"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

To be completely honest the type of person I would consider as a potential mate would never try to change me or get rid of any of my hobbies. If it were to pay bills or help with an emergency situation I would sell them before a mate would have to say anything.

 

I've never heard these words from any of my exes, and I don't think they would dare to. The only thing they have really said to me about them is that they were creepy, and "don't keep them in the bedroom" which I can understand. As most people above me have mentioned, if the bf can spend thousands of dollars on building a computer and buying gaming consoles, then he can cope with me having this hobby. If he can't cope with my hobbies, then he won't be around for very long.

 

i think this is one of many reasons that i am thankful to not have a significant other in my life
if someone asked me to sell my dolls i'd turn back to them and say - "oh yeah why don't you sell your car,or something else YOU love?"

:P

 

My husband is intrigued by my dolls...he's even bowed down to them on my demand when he made me mad xD

 

My husband wouldn't tell me to sell my dolls. He has joked about me not getting any more - just did last night in fact. It was can I have another motorcycle? I said no and he said I will let you have 10 more dolls, then it was 20 more, then he got up to 30 more dolls. He was on a webcam in Afghanistan so one of his mates thought it was particularly funny how many dolls he was willing to give to get a bike.

He has bought me some of my dolls - like Soom Migma and a Spiritdoll Rouge fullset so he wouldn't tell me to sell my dolls. If we had financial difficulties I would be the first one to see what dolls I could part with to get some money anyway.

 

If somebody told me to sell my dolls, then it's obvious they don't love ME. My dolls are me, just like my art is me.

 

'sell your dolls' says he
'kiss my posterior' says I
My ex collected low end High End Stereo components ~sigh~ I'm so sure any potential BF/spouse would have SOME hobby that others would find silly/expensive/cumbersome.

 

I didn't start collecting dolls until a few years after I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband). Never once has either one of us demanded the other to sell something that belonged to them. If we wanted to, that's a different story. Also, fiscal responsibility dictates I wouldn't even have to be asked to sell a doll to help us out (which I have done). He has his hobbies (designer boardgames, video games), I have mine. We both keep to our budget, and make expensive purchase decisions together.

 

Run, RuN, RUN... and don't ever look back.

Well, that is just my opinion. But you deserve better. Controlling nature is a nightmare to live with.
There is a book called "Too good to leave, Too Bad to stay" ~ maybe the other way around in the title? I would recommend everyone to read it before making the big commitment to someone. This might be deemed off topic, but it would say so much better what I would try to say about how to receive the statement/command?/request of this "Potential Mate".

If you had a ton of dolls like I do, I could really understand a request to choose my favorites and release a few for adoption. Not everyone wants to live in a house that looks like a doll shop and I should be willing to compromise.

This sounds to me like the potential [master] um, I mean mate, wouldn't respect a reasonable boundary between his wishes and yours. I would bet there are other hints. Keep your eyes open wide. I'm really holding back a torrent of unasked for advise and you might be able to guess that I lived in an abusive marriage in my past. I was blinded to the early signs by making excuses for him.

I say: Your dolls are protecting you. In a manner of speaking.

 

Your mate should be supportive of the things you love! I may be pessimistic but I feel that if your mate can't get over something as silly as you collecting dolls, then the relationship is bound to fail. Any relationship entered into with the intention of trying to change the other person, just won't work.

 

My boyfriend, even though he is a bit scared of my dolls and thinks they are ridiculously overpriced, actually talked me out of selling dolls when money was really tight. He realizes how much they mean to me, even though he himself can't really get into it. I really wished that more people would think like him! ^^

I never had any other partner trying to make me sell my dolls (one ex is a doll-owner so NO x'D), or stop me from buying them. I think one should just hold on to the things they like, and if it is really that big of an issue for the potential mate, well, then they're not worth it anyway ;p

 

My boyfriend is actually very interested in dolls. He supports the hobby and even buys my MNF things on occasion. Though he says he would never buy himself a doll, any doll he bought would be a surprise for me. I guess it's only right he supports my expensive hobby because I love it since I support his band so much, even though it's really stressful and we travel a lot of the time for shows. :3 You should always support things your significant other loves because that's what makes them who they are. If you didn't like it, why are you with them to begin with?

 

For all his sarcastic comments and pickings on my boy, my husband is actually supportive of my hobby. He'd never ask me to sell him. In fact, at one point when we were in need of money, I offered to sell him and my husband absolutely forbade me from doing so. c.c He may not care for my dolls, but he knows how much they mean to me and he can appreciate the quality put into them.

 

My boyfriend likes my dolls (meaning he likes hearing about the stuff I come up with and what I plan to make for them, etc; also he likes the looks of them) but isn't too much into it, either (meaning he doesn't spend time with them and also doesn't want to handle them for fear of breaking or making them dirty).
It's also great, that he supports me with getting new dolls and supplies.
If he didn't support me, that would also be no problem, as long as he doesn't want me to get rid of them. But we both have quite expensive hobbies and hobbies that might seem a little weird sometimes. And we both support each other with them. ^^

 

"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate?

"Goodbye" says me

 

If I ever get a girlfriend (I'm more the single type) and she tells me to sell my dolls...well, I would be happy to show her the door and tell her to never come back.
I'm a freedom loving person - so no controlling in what I do with my money.

 

My bf found it weird in the beginning, but now he has one of his own haha. He loves her a lot, but I did tell him that if he ever lover her more than me (not possible) and spent more time with her than me, I would throw her out without a problem.... But I love her so I think I wouldn't be able to do that..

 

Hehe no I've been pretty lucky~my boyfriend actually gifted my (now sold) Supia girl to me.

 

I'v actually never had it happen to me as of yet. I'v heard it from "Friends" (I say it like that because funny enough no one who was unsupported is still in my life) but never a partner. One of my ex's did have a genuine fear of dolls but despite that he was always willing to listen to me talk about my plans and even offered me one for my birthday. He just didn't want to look at them to closely which I understood. The fact he made the effort to like them simply because they made me happy was more then enough. But in all honesty if someone told me I had to get rid of something that's a big part of my life and brings me a lot of joy I would have to show them the door. Its my life and I feel I should get to enjoy doing what ever I want with it providing its not hurting anyone else. Besides, people leave, dolls don't.