Self control on $ when it comes to BJD....

I'm the master of self-control!!!!!!

...no, not really.

but I do think over about purchasing a doll for a loooooong time
to make sure that i really want it. Most of the time, my excitement and
obsession with certain mold dies out within 2-3months.

I guess it's easier for me, since I'm not much of a 'limited doll' person.
(I don't know why but they don't usually attracts my attention)
It seems like I always end up loving basics molds who are very versatile.

Plus, I'm always guilty of spending so much money on dolls.
(Esp. BJDs since they only last for certain period of time)
It's not like I'm filthy rich and trying to spend my money away...
I don't know if it's just me, but whenever I purchase something expensive (esp. when they are not necessities), my hands starts to shakes and I start sweats... ^^; To me, my dolls are luxuries and as much as I'm glad that I can afford to buy these dolls, I also feel guilty of spending so much money for selfish reasons.

 

I try to have self control. But my problem is that I can't keep from looking and looking at dolls I like. I managed to resist Bambicrony Elf Pepe through the entire sale and then snapped when I saw one in the Marketplace. I also resisted Catsy for a long time but started worrying she might be canceled so I impulse bought one I saw in stock somewhere. I knew me, and I knew that if she DID get cancelled that I become obsessed and pay much more on the secondary market. I have also resisted Unoa for a looooonnnggg time but its been so long since the last open pre-order that I just had to give in this time.

With Unoa's arrival I believe I will own all of my most wanted list.

Where I lose control worse is on wigs and shoes. I'm also bad on clothing but I need to channel my desires more effectively there. I must have bought enough cheap clothes to equal a couple of nice Mio outfits. But here I sit with no Mio at all.


Carolyn

 

If I could impulse buy, I would. But I just don't have the money. So I save, and get a list of dolls and clothes and wigs and shoes and jewelry and the list goes on.
Plus, everything I buy has to be aproved by parents first. So there's no way I can impulse buy anything. Especially something as expensive as a BJD.

 

No impulse buys, just plain desperation and a quick dip into credit to get the doll I've lusted after before her ordering period ended... So yes, I panicked, because I was paranoid about never having the chance to get her. I was patient BEFORE I heard of the ordering period closing, and I had a perfectly good plan on saving up money to buy her.

 

Impulsive? With dolls? Man, I wish I had the money to be impulsive with dolls... I don't have one yet, but it's taking to long to save up for her that there no way this counts as impulsive. I've already had weeks to think on it and I just know that I'm going to have many weeks more... oO It makes me sad. T.T Does selling half of the stuff in your room count as an impulsive/obssessive action? XD I'm sure it's obssessive but I've had time to think about so I don't think it's impulsive...

 

I don't think it over. If I see it, I want it enough, it's done. I'm already clicking the buy button. I don't shop around for dolls/doll stuff when I'm low on cash for that reason. I bought my Breakaway without ever knowing any forums/doll communities ever existing. I just stumbled upon it and bought it in the first hour, I think.

The rest of my purchases have been similar..

 

The past 3.5 dollies ive bought were impulse buys... Sold my first boy last year after having him for about 4 months. Now im selling my more recent girl after 9 days of having her ;-; i need to stop with the impulse and just buy my dream doll lol. But Shoe is working out and Pine too she just needs a body lol.

otherthan me being broke all the time now and having no job... im scrounging up nickels and dimes for gas money i probably should have prioritized a tad more xD

 

(Apologies for long post )

I'm waiting on my first two dolls right now. Lucian wasn't so much of an impulse buy (IMO, anyway). I had decided he would be my first, and that was that (I was almost swayed by another mold, but went back to him in the end :3). I scraped together all the extra money I had for him. It must have been fate, because soon after I was granted Marketplace access, there were two Abadons up for sale ^_^ So my mom ended up helping me pay for him (as a gift ), and now he should be here soon.

Yuki was a little more of an impulse buy. I had put aside money for another doll, and I saw him in the Marketplace. I had seen him before, and I really liked him, but decided against him back then. After seeing him still up for sale, I told myself, "I'll sleep on it." Well, the next day I decided he should come home, too ^_^ So now I have two boys on the way (I will pay off Yuki with my next check).

I'm trying not to be too impulsive with my girls. I know for sure I want a Shushu, and I'm pretty sure I want a Sprite, too. I just almost went nuts when I saw a MNF girl body for sale earlier (since I know someone who's selling their open-eye Shushu head), but I know I don't have the money for it now, and might not for awhile...so instead I referred someone else who had a WTB thread for one

It's funny, because I'm more picky about things like eyes/wigs/shoes ^_^;; I want very specific eyes/wigs for my boys currently, and have been picky about shoes for Lucian, too :P Go figure.

