"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

I was lucky enough to get a fiancee that has expensive bagpipes, so he completely understands. He says he might even get me a dollfie for Christmas, if he can get a job. @_@ It also helps that I only have one doll...

Trying to get him one in the meantime, but none of them look "manly" enough. xD

 

I have a funny story about this actually. My boyfriend wanted me to sell my modded floating LTF head so I would have money to go to Anime Expo. When I put the head on the marketplace he got all teary eyed and said 'B-but he's my favorite...'

I guess people can have a change of heart? I wound up keeping the head and I got to go to Anime Expo anyway

 

Anytime I have sold a doll, it was my own idea. My husband has never suggested selling them. He was actually surprised when I said I wanted to sell.

 

If a potential mate wants you to sell your dolls, that is a big red flag!!!

We've all been there: a relationship with a person that you care for very much, and they turn out to be selfish, powerplaying, controlling jerks. It's all about ego and power for some people, and those are the people you need to eject from your life, immediately! If they don't accept you and your hobbies, why waste your time with them? Why change yourself to please another person? What have you gained? Surely, you can't be happy with someone who shows little or no regard for what brings you joy. They might start out with trying to control your hobbies, and then the next thing you know they are trying to control your behavior, how you look, who you see, and where you go.

I married my wonderful husband because he accepts me completely the way I am...dolls and all!

 

Well I haven't been told to sell them, since I have yet to buy one. But my boyfriend really doesn't want me to buy one. He keeps saying their creepy. ;_;

Still buying one though! X3

 

Like some here, I was lucky enough to find myself a nerd. He's a writer (understands a love for a character) and a passionate gamer. So he pretty much shares my longing for "expensive and senseless toys", himself having a dream of owning unnecessarly huge tv and variety of gaming consoles. Even thought he is kinda tired of hearing me going on and on about pieces of resin
I could've said the same to him, like "it costs too much" or "you won't even be playing on those oldies" or "only if you sell them later for a higher price" but I know this is his dream, so I encourage and advise him every time he finds a SNES or Dreamcast on an auction.

Of course, if there ever would be an emergency, I'd sell my dolls. But only because I have a confidence that he would do the same for me.

 

I'm so bad with ultimatums like that -- lettuce just say the dolls would win!

Edit: Although since i'm in IT, i have met a BUNCH of great guys who all think my dolls are cool And of course, being a hardcore gamer always helps!!! One of the guys i work with even loves the "creepier" looking ones best!

 

Luckilly my bf is more interested in getting his own than trying to get me to sell mine (thank god) but I'm pretty sure that if he were to tell me to sell them, I'd tell him I'd sell my dolls as soon as he'd sell his drums (which he never will, so we're good) ;p

 

Naw... Hubby doesn't want me to sell mine... but he did say, "Don't you think you have enough?"

Um... no. All sizes, both genders... that's a lot of dolls.

 

I'm lucky to have a boyfriend who not only respects my own hobbies but also has his own expensive ones. He's never pressured me to sell my dolls and he's always been supportive. I don't know what I would do if someone truly wanted me to stop collecting and get rid of my dolls. He would obviously not understand who I was and what was important to me, and therefore wouldn't be someone I'd want to date.

 

My fiance doesn't like my dolls XD, his told me when I'm gushing over a doll saying "isn't he/she cute?!?!?!" he'll tell me "no, sorry I just don't see them that way." but he's funny and cute that way, because once I have a doll, he acts very protective of them. He got me my first SD girl doll, and when he saw her dressed in a little less clothing then my younger dolls he looked me straight in the eyes and told me "You aren't letting her dress like that around the house are you?" and "she isn't going to your doll meet up thing without real clothes covering her!" ^w^.
but once, an old friend (whom I thought as a best friend) over the phone she was telling me about her newest tattoo, and I was telling her about my newest doll and she actually said "how many do you have now? Don't you think you should just sell your dolls. I mean it's not like their doing anything for you." I was really hurt, she was my best friend and I thought she understood since she had herself like eight large tattoos, and those aren't cheap. When I told my fiance he got so upset (plus he never liked her since he met her) he told me that this is my hobby, and my money and as long as there isn't an emergency and I need to choice between keeping myself healthy or buying a new doll, he hopes I'll choice myself. I was very happy to hear him say that ^////^ I feel bless to have him in my life, and he understand completely having a hobby that some might not understand.

I think if someone meets a person where they tell you what you should like or shouldn't, or what you should give up as a hobby, I think they need to go out the front door with their opinion and rethink what they are telling you.

 

@Ballet! I second the motion! Totally agree!!!

 

that would make me want to cry ;_; i would probably change my feelings towards them after hearing something like that. that's a total shut down. it never happened to me and i hope it never does

 

Wow. I would be SO MAD if my boyfriend TOLD me to sell my dolls. Ugh. That's just disgusting and insulting to one's character. Lucky for me, my boyfriend has actually gotten one for me for our 3rd anniversary. He builds speakers and stage equipment as a hobby, which is also quite expensive, so, although a little reluctant at first, he's totally in love with them now. He adores my puki girls.

 

I may not own one yet, but I would be very frustrated if someone I saw as a lasting life partner said that to me.

My boyfriend (who I do see lasting) is standing by me as I choose my first doll. We decided we'd get one we both like so I can begin this hobby and he'll feel a part of it. I think the main reason a significant other would question the hobby, is because they'll almost feel like they're "in 2nd place". So making them a part of your interests makes them feel more comfortable with you having them in the first place.

 

Thankfully I never had to deal with this situation, but would not have been happy with the person if I had. I am sure I would have felt hurt too. My hubby is great and supports my interest in dolls as well as my other hobbies and actually share several of them. I feel very lucky to have him in my life. He is the one to buy me my first two LittleFee dolls. I am waiting for them to arrive in the mail.

 

I'm still really new to dolls, I haven't even gotten my first one in yet, but I don't think that Quincy and I would have that problem. He seemed a little grumbly at first when I started talking about getting one, but once he saw how much I had fallen in love with the doll I would eventually put on layaway, he told me to get it. I probably wouldn't have gotten her otherwise, because I don't like spending money on myself, much less so much money. Now, he wants to get one too. He had been interested in them a while back, and had fallen in love with a doll a while back, but had no way to get it... Now we're looking for it, or a way to make one just like him.

...In the end, I don't think its right for someone to ask you to part with something you love. If they really are a 'potential mate,' then I think part of that is accepting you, and all your little excentricies. Same goes for friends I think. They don't have to like it, but they should at very least respect what you love.

 

If someone lacks enough respect to tell me to not only get rid of a possession of mine for no real reason but give up a hobby, it's already over. I will not tolerate a person telling me to get rid of something dear to me or to cease in taking part in a hobby; I'm an adult, those are my decisions and my decisions alone.

 

Yeah I would be so mad if my boyfriend told me to get rid of something that I really enjoy. They should respect you enough and that includes your hobbies. But my boyfriend is totally ok with it, he is just as geeky and weird as I am.

 

I posted my own experience ages ago, but I am shocked and saddened by some of the stories that I keep seeing And at the same time, encouraged by some of the pride and resolve most of us have to defend our hobbies. And how ironic that usually people who scoff at the doll hobby have something just as expensive and absurd that they are addicted to, like video games and tattoos--I expected that people who think dolls are a waste of money would live spartan lives themselves and don't spend money on *anything* extravagant. Interesting to keep seeing such surprising examples!