Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

I would definitely freak out, too! I doubt my boyfriend would get me a doll out of the blue, though. Won't stop me from dreaming about him getting me a BJD I want and proposing to me with it. :P

I never lied to him about how much the dolls cost, so he knows exactly what he'll be getting into if he even dares to get me a BJD. XD

 

I personally think it's a sweet gesture, just as it would be if they surprised you with anything else you really loved. The only problem is that it's very hard to convey to another person that "thing" you're looking for when searching for a doll and has the potential to turn out an epic fail if bf/gf just picks any random doll as a surprise gift. It would be a different story if they knew of a doll you already had picked out and surprised with that one.

In my bf, I've created a monster. When I first met him the idea of surprising someone with a gift was like something out of a syfy movie...no one had ever done it for him, so he never thought to do it for someone else. That changed quickly, we've been together for close to 3yrs now and I often come home to some surprise box sitting on the entertainment center or some other obscure place in the house. I always know when something is awry because he has this giddy look on his face and follows me around the house like a puppy (his version of stealth) so he's close by to see my reaction when I discover said box. I've learned to be very careful about uttering the passing phrase "Ooh I bet it would be cool to have one of those" or anything similar. So when I first started looking at BJDs and shared my interest with him, I laid down the law.....no doll comes into this house with my approval and he understands that. He collects Lakers/Magic Johnson memorabilia and has quite an extensive and outrageously expensive collection, so he "gets it" in that the gesture of a gift in and of itself would be appreciated, but there's more to collecting than just having a piece that falls under the umbrella...it has to have meaning or worth to the person receiving it. I afford him the same courtesy in his collecting, so I have no doubt he will do the same for me. And in the end no feelings are hurt should the gift receiver not want the item.

 

My ex-boyfriend used to spoil me with expensive clothes all the time. I really hated it. I think his habit of buying me expensive gifts contributed to our break-up because receiving such expensive gifts stressed me out. Didn't help that his mom eventually disliked me for that, as if I was ordering her son to buy me expensive stuff.

I can only imagine my horror if someone bought me a doll! I think husbands and relatives and really good friends are fine but someone like... a boyfriend... I think I'll be driven to tears from sheer stress. (I suppose I also have a problem with accepting gifts.)

 

My boyfriend has already bought me a couple of dolls
He actually bought my first for me as a very extravagant birthday present. I've never worried about getting one I didn't like as he understands that these dolls need to be chosen by their owners - that's part of the reason they are special - so he has always asked or simply remembered the ones I want. I know for a fact the he actually has a list hidden somewhere on his computer of the dolls I want, the skin tones I want them in and the websites he can get them from LOL I'm very lucky

 

I wouldn't turn down a gift, even if it was something I didn't like.

If someone did give me a doll that I didn't like, I would keep it around even if I didn't bond with the doll or anything... although if I later broke up with that person and still had no attachment to the doll, I would most likely sell it after the relationship ended.

 

Good for you Viscera, and Fiarene. My ex-husband got me my very first BJD almost two years ago. I still get a doll for my birthday, and Xchris every year. He has order Annabel from Illusion Spirit for my birthday this year. Like you said Viscera I am not about to turn down the gift of a BJD if someone got it for me. My niece has a part time job, and would very much like to buy me a doll, but I told her that I did not want her to buy me a doll becuase they cost to much for her that she could buy my dolls cloths, shoes, and wigs that will make me just as happy as getting a new doll

 

I recently bought my fiancee two dolls--but they were both dolls she wanted and picked out. I'd be pretty uncomfortable with choosing a doll for someone else, since I'm so nitpicky about them, myself. Years ago, I bought the girl I was dating a doll, and while she loved him to bits, I don't think she really bonded with him the way she would've if she'd bought him herself. (But then, he was also her first doll. And she's since fallen out of the hobby. Alas!)

I don't think I'd turn down the possibility of a gift, though, but I'd try to get involved in selecting which doll, at least! I'd feel terrible if I didn't like a gift like that. Both for my partner/whoever was buying the doll for me, because there's no way not to mean well doing that, and for the doll. It's not either of their faults I'm super-picky!

 

That is the key to buying a gift for any one, or any thing. You always want to make sure that it is something that they want. Also something that will make them very happy to get. Because in turn it will make you happy too

 

I don't think I'd let him buy me one. it's way too expensive for a gift! if they wanted to give me $100 to go toward dolls and doll related things, then Ok. I'd be immensively grateful.
but a whole doll is way too much and there is always the risk he gets the wrong thing it would really suck if that much money was wasted!
and I would hate to feel I can NEVER sell the doll because it was a gift. I am the kind of person who always renew their collection so that would tick me off ....

 

I had never had anyone just surprise me with a gift of any kind before, and my now-husband was all about that. We dated for four years before we got married, and we were pretty serious/talking marriage after about nine months of dating. So, I'd say I would never have let him buy me anything expensive that early on in our relationship, but as we got serious it stopped bothering me. We still keep our accounts secret so we can buy each other the gifts we want without the other necessarily knowing about it..for example, I never even knew he had bought my wedding ring, and we keep each other up to date on finances. I think each couple works things out the way that is best for them. So, a casual boyfriend? Definitely not. A serious boyfriend or husband? That's fine if they want to.

 

I highly doubt my husband would ever buy me a doll, but if he ever offered, I would strongly suggest that we pick it out together since he has no idea what I'd want, or even where to begin looking. I'd also try and keep it to an MSD or Puki since those are marginally cheaper than an SD. Or maybe even go second-hand.

Although I think I'd prefer for him to go halfs with me, rather than pay for the whole thing. It would still be a lot of money, but not nearly as potentially guilt-inducing as him paying the full price.

 

Seeing as my fiance is just begun to take interest in my hobby, I would encourage him to help me help him decide. He recently wanted to purchase a doll for me because he saw that I has bought one for my mother. However, I knew exactly what she was looking for and where to find it. He does not know which doll companies I like, what sizes I prefer, and what molds I like. Perhaps it would be different if I gave him some sort of list.

 

I tend to associate things too much (if I hear a song, I'm always reminded of the place I was when I first heard that song, when I go to specific places I always remember the person who took me there first), so getting a doll from someone will make it ultra special form me, even if I don't love the sculpt, as long as it is not horrendous or a specific sculpt I despise.

And I always make such a big fuss over the sculpt I love that it would be VERY easy for someone to get one of the dolls I love.

Now "keeping" a boyfriend long enough so that he'd be interested in buying a doll for me... now that's the tricky part.

 

I know for sure that I wouldn't sell a present. I love so many dolls that it would be hard to get one I don't like. Besides, prior getting my Sayuri I though that Obitsu Gretel is much more beautiful sculpt than Haruka but after seeing my girl in person I fell in love with her sculpt. I'm sure the same would happen to all dolls I'm currently not really fond of. Also, I tend to gradually fall in love with things. But if I had a boyfriend who wanted to do such a thing, I would probably ask him to decide together.

 

No boyfriend/husband/fiance here who's buy me dolls. Also, my folks wouldn't buy me dolls. Which is perfect since they know I prefer to be given money so I can buy a doll myself. My sister once gave me a coat for Luken, though, that she made herself for Christmas. He was home with my people for a while until I could pick him up before he arrived so I guess she secretly measured him. I was really surprised and thought it was very nice. The coat didn't really fit Luken's style (it's a medieval garment and Luken's more the black-leather-rocker-type) but as it turns out it's perfect for Tharesion. So - yay!

A doll, though - they're just too expensive. I'm getting the Hot Toys Loki figure for Christmas this year and though it's considerably cheaper than a BJD, I still feel kinda - bad about having my folks give me something that expensive.

 

I think it depends on the relationship. If it was a new relationship then I'd discourage it. If we'd been together for a while I might feel awkward about it but I'd be grateful that he gifted me with something so awesome. If he asked I might just tell him no. If he insisted I'd pick the cheapest doll on my list or even a body (I need bodies!!!!). If it was a surprise with a doll I didn't like I'd probably strip the face and redo it. Then again, he'd probably buy me a blank doll knowing how much I love doing face ups.

I don't think I'd say no if he just handed me one as a surprise but I wouldn't ask or encourage. Really, doll clothes and shoes are what I need right now so I'd rather have that than a whole doll.

 

My bf got me a doll for my birthday and i was so surprised but its how i found out that he really liked them xD i didnt really like bobobie/resinsoul as much since theyre really slim and loose but he got me a bobobie song but i still love him a lot and would never dream of selling him or trading him =)

 

I would definitely let my boyfriend spend that much money on me, lol, but we have been together for over two years and are getting married soon. If he wanted to buy me one, I would just show him some of the sculpts I like, and let him choose. I would probably not sell it even if I didn't like it, because I have a really hard time selling or donating presents I've received, especially from family. I suppose I would rather have him contribute to the doll I am getting, like buying her a dress or a new wig or something, instead of a whole doll. I'm not saying 5 months is not a serious relationship, but it is pretty early to have him spend THAT much. But if he wants to, and you know you won't feel awkward about the doll if you broke up, then I can't see a problem with it.

 

Haha, actually...I think my fiance' is planning something for Christmas. Before I bought my doll (at 4am this morning), he kept saying, "Don't worry, we'll get you one. Besides, our first Christmas alone together will be here soon." And you know what...after what he paid for the ring, XD he can just go right ahead and buy a doll. Besides, I also mentioned that having one would keep me company if he gets deployed. lmao.
And I have already shown him the dolls/sculpts I like. Shouldn't be too hard for him. XD And there wouldn't be a way for me to not like it. Anything I'd get from him is instantly loved. I would probably never sell it.