Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

I guess I might be alone on this but I guess I never thought much of it and just straight off asked. =_= I was with my then bf (now husband ^^) for 3 years and I actually hinted + joked that I wanted a doll. XD Hahaha. Let's just say I can be very upfront sometimes. Didn't think about "What if we broke up?" and just assumed that we won't, lol. And if we did and I would just sell the doll and give the money back to him. > <

Just as I am upfront about asking him to buy me something, I sold that same doll and got something I liked more. > <; I guess things, are just things to me and I suppose I should appreciate things a bit more than I should but that is another problem/issue of mine. :P I don't get attached to items that easily though I always give them the best I can during their time of being with me.

 

Never turn down a gift, its an expression of affection.
if they say they want to by one but havenou picked it out yet, show them the types you like.
if they have, then put on your best smile and say thank you ,set it out for a few days and gradually move it to the back

 

Not sure about this. I have trouble with bigger gifts as it is, even thinking of accepting something so expensive from a boyfriend makes me kind of uncomfortable.
Maybe also because this hobby is something I really only do for myself at the moment. I don't expect anyone to show a deeper interest anymore, hence why it would be even weirder to accept a doll from an 'outsider'. (I don't necessarily mean outside the hobby in general, just outside of my dolls' stories etc.)

I would be happy if it came as a surprise though, for sure. And it wouldn't matter what doll it was, it'd really be about the thought then. I can appreciate that.
I could never ask for a specific doll though.

 

I think that if anyone was going to buy me a doll it would have to be something I was very involved in. I'm not about to let some one drop hundreds of dollars on something that may be the wrong one!!

Not to mention a serious talk about whether or not they could afford to by me such a gift/make it the ONLY gift i get that year (my birthday is only a few days off of xmas, so yah...)
I would be super grateful for the idea, but I wouldn't let them jump in and screw them selves over.

Also I'd feel like I'd have to get them something epic in return, or I'd feel guilty for getting them something lame like a shirt or something.

 

I said no when my ex asked me if I him to buy me a doll. I didn't want presents from him. And even if he would have bought me one, I think I would have sold it because his taste wasn't too good..

 

My boyfriend probably would buy me a doll, he considered buying me one as a graduation present, but I would be too nervous about him getting me a surprise in case it turned out to be a doll I didn't like or a bad transaction or the doll ended up being a recast If he wanted to get me a doll, I'd rather it be a doll we picked together and I could show him how to research companies and dealers to get the best outcome.

When we get each other presents we tend to think about what each other would like the most and then work our budget around that. I don't worry about getting him an expensive present if I know that he's going to appreciate it and the same goes for him getting presents for me.

 

I would say no, I don't like anyone to help at all with the purchase of my dolls. It feels like I'm mooching off of them.

 

It depends where you are in your relationship, how much disposable cash they have, and a whole bunch of other variables.

On the whole though, I'd be more than happy with the idea. The OHs past and present tend to buy me jewellery. Which I almost inevitably end up losing. I'd have a tougher time losing a doll. (At least I'd like to think so!)

 

My hubby's just bought me my first gift doll so to speak. I sat with him and told him exactly what I wanted so I know exactly what I'm getting. He asked me previously to give him a list to choose from but wanted me to help him with the actual order.

I love that this was what he wanted to get me and he wanted it to be something that I wanted. I don't mind knowing what it is gonna be and I think that that's the important part here. I would've been annoyed if he just guessed at what I wanted and put the order in so I have no issue with foregoing the surprise in favour of getting what I would actually like to receive.

And it's going to be a unique one in my collection since I currently only have fairyland dolls and he's buying me one from iplehouse

 

Hmm, I'm not sure. I suppose my answer for a gift doll is the same as for any other expensive gifts for me: it has to be something I want, and have wanted for a long time (ie. not a whim wish), for it to be meaningful and worth the money. BJDs in particular are quite subjective gifts -- beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. And I have very specific tastes with dolls: I want them Just Right, Just the Way I Want. Anything not according to my specs is unwanted, end of story. So I really don't want to be surprised with something off-wishlist that I don't even find attractive! That won't be nice for either of us.

If my significant other really wanted to buy me a doll, I'd give him a wishlist to pick from. I'd be happy if he can buy or contribute funds, or help me to decide on a fullset and/or customizations if that's what I wanted. In fact, a more meaningful BJD gift would be buying/making me clothes, props, or face-ups -- again, to my specifications. I feel more comfortable with letting my SO help me make my doll perfect, instead of getting the initial doll.