Either way, I always prioritize with my money. I make sure I take care of my rent/bills first, because I hate worrying about that stuff I would really hate to get into debt over dolls!

 

I'm defiantly the first option. I sit around and think about dolls for months before I buy them, and I always wait till i have the money saved up.

I can't imagine ever putting a doll on a credit card. I'm a money hog

 

Ahaha~ I'm the worst. I'm number two. I mean, I'm not in debt, thank god, but I usually have about $40 in my bank account .. just because once I get paid at work I'm reminded of all the doll stuff I want, and since I have the money .. I buy it. It's SO BAD! I have to stop. I'm never going to be able to eat properly again!

 

I have already posted this in another thread, but it's good to budget yourself, aka set limits on how much you spend at one time. For example, I never will spend more than $800 on a doll (though I came reeeeealy close with my Sabik) and no more than $40 on shoes at a time.

D'oh, I need a job ;___;

 

Do good things come to those who wait?
To be honest yes, the better you save the quicker you'll get what your heart desires. It felt like it took forever to get my first doll but that's because I was in about £600 debt over a broken computer and many other electrical items that all decided to die at once.
I didn't use ebay for 3 months!! Anyone that knows me well enough knows knows I get all my cds and t shirts from there. lol didn't really by myself anything at all for months, until one month I did buy some badly needed new clothes. In about 6 months I had about 3 cinema trips, one weekend trip to vist my now ex (which so was not worth it lol) and the month I needed clothes, the rest went to paying off my computer so I could start saving for my doll.
I didn't think it was fair to start buying nice dolls for myself until I took care of my responsibilities.

 

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Well! Normally I'd say I was proud of myself for being a #1 person. But, uh...I ended up being sort of a #2 person too ^^;;
I just bought my first two dolls, and only one of them was planned, lol. I'd been saving up for the Kid Delf boy Woori doll, and had enough. Then my mom had the wonderful idea of me paying with credit (just got a credit card) so that I could start building credit.
So of course, right as she says that, I fall in love with the little Cherish doll Jodie-Devil

Sooo....I bought on credit. Both of them, lol. But I know, because my checks always range close to 200 each week, that I'll have the money by the time I have to pay off my credit card.

Hahaha, but yeah, I'm a HORRIBLE impulse buyer

 

Like a few other people here, I can't impulse buy due to the parents. I don't have my own Paypal or CC or anything. So I have a lot of time to think about if the doll I'm saving for is really what I want when I'm working for $30 a week

 

I am having this problem now i just sold a doll and immediately put two on lay away ws elf el and elf juri! WHO could say no?

 

unfortunately in this hobby you often can't wait to buy something... because you'd miss out completely. So many dolls are super limited.

At the same time, many dolls do come back around again on the secondhand market, and there is always another beautiful doll.
... I also never buy dolls on credit. so if I dont have the money, I don't have it.

as to selfcontrol... for me it helps me to try not to have too many dolls that are similar to each other. So if I see another pretty doll, I have to ask myself, is this just going to be kinda sorta the same as another one I have? Do I really need that?
Also due to my very limited space and budget, I really can't have dolls past a certain number. Right now I'm actually al ittle past my limit, so I'm trying very hard to part with one or two and not buy anymore.
also, in my case it makes things easier to resist if I stick to my favorite company. This way I can try harder not to be tempted by other ones. it seems arbitrary and perhaps silly, but it works well for me.

 

1. Do good things come to those who wait? (good self control and patience) Examples?

2. Or those who buy them instantly? (hmmm even if you shouldn't be spending the $ but you still do because you just have to have it). Examples?

That's what I do too. I recently sold two because they were too similar to other dolls I already have. It's a tough lesson to learn, both financially and emotionally. So I have to be very careful what dolls I buy, because selling them is no fun!! ^^;

 

;_; Everytime I wait to buy something it ends up going out of stock and/or disappearing forever. I actually try to be a number 2 just so I won't miss out on any more great stuff, but this usually leads to me feeling incredibly guilty over spending all my money on dolls/dollclothes/dollaccessories without thinking it through properly first. But...

Saw Breakaway. Waited. Missed out.
Saw coolest damn dolloutfit ever. Waited. Missed out.
Saw Elf Ducan. Waited. Missed out.

etc etc... I am NOT missing out again on something I really really want!

 

I am impulsive...but for big purchases, I usually think things over a little more. I am sensible with my money, but I never stop wanting the dolls I am interested in - so I don't mind waiting until funds are better before purchasing!

 

I'm the 1st type-but always regret after missing good chance
well-good to save up though