"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

Also someday when we live together he's gonna let me get the doggie my parents never did and I already picked out her breed and name wah I can't wait.

 

I advise not getting involved with those who don't have expensive hobbies of their own. Even if they're not interested in your dolls, they will at least understand. Then you just need to work out the details of shared house-room for all hobbies.

 

I've been lucky, my boyfriend of the past year is really encouraging... He'll even take the dolls out of their doll travel case and buckle them into the back seat. Hell even my friends will do that. Isar was our road trip doll and my friends and I had alot of fun posing her... well I should say my friend... we'll call him Dave. He and I had alot of fun. he even would pull over when he saw an awesome spot and went hey want to take Britta (he knows her as my name for her and not the sculpt name) and take some pictures?

My supervisor at work however has said the dolls are not allowed to be out at the office anymore... i've managed to get him to compromise for at lunch when no patients are present. (I'm front desk patient administrator)

 

I have heard things from my family on some dolls that I collect, but never from my Sig O. In fact, they are getting dolls of their own too.

 

Grounds for divorce! Of course, I am a lonely old spinster, my world revolves around caffeine and dollies, but I digress...

 

Hearts can be broken but dolls are forever. ;3

 

My husband even accepted my horse, which was much, much more expensive than my dolls. After the real horse came modelhorses, on which you can spend also a nice amount of money. Then I detected BJDs, and this is also okay for him (as long as I inform him about intended purchases, they have to fit our finances). He is okay with the BJDs, because he collects model railways and is about building a model railway diorama. Also not a really cheap hobby...

 

Thank God I've never had to deal with that! My ex-boyfriend, when I told him it was a hobby I wanted to get into, admitted he didn't like the idea of becoming attached to the dolls (and then said he'd feel the same about it if somebody was attached to a computer) and because of that I was hesitant to make a story behind my girl. However since then we've split up and he can't really tell me what to do! I figure you shouldn't feel hesitant about mentioning the hobby to somebody you're interested in. If they tell you to sell your dolls, they're obviously not the one for you.

 

Anyone who feels the need to be so controlling is not worth your time ( I cleaned that up a lot from my first thought )

 

No, just no. I wouldn't be with someone who told me to sell my dolls.. But it's not even the dolls, it would be anything,really.
The few SO's I've had since getting into this hobby have all been very accepting. They each had a different level of interest, ranging from full on interested and always asking how they are, to not asking at all/not really caring. And to be honest, it's all okay to me. As long as they know it's a hobby I enjoy and spend money on, and they are okay with it. I'd never ask someone to change a hobby, or change interests, unless it was dangerous to their health/life, so I appreciate being treated the same.

 

I was lucky enough that the only questions I had to answer was 'how much cost' and 'what to do to get bored with them' :P I'm sure that somebody will adopt my baby if I had to leave this hobby of mine.. but it's not going to happen :P

 

Nothing like this has happened to me but if someone I dated told me to sell anything that I collected, I would dump him right on the spot. No questions asked.

 

No ... never had to deal with that. My husband has his hobbies. I have mine. Although we may not actively participate in each other's hobbies, we are supportive of what the other wants to do. That said, we are both practical and do not let the hobbies threaten our finances or become obsessive about them.

 

My boyfriend openly admits that the dolls make him uncomfortable but respects my hobbies and only asks that at night they're kept out of site, which has never been an issue.

 

I had never been much of a collector of anything while my boyfriend is the ultimate collector of EVERYTHING. So he is very excited I have something like this that he can relate to!!!
He even wants in on BJDs too! Hahaha.

I don't think I could ever date someone who was bummed by me and my favorite things!

 

I collect dolls. I am a musician and a writer. I cosplay. I fly around the country when I can, to comic conventions where dolls can be found and where other doll lovers go.
And that's what I do.
basically, if someone was to say I should sell my dolls, I would second guess dating them. Not because I'm harsh or mean, but because I genuinely believe that if they say it with conviction and don't drop it after initially being explained to about the importance of the dolls... They clearly don't understand me and why on earth would I want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't understand the importance of something I care about?

I mean, if somebody loves some sport or whatever, who am I to tell them to sell their autograph collection from their favourite athletes? Who am I to tell them to sell their limited edition stuff that they got from games/stores when they will never have another like it before?
People like that make me so mad and I only want to surround myself with good people who understand why I am the way I am.

 

My hobbies are a part of who I am and they are the things that make me happy, I'd never give up any of my hobbies because it makes someone else uncomfortable. You can't ask me to give up drawing or skating for whatever reasons, same goes for BJD's. I could date someone who isn't into the hobby or who doesn't like being around them, but I couldn't date someone who hates them and pressures me to get rid of them

 

I had my dolls before my fiance, so they sort of came as part of the package that is me. While the fiance does not like them and in some ways considers my dolls creepy he accepts them and even helps me buy them. Of course he collects somewhat expensive musical equipment so he can't complain too loudly about the money I spend on dolls. However if he were to ever pressure me to sell them, thankfully he is not the type to do such a thing, I would pack the dolls up and leave him. That is if we couldn't work something out so we can all stay.

 

I would get if money was tight and you needed some emergency funds, and telling someone to not buy dolls for a while because of other expenses is fine, but telling someone to get rid of something just because you don't like it is messed up.

 

When I moved in with the most important person in my life I knew she wasn't fond of my dolls and dolls even disturb her. I teased her now and then, but I asked for a compromise when we moved in together. I did not want to keep my doll in her box, but I would keep her on a shelf where she couldn't been seen from the bed. Now she has dolls of her own and while she doesn't like some of my creepier non BJDs, she is more open. Its all about respect. I respect that she has dogs and she respects that I like expensive dolls and wearing elaborate self made costumes in public.

Anyone who demands you get rid of a hobby they don't like is no good. They won't stop there and if you give in once its over. And I saw a couple people mention if there was a money issue maybe, but I would add only if they are equally sacrificing.