Ultimately, I would also expect my SO to gift me in the way I wanted for BJDs. Which means to not surprise me with something totally unexpected and off-wishlist (therefore unwanted). If he really cared about me, that would be important to him, ne? If he really wanted to surprise me in all senses of the word, he'd be better off doing something not related to dolls!

 

With the exception of 4 dolls, my boyfriend now husband has bought and gifted me a total of 40 dolls throughout the course of our 12 year relationship. I've dated him for 10 years before we got married and when he asked for my hand in marriage he gifted me 3 Unoas instead of a ring since he knew I wasn't a big fan of jewelry. We've dated since my junior year of high school and his sophomore year so he knows what my tastes are like for everything and anything. I never felt bad receiving a doll gift from him because I love gifting things to him too but when my father in law gifted me with a doll last Christmas I felt very very happy, grateful but I also felt bad because dolls aren't cheap at all.

As long as their financial situation isn't bad, I don't think I would feel bad about getting a doll from my husband or a loved one. If I could I would definitely gift my friends dolls and I wouldn't want my friend to feel as if they are in debt to me but I would ask that they offer the doll back to me (even at a price) if they don't want it anymore or at least tell me before or after they sold it (because hopefully they would be a close enough friend to keep contact with me about things like that...)

I've also sold dolls my husband has gifted to me and my husband never cares, as long as it's what I want to do.

 

My husband bought me a yo Kun last year for a Christmas present! I fell in love with it on the MP and he decided to get her for me^^ He doesn't particularly care about dolls but he's quite supportive and said he'd help me buy tan Shiro someday because I want him so much!

And in our wedding vows too earlier this year he threw the dolls in and promised to support me in the things I love. He's such a sweetie, and I'm very lucky.

 

If the man I loved bought me a doll, I don't know what I'd do......probably kiss him every five minutes along with the thank you spam. Even if it was a doll I didn't like, I'd be happy as a clam. How romantic and sweet is that, that your partner cares that much about what you like that they even would try? I think there's beauty in everything, so if I got a doll that's not quite to my liking, I would MAKE it to my liking.

 

Hahaha, my girlfriend keeps trying to buy me expensive things. ;o; She's so sweet. I always tell her not to, though, because these things are expensive and I think she should use the money to get a new computer and stuff for her, you know? But she DID help me get my very first doll! Without her, I wouldn't have Ashera and I'm so grateful.

Best girlfriend ever.

 

If i had a boyfriend.. i guess buying clothes for my dolls is enough. My ex always buy toys for me and when i brought it home.. i would get scold by my mother.. if is a doll.. i think i would be scolded more badly by my mother x.x And i don't think i have enough space to put more than 4 dolls o.o

 

On more than one occasion has my fiance gotten me a doll for as a gift. And there have been a few times he wanted too, but chose not to for financial stability. I'm okay with it either way. Though the dolls he's gotten me are all ones I showed him first, I think I could trust him if he wanted to surprise me- he knows my tastes well enough by now, and we usually end up liking the same things. It'd also be fun to see how much dolly information he's remembered from what I've told him.

I would never sell a doll he has gotten me though, unless I had to. Even if it was butt ugly. A gift is a gift, and I don't sell or throw away gifts from anybody, especially from him.

 

If my boyfriend REALLY wanted to, it would be something talked about in detail a LOT beforehand, to make sure he really wanted to spend that much money AND that it would be a doll I really wanted. But I'd probably also rather him spend his money on more practical things or things we could enjoy together. That's just me though.

 

My partner of 16 years knows that I am a collector of many things. She is often bewildered by my many interests (bjds, all sorts of action figures, cats, dogs) when she basically has just one...Duke University college basketball of which she is beyond fanatical. But I would never allow nor would she trust herself to buy such an expensive thing as a bjd doll for me without my absolute input. She knows my tastes are as fluid as the sea we live near. Right now...it is cat/cat anthro bjds. Next week...who knows.

 

I will happily accept any doll coming my way, lol. I guess since I'm already married it wouldn't be a huge deal if my husband bought one for me. It would be a bit weird if it was from a boyfriend who I hadn't been with for very long though. :-/

 

My Hubby incourages my dolly habit. I pick them out and he buys them. I only have one BJD at the moment and she isn't even home yet.

As my boyfriend I'm sure that my Hubby would have bought me dolls. I would have just had to ask and he would have gotten them for me. But I only started collecting dolls after I got married. So it works out that way I guess.