's going to a lot of trouble to make sure all the details are perfect, commissioning a faceup and getting a wig I like, and she's going to make him an outfit by hand, I think. I don't know *all* the details because he's supposed to be at least partially a surprise. lol

 

My twin sister bought me my first doll for our birthday. It's different, because we're a) siblings and b) twins, but I think if anyone but her bought me a doll I would feel uncomfortable.

 

First of all, I'd have to be the one picking the doll he purchased me, because I'm pretty picky on what sculpts I like and I don't really have any room or desire for dolls I'm not interested in. Secondly, I'd only accept a gift of that kind of monetary magnitude from someone I'd been with for a long time/was very serious with. Then again, I have difficulty accepting gifts anyways.

 

My ex never payed his half of the utilities, and often failed to give Christmas/Birthday presents, not just to me, but to his immediate family, so I would be pretty stunned if a future significant other gave me something so valuable. After more than eight years with HIM, the bar is set pretty low.

Having said that, I think that I would be pleased, because I also like to give extravagant gifts, as circumstances permit. It's fun as long as the other person isn't blatantly taking advantage of you. The only thing that might put me off of receiving such a gift is if it was given in the spirit of a bribe, with some sort of weighty expectation attached, rather than freely as something to make me happy, without ulterior motive. I would like to think that I've become a good enough judge of character to not date someone who would do that, but there's no predicting the future.

If I received a doll as a gift with no strings attached, I probably wouldn't ever sell it as long as I was still in a relationship with the person who gave it to me. Even if it wasn't my favorite sculpt, it could probably be modded to something that appealed to me more. If we broke up and the doll reminded me of painful things, then to the marketplace it would go.

 

Being the daughter of a skilled and hard-working florist, I can't help but mention that flowers as a gift aren't any more wasteful or thoughtless a gift than a doll, or plenty of other gifts with no immediate and obvious practical value. Of course it's a personal preference what kinds of gifts people like or give, but I feel compelled to point that out.


I always imagined myself to be the shameless type of girl who'd like being 'spoiled' by a boyfriend with gifts and things, regardless of how people seem to frown on such 'gold-digging' behavior. I'm selfish, materialistic, greedy, and I've never had a problem accepting and asking for gifts from family! But, well, I realized that when I'm actually confronted with some guy or friend trying to always treat me or cover my tab, at my core I'm not at all comfortable with it. I'll feel like I 'owe' them, and a part of me that's a mix of pride and responsibility will be tapping its foot in silent displeasure.

I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but at this point in time it seems like "There's no way I could accept such a thing!"? And, well, a doll is a very personal object (for me), not like things like flowers, or even doll clothes and things. If someone got me the doll as a gift, I would associate.

But then again, I wonder that maybe if I bothered to have a significant other, wouldn't I want to aim for that person to be someone that I'm comfortable and close enough with that I could consider accepting such a gift, just like I am with family? Hmm, and in that case I don't know. But I would think if such were the case I'd still ask for a cheaper doll. Even with family, the upper limits of my comfort level was to ask for one of the cheapest BJDs around at $110 for a birthday.

I can't imagine selling a doll that someone gave me; I'm too sentimental for that--about people, sure, but especially about objects and toys like dolls. Well, unless someone surprised me with a doll that I genuinely didn't like, like if I found it creepy. In that case, there's nothing that can fix that problem XD ! But if the doll itself isn't out of my 'aesthetic comfort zone' I would most likely give it my all to make the doll work for me, even if they don't fit perfectly in my collection. Though honestly, in the end I'd really prefer they ask me first what doll I'd like instead of try and 'surprise me', since my doll plans are rather specific.

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If they had the money and it was for an occasional that warranted it like a birthday or graduation I would have no problem with it. But given the kind of guys I date it would be highly unlikely.

 

My ex got me a Souldoll Delmia for Christmas one year - but I got him the same money's worth of his hobby. I didn't bond with her and so sold her eventually, but again, he sold some of his too. But of course I told him which doll I wanted, it's too much money to risk just for the element of surprise.