"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

Anyone who tries to dictate a harmless hobby is not a nice person or a fit mate. Asking you not have dolls in certain rooms because they disturb them, or that you don't spend joint money on them is reasonable. Tell anyone to stop a hobby for anything other than dire financial/emotional need is a huge huge HUGE red warning flag.

So yeah. A date who said that would get laughed at at the very least. If I liked him enough otherwise, I might try and talk about where he is coming from. I'd be willing to negotiate not having my dolls all over the house and not spending time with him talking about or playing with said dolls. But most likely, I'd shake my head and say, "if you feel like that, this won't work. Bye bye, best wishes with someone else."

 

There was a guy i was dating in highschool who asked "is there any chance the dolls can go?" and i told him "they were here first, if anything, you would go" that shut him up pretty fast... my current boyfriend hasnt seen them, but he says they sound cool. but i would NOT be happy if someone i wanted to marry said that to me

 

Nnnnnnnno mister mate, please go away. To be honest dolls are one of the things I mention when I talk about myself so any potential mate would know about them fairly early. I can't really keep my mouth shut since it's something I'm so passionate about. Now if he really can't stand them he should just walk away; I'm not about to give up one of my greatest sources of enjoyment just because someone said so. I mean, please... >_>

 

I always feel really bad when I hear about this. Luckily, I didn't have any dolls when I was with people who disliked them. I actually didn't end up buying a doll until my fiance and I planned to buy two of them, together!

 

It depends on the circumstances. If you're living together and you have limited space (common problem where I live) or money problems, then I think it's acceptable. It would need to involve some give and take and your partner should also be expected to sell some of his/her stuff.

If you've just started to date someone, it should ring alarm bells. The person might be a control freak or not genuinely in love with you if they can't accept your harmless hobby.

 

To be frank whenever I meet new people that tends to be when slips out my mouth first. It actually is a nice ice breaker. A lot of my friends know about my dolls, wish me luck with doll money and I converted two people to it...

We're the BJD trio.

 

I would rather not be with someone who isn't open minded so... I guess I wouldn't be with that person for long. I would probably try to explain how I would rather not sell them but if they kept on pushing I'd probably get ticked off and I don't exactly enjoy getting angry!

 

That would pretty much be a deal breaker for me. Trying to tell me what I can and can't do with my money is not okay. You're welcome to your opinion but please don't try and force me to do what you want. Who knows what else you'll try to force me to do?

 

With my partner, he said he found the doll I originally showed him creepy, but that he didn't care if it made me happy. He then went on to say he found it creepy because it was too "cartoony" and he actually quite liked the realistic ones (not enough for him to get one). And hey, if I'm selling my dolls, he'd better be prepared to sell his Warhammer, Airsoft guns and swords!

 

Honestly, if my having dolls of any sort would become an issue in a potential or even current relationship, I'd leave it behind.
I wouldn't wish to change anything about myself because it would make me unhappy and in return spell certain disaster for that relationship in the long run.

 

I haven't, but my girlfriend shares the hobby with me, so that's just epic! She makes the face up and helps out with the character design and personality, and then we kinda share our dolls. :3
It's wonderful to have had a partner for 4 years who just understands and accept you truly ^^
She's my best friend as well as she's my lover. So I hope I'll stay with her or the rest of my
life! And if I should ever be with anyone else, I would need the person to accept me and my hobbies. :3

 

I like to collect a lot of things that people might consider childish or not fit for an adult... and while I always feel self conscious about it when I am introducing to someone new, I wouldn't be able to be with someone who was judging me for the things I like. I already have parents that do that! A significant other should be someone that you can feel safe with and be yourself. Anyone who is telling me I have to get rid of my cutesy hobbies is definitely not that person.

 

I've never been with, or been interested in someone who has said that to me ... I think they can tell how futile it would be when I mentioned my BJDs.... I'm so incredibly excited and enthusiastic about them xD But I dunno ... maybe it's just the sort of guys I go for ... They have to accept me for who I am and what I like... and they do

 

I collect dolls (and other action figures and videogame/movie paraphernalia), play videogames like my life depends on it (my PS3 was there before my ex and it's still here now that he's gone) and I cosplay at cons. If a person that I go out with has a problem with any of these things, we have a serious problem as I will not be told what to do or what to spend my money on! Love me for everything I am, or not at all

 

I wouldn't be dating anyone who would ever give me orders and/or disrespect me, so this would never even be an issue.

Hypothetically if this did happen, I'd dump their ass.

 

I think I'd immediately be wary of continuing the relationship - especially if it was in it's early stages.

I've found myself having to defend this hobby to friends that I've known for years, who I would have thought would be more understanding. In the end I had to make a direct comparison to their hiking hobby to get them to show any degree of empathy there at all. They spend hundreds, if not thousands on that hobby - how is mine any less acceptable? If I had to go to that length to explain to a date, I think they'd no longer be a potential mate tbh.

(That kind of talk just makes me defensive and annoyed, they're still my friends, but the way people class some things as socially acceptable and others not really gets my hackles up! They've learnt not to mock my hobby now - I think I've scared them somewhat!)

 

Its come up. Not in dating, when someone has tried to talk to me about my money on a date thats a sign that I don't want to date them. But in family and friends. My response is usually "Ill sell my blood first" or "Would you sell your cat if you needed money?"
=_=

 

I would understand if I was in some financial strain, but even then I wouldn't ask my partner to sell something they treasure.
If they told me to sell them just for the lulz, I would probably kick them out of my life right then and there, because anyone that selfish does not sit well having a relationship with me.
If I sell my dolls, you sell your liver.

 

I made the mistake of letting a particuarly abusive ex of mine tell me to sell my dolls; and I regret every minute of that. I sold my DoI Kalix </3 which I highly regret doing, and what dolls I didn't sell he tried to break or give to his dog. I got away with my two OneGreyElephant mod heads which I hid away; but it makes me sick that I even sold my first dolll, I've had him for 5 years......

 

For me, I found my mate one or two yeas befor getting serius about this hobby. He didnät like the idea most because of the prices, but he said it was my money. Now, I'm still have my doll for more than one year and now he sees how much joy and happyness it's giving me and he also sees my potential is this hobby. Even my father (dough it's not really relative to this discussion) is encouraging me to start my artisanshop with clothes. I'm just so happy that the two most importent men in my life is approving this.