"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

If they want you to get rid of your dolls because they don't like them, I would think they arn't the right person. I couldn't stand someone who is controlling like that.

However... if they asked me to sell them in order to help finance something, if the money was really needed somewhere else, It would be very difficult. I would get a second job before selling my dolls >_<

 

I've had people I was interested in tell me how creepy they find my doll, and that was a hugggeeee turn-off itself, if someone told me to sell them, I probably would stop talking to them to be honest. No one else has the right to dictate what hobbies I'm allowed in, nor what I should spend my own money on.
I think it's really selfish and rude of someone to tell someone else to sell their dolls

 

"and then I broke up with them" I say to my dolls

 

Well, then I'd tell them where they can go. If they're not going to embrace me for my quirks and hobbies, they're not someone worth having around. It's part of being in a relationship. You let the person you're with express who they are and have their hobbies. I wouldn't tell my boyfriend he had to get rid of his guitar or video games, though the latter is my hobby too.
I don't feel like someone like that is worth my time. There are plenty of guys and girls that would love me for me, I don't need to waste my time on people that don't.

 

I have never had to deal with this kind of situation, either from my bf nor my family, but sadly people in general have a lot of tendencies to telling others what to do. It always suprises me and make me feel tired and i'm trying my best to avoid people like that which is of course not possible. Some time ago i was thinking that it goes only for people who don't have any kind of hobbies or interests in general, as it would be hard for them to imagine something like that, but i've already met some people like this who just treat the others people ineterest like it's less important or even stupid. As for the boyfriend that would be very bad sign, first the hobby and later would come the other things you would need to eventually change cause "he don't like it". I can't imagine spending my life with the person like.

 

I'm fortunate as I discovered the hobby a few years into our marriage and my husband has no hobbies at all and I have quite a few but he accepts dolls etc... fully. He sometimes says when we are short on money or if he lost his job - the dolls would be the first to go and I get that and I have sold a few when we have had large medical bills but I would always keep a few and not part with them except under really dire circumstances. But if I was in the position of meeting someone for the first time and they said that I would drop them like a hot potato! If you continued to date someone like that you wouldn't be happy in the long run and you both would be arguing about something you love.

 

I've been a lifelong doll collector, so any potential mate would know firsthand what they were getting into. And, barring emergencies or some other Really Good Reason for selling, the dolls aren't going anywhere. You don't have to like my hobby, but you do have to respect me.

 

Any potential partner would be immediately crossed off my list if he/she started dictating terms to me.

Fortunately, I have never had the situation arise. Hubs put up with me collecting teddy bears for nearly 20 years and the house is full of them, then came Blythe, so what's a few more dolls gonna do? Mind you he's not as keen on the Blythes as he is about the BJD's, but he'd never ask me to sell any of them. He's a sweetie and has a great attitude towards my collecting, he says if I'm happy, then he's happy!

 

"So I guess its over" says me..
Lol.

Unless there is some major financial difficulty in my family, I dun think I will..
I would rather take a second job to pay it off..

As for potential mate, he better not be demanding that whilst having any sort of hobbies of his own else I do the same to him... >.< *roar*

 

"Kiss my grits" says I as I kick ex-potential mate to the curb.

Seriously, I know that some people can be shallow, but anyone who says "your dolls or me" is going to be on the losing end of the choice. And good riddance to them. This isn't because dolls are more important to me than people--they're not. It's just that someone who is going to be that rejecting about something as (relatively) minor as a hobby is going to be real trouble down the road for more important considerations. It's a surprisingly small step from "sell your dolls" to "get that abortion" or "have that boob job".

 

I did have one potential mate who asked me why I would waste such a large amount of money on dolls.
I simply reminded him that his guitar was just an over $1000 piece of wood with strings attached to it ;P

Asking me to sell them would just be a step too far, who are they to tell me what I can and can't do with my own money. That is the kind of pressure that would just start alarm bells in my head. Even if I was in a bit of a stick with money, I would hope the person I was dating would be respectful enough to let me offer to sell my property rather than volunteering it.

 

no,but my parents really don't like my dolls.....

 

I hear this all the time from my family but my husband has never told me to sell my girls. He actually paid for them xD But! If he were to ever say "sell your dolls" i would tell him "fine sell your car". Insert awkward moment then dropped subject.

 

Basically, my hobby has never been the reason I ended it with someone. It's been me ending it because even though I collect dolls, the guys that I dated were too immature and I was ready for a mature adult relationship that required the care and consideration that I deserved but wasn't getting. The only time I have ever asked for someone to give up anything was over drugs. He didn't. So I said goodbye.

 

I had a friend who told me why I was dumb enough to spend my money on my doll, so I asked them why they were dumb enough to spend their money on their Lego collectibles. They stopped asking me after that. My parents, and my sister respect me and my hobby. Their motto is: "If you bought it with your own money, and you worked hard for it, you have every right to spend your money on whatever you want." my sister thinks he's neat, and she was the first one to comment on his manhood. "So...he has a pe-" "YES, HE DOES." X3

I haven't shown my mom my doll yet, but I know for a fact that she won't hate it. She'll be curious the first time, but I know she'll warm up to him. Heck, she has a metal rooster candle holder she named Wolfgang. XD And I will be taking Julian to Germany this year December (he will keep me company on the long flight to and from there), because I want him to enjoy the Christmas Market in that country.

 

oh yes i know this. this guy i am living with also dont understands my hobby

 

Metal roosters FTW...I keep telling my mom if we move we're gonna get a big metal lawn rooster...She ain't warming up to the idea.

XD But she is very supportive of my dolls.

 

If any boyfriend of mine said I couldn't keep my dolls if I was going to be with him, I wouldn't be with him much longer than that. Thankfully, my current boyfriend has been very understanding about my dolls, even though he was kind of afraid of them at first. Now he wants a few of his own, though it's not very high up on his priorities, and that's perfectly fine. ^ - ^

 

I started collecting about a year ago and my BF has been very supportive. I don't have many hobbies as I'm too busy so this is really my first one since I was a child. If I were to have met someone who tells me to sell my dolls there would be some choice expletives I have in mind for them. How rude

 

Well, since my last post my bf has asked me to sell a few dolls. Its due to financial reasons and he's already told me which dolls i'm NOT allowed to part with XD In reality, he is only asking me to get rid of the ones i'm not attached to or havent gotten bodies for yet. "As a mercy to the dolls" since there's no way we can currently afford bodies for most of the heads in the next year. These plans may change if i am able to find a job before summer (been looking for 3 years..... tho in a couple months my location will change so the job search options should expand ). The only extra heads i'm keeping are the ones that share a body (delf arwen functions as a second makeup style for Hoshi, Melody has a unicorn head) and 3 floating faceplates for tinies as they might get a body for christmas (MIGHT).