"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

in your case, he has no right to tell you to sell your doll, especially if there's no need, or just because "he" doesn't like it. i would have sended him to "that" country, directly.

my BF told me many times "sell one of your doll", but only when im struggling because i don't have money to buy another one

 

I would too. :c You can't dress up or do makeup for your video game! Or at least I never heard of anyone doing that >.>

 

Probably the only way I would take the "sell your dolls" request seriously was if my SO and I were going through a time of extreme financial difficulty, and we had both agreed that we'd sell off something of ours that was expensive to pay for living expenses.

I think it all depends on priorities, and the fact that other people may not value dolls on a higher priority scale that causes them to say "Why don't you just sell them?" For me, my highest priorities beyond basic food and shelter are the living creatures in my house; my cat and my lizard. I would give up any amount of electronic devices, clothes, or objects to ensure that they had food, water, and a place to live. My friend, however, has never owned cats or lizards, and doesn't feel like they're as of high priority to her (which is why she doesn't own any cats! ), and probably would not give up her laptop to feed a cat. However, the key is understanding that while your priorities may not match up to someone else's priorities, you can respect them.

 

Wow, I'm incredibly lucky. My husband new I collected dolls when he met me and has just accepted it as my "hobby." I sure didn't mind or say anything when I saw his stack of Windsurfing gear!

 

My current boyfriend thinks the hobby is weird, yet the other day I was restringing Nocturne into her human parts (as I am preparing to blush her fox legs), he was quite interested in how much I had to work to restring the poor girl.

He also seems to get a kick out of how I can just handle her like it's no issue when she's anatomically correct. Or the fact I took measurements to make a pattern.

I do not govern his hobby of motorcycles and games (granted, we play the same games and I like his bikes), so he doesn't govern me. He did say to make some leather chaps for the doll though some day, so I know he wants me to at least keep the doll.

 

My bf finds the hobby strange but I don't think he would ever go so far as to tell me to sell them- even if we were to move in together. He accepts it but still jeers occasionally, but just to tease me & he knows not to go too far to insult something I "love" very much.
The only time I get comments is to ensure I won't be left short when selling dolls, making sure I am not selling at a huge loss. I do feel if financial difficulty did strike then selling some may be a helpful fix, however as far as someone judging my hobby I would ignore anyone telling me to sell them if it is simply something they find bizzare or uncomfortable!

 

I was wondering if many of you had to deal with this sort of thing from a significant other/potential mate?

Yes, my last boyfriend didn't understand/care for my hobby and kept insisting I sell my dolls. I repeatedly pointed out he spent the cost of one of my dolls on a broken car and was continuing to work on it, spending much more money in the process. This, apparently, is not the same thing. Suffice it to say he didn't last long.

"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate, "buh-bye then" says I.

In the end, everyone has a hobby - some people buy millions of DVDs, some people buy antiques, some people buy broken down old cars. Mine is dolls, and anyone who doesn't accept that can go swivel I don't always expect people to understand but acceptance and understanding are two different things. I don't see my dolls as something I will never sell, if I needed the money desperately, but I'm not going to sell them just because someone else doesn't understand why I enjoy my hobby ¬_¬

Luckily for me my fiancé loves my dolls and accepts my crazy ^___^

 

My boyfriend says as long as I enjoy it, that all that matters.
He won't hold my boy as he is scared he will "break something so expencive"

 

My response would be "Careful, YOU can be replaced by a doll...cat..."
Lucky for DH that he shows an interest in my life (read... hobbies, collections, etc) and I his.

 

My boyfriend has always been very understanding and supportive in whatever I do. He calls my doll by name, which means a lot to me. I think he's taken a liking to Lyle because he's been a big part in Lyle's construction. He's done modifications on my doll's head (Lyle's a hybrid) and has helped me repair him several times. I love my boyfriend very much and wouldn't have my doll if it weren't for him!

 

A "potential mate" that wanted me to sell my dolls wouldn't be a mate much longer.

 

The short answer to this question? NO.

To elaborate, I'm divorced. My ex-husband thought the hobby was ridiculous and made fun of me whenever I mentioned it/looked at doll sites/etc., even though he was constantly spending up our rent money on guitars and whatever else. Anyway, at this point in my life, I have absolutely HAD IT with people telling me the things I like are "weird" or "wrong". Honestly? That's incredibly rude. We (as in people in general) like what we like. Whatever floats your boat, you know?

So no, I absolutely would not put up with anyone (friend, partner) telling me that I needed to sell my doll, or to stop liking the hobby, just because they don't like it. Whatever, it's my money.

 

Wow that would be a sure sigh to drop that potential bf. I mean, first it is sell your dolls, next is don't spend your money.

As long as one budgets and doesn't overspend, hobbies are a nice thing to have. Trying to control a potential spouse's hobby, emphasis on control and potential, could be a sign of worse issues to come.

 

Ehhh... if I had a potential boyfriend tell me to sell my dolls, I'd kick him to the curb.

I almost did when mine said maybe this hobby wasn't such a good idea...

 

BJDs are a strange hobby. You could even call it a rare hobby, at least in my area. I actually had strange looks yesterday at the fabric store when I was preparing to make a dress for my little Nocturne. Also, holding the doll with me while my mother was in a doctor's appointment while making a pattern in the waiting area gave me looks too, but it also intrigued the staff since the doll was so big (yay for SDs).

But it seems that as long as the new potential mate understands it is a hobby that has potential to not be as expensive as, say, motorcycles or cars (or in my dad's case, lapidary) then it all comes into perspective. Yes, as with any hobby it can rack up serious money, but so far I have spent less for my two dolls than my boyfriend restoring his 1980 Kawasaki 440 LTD.

A hobby is exactly that - something to do in one's spare time. If it be sewing for the dolls, photographing, making parts for them, go for it. It makes you happy and gives you something to put your heart into that isn't your job or family. A separate little world.

 

My bf likes my dolls luckily. However, if he said to me, Sell your dolls, I would say, Right after you sell your bins of legos. =]

 

If a guy ever said that to me, he'd be gone pretty fast (or begging for forgiveness), but then I won't put up with much.
My mum and I were watching a show on controling husbands once, she asked me if I'd ever end up on a show like that and I said no, I'd end up on cold case files... after they found his body

 

I'd be careful about becoming too involved with anyone who demanded things like that. They sound like they have issues with controlling others and may be controlling over many aspects of your life, which is very unhealthy!

If there is a very good reason to say something like that, and it is only a SUGGESTION and not a DEMAND, then that's a different circumstance. If you're really hurting for cash and someone says, "maybe you can sell one of your dolls or something," that's not bad.

But a demand for no good reason other than that they don't like your dolls (or don't like your possessions or your hobbies or whatever), that is a WARNING SIGN. Stay away from types like that! Even if you think they are worth it and maybe you agree--if they turn into someone who wants to control you, it is an unhealthy relationship and you will end up being very unhappy in the long-run!

 

My little lady loves that fact i like dolls, She dse not one herself. But likes all the ones that i have, and all the outfits i make for them!