"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate

If my potential mate ever did say that, I would counter that they sell their video games/gaming system, figurines/whatever they were into. Furthermore, I'm an adult and no one can tell me what to do. If I want to sell my dolls, or if I need to sell my dolls for some financial reason, I'll come to that conclusion myself. But telling me to? It isn't going to fly. Asking me to? I'm going to need for them to provide a darn good reason.

If they wanted me to give it up because they just wanted me to, or because they just didn't like them, it seems a little controlling to me. I can keep the dolls out of my significant other's way, if it really comes down to it, but I wouldn't get rid of them just because they say so. It would be the same if they wanted me to give up reading comic books or sewing; this is part of what makes me who I am.

 

Not from my mate, no. He understands that they represent a hobby and keep me occupied, he even gave me a whole room to myself to keep them in when we moved into our house. But from other family members I've gotten "You could get how much?! YOU SHOULD SELL THEM!!" which would defeat the purpose of having bought them in the first place.

 

My man listens to me ramble on about it happily. I even caught him posing my doll the other day. He thinks they're creepy but he's making an effort to warm up to them haha. He'd never tell me to do something like that, he's into wargaming and rambles way more than me but I'm getting into his hobby too. None of his previous girlfriends wanted to know about his hobby, so I think he understands.

 

My boyfriend would never do something like that. In fact, while I dithered over whether to get into the hobby or not, he was like "BUY THE DOLL ALREADY!!!"

If the person you're with expects you to drop things that are important to you because they don't like or understand them, then I suggest you drop them (unless, of course, it's some kind of bad habit or something that is somehow damaging to someone).

 

D8?!?! Seriously!!!! You're right! Who says that? That's horrible.

I think the only circumstances where the person probably would say that legitimately was if they didn't understand what the dolls were worth, or if the money was really needed. Other than that, that's just downright rude!!! :P

If it's someone you're going to spend your life with, they should understand you, is my opinion. They should understand how important the hobby is to you and shouldn't suggest giving it up like that unless it was really needed.

 

Any potential partner or mate who started telling me what I should do with my life, whether it be selling my dolls or anything else, gets the boot from my life right away. I've been with the same guy for 25 years now (going on 16 married) and a major reason, besides his being cuddly and funny and (to my eyes) cute and all that mush, is that he does NOT tell me what to do in any way, shape or form. I do what I want to do and I have the adult judgment to make my own decisions.

 

I think that if someone really cares about you they wouldn't ask you to be rid of the things that bring you happiness. I would have to reconsider seeing someone of they wanted me to sell my girls, as I don't see it has being a harmful hobby.

 

Well if a potential mate would place such a condition upon me without a reason (like, severe budget problems to our household), than he would get disqualified right there and than. Simple as that.

 

I guess I'm lucky, too. My husband is supportive, even facilitating the purchase of my latest two. I can imagine why a potential spouse would require such a sacrifice, but they'd be wrong in most cases. Anything less than dire economic need or unhealthy obssession isn't enough reason to request drastic changes.

 

I stand my by my rule for any potental mate:
Liking my dolls is not required, but I will not get rid of them just becuase they didn't like them.

 

My husband is really supportive of my collection, although my parents often ask me why I spend so much