Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

I generally don't like people buying me anything - it's awkward and it makes me think I should buy them something in return. Also, I feel like I have to keep it around forever, and with dolls there's a great chance that I'd want to sell them at some point to fund new doll purchases. Furthermore, I'd have to tell the guy exactly what BJD I want, because it would be horrible to get one I hated - I'm terrible at pretending to like something. I wouldn't mind getting a less expensive type of doll (like a Pullip) as a gift, but never a BJD - even tinies cost more than what I'd want someone to spend on me.

 

My SO and I have been together for 5 years- almost 6- and known each other for 12! In the past year, he's helped me fund a few dolls, and straight out bought me two- one that has to wait until Christmas, but also a Crobidoll Marisol as a gift for getting into my course

I've also bought him a F60 Chloe, and am planning his MNF DES as I type- to me, because we live together and know our expenses and limits, it's not a bad thing for him to buy for me- and we both agree we'd rather spend $650 on something we know each other would like, than lots of little presents that are almost insignificant

 

my s/o and i have intermingled finances, in other words we put both our assets into the same bank account (at least 90% of them) and treat them as joint funds for our hobby/collecting pursuits, tho each of us budgets separately per month (as in, take note of what we spend and when). so it would have to be a "surprise", since he can spend my money and i can spend his, so to speak. it's the thought that counts more than the action.

honestly i would hope he would not surprise me with a doll unless he knew exactly what i wanted because of this. i would much rather he bought me a nice outfit for my dolls or accessory for them than an actual new doll, because that could be something *he* chose that *my* dolls could wear. in the same line of thought, he buys me a lot of jewellery, and i always like it, so i would like it if he did similar things FOR my dolls rather than getting me new one.

again - thought, surprise are what matters, not the assets since we share those.

edit to say: been together about 4-5 years

 

I wouldn't let a boyfriend buy me a doll - heck, I wouldn't let a friend buy me a doll. That's just too much money spent on a gift for me. I would have this weird sense of being in-debt to them, and it would make me uncomfortable.

 

My husband has offered to buy me a doll of my choice for christmas, to which I have said yes. However I wouldn't like him to buy me a doll outside of special occasions as they can be quite expensive and its better that he uses his money on other things.

I think that the doll he buys will have special meaning to me and will be treasured like everything he has bought me over the years.

 

I had an ex buy me a doll I didn't like. She was cute, but not for me. I kept her because it reminded me that I had someone who cared enough about me to support my odd hobby (odd by others that is). Well after the whole break-up went down I had no reserves about selling her. At least now I know she's with a doll owner that can really appreciate her. :P

 

My boyfriend is buying me my first doll He promised it as an anniversary present, but I had to decide on the doll so it has been a couple months since then. But he is still keeping his promise when he gets his next paycheck First I asked him to buy me this doll that was going to not be sold anymore, but when he said it would be a special present like that I was like "This must be the perfect doll" So now I found the doll I want and although he was waiting for a new car he was sad about hearing me trying to save up my own money for it and is putting me first. He is the best boyfriend ever
I was considerate though and did find a doll that is actually pretty well priced

 

My fiance givesme sometimes money I would never sell a doll he fully paid! But I would not want a 600 dollar doll or so xd I would be very happy with a Pullip, Blythe, Resinsoul. I think if he will choose me a doll I would love it the most no matter how it looks. He's the only one who supports me in this hobby and it means a lot he cares

 

how sweet

 

LOL i wish , he's totally not into this stuff
and a bit scared of dolls x""D

so ya ~

 

I put a lot of thought into a doll before I decide I want it, as most people probably do, partly because there are so many choices and partly because the dolls are so expensive! I would love a doll as a present but I couldn't help but be disappointed if someone bought me a beautiful expensive doll that wasn't exactly right.

Trusting someone to negotiate those often complicated company websites and get everything right from the body options to the skin and face up options, taking advantage of the opportunity to get any company clothes or wigs I might want... I don't think I could trust my husband to get it all right, much less a boyfriend!!

 

I think since I have only just ordered my first doll I would only say yes if it was for an occasion like Christmas and only if I picked it out.

 

My husband has already helped me buy Annette and now he wants to get me another. It would be cool for him to surprise me with a doll but I am really indecisive so he would have to ask me first.

 

I don't usually let them get me gifts in general because then I feel I owe them something, unless it's a serious relationship, more so with dolls. I wouldn't allow it, they can donate a small amount towards my next doll related purchase but more than that is too much. My ex thought I was so strange since I rarely let him buy me things xD he bought me a laptop and I told him off for it. It's not that I'm ungrateful or anything, I'd appreciate it but it's just not my style to accept extravagant gifts from people.

If a boyfriend happened to buy me one then I'd keep it regardless of how much I liked it since it'd have special sentimental value as a gift as well as the normal sentimental value of a doll. I'd probably end up either buying something big for them or giving them money in return to show that I appreciate it and to help me feel less guilty for accepting something so expensive from them.

 

Agree with a few I see here saying that letting a boyfriend buy you such an expensive gift may not be the best of ideas, but I think it depends on what sort of relationship it is and upon priorities. (together for years and/or dedicated, making sure important things like bills and car repairs are met...)

That said, if my boyfriend wanted to, I'd let him. Only reason why we aren't married is that we can't. XD (for a couple reasons.) But, been with him 2 years and our family of three is stable. We make sure bills, rent, etc are taken care of. We all have our money together, but we each get a certain amount of fun money budget out to us each month, so he'd have to save up his own money.

He also knows what dolls I have my eye on, so I know if he surprised me, he'd get it right. He's got his own doll on the way.

 

I would say no.

I'd feel bad to have him pay for something that expensive. Also, if the relationship ended badly, I would treat the doll differently, and it would hurt me because I grow attached to my dolls.

 

If it were someone I'd only been dating for a while (a while for me meaning 2 years or less), I'd probably decline since I'd feel obligated to that person for an extended period of time and that's not particularly healthy in my opinion.

My fiance, also known as Manthing since we're in a weird sort of married/not married thing thanks to legal technicalities, has offered to buy me a doll for my birthday or Hanukkah/Christmas. He's not very good at surprises so we've actually already discussed exactly what doll I would want. I've already made it clear that he needs to pay his portion of all our bills and expenses before he even thinks about spending money on something like that.

 

that would go depending on our relationship i think?
what if i end braking up with that person?
i don´t know, its a mess when you want to keep something you like a lot but reminds you of someone not worth remembering.

but if things are the other way... ill be sure to be like "look this doll! isn´t she pretty? i think she is? like the kind of doll i would like to be gifted if someone ever decides to give me one" that if don´t end getting the doll first XD

 

If my partner suggested buying me a doll, I'd be thrilled and suggest something not outrageously expensive, like a PukiFee. I highly doubt we'll be breaking up in that dolls lifetime, and if we did I'd probably still treasure the doll as a gift from a loved one. After all, I still have gifts from other exes that holds dear memories.

 

My ex gave me a gray skinned doll she don't want cox the company (angell studio) messed up her order( As a valentine present) , she wanted me to take care of him (shiine) and when we broke up she wanted him back but too bad... i was too bonded to give him back to her, and i believe the poor kid will end up like her other dolls... -sold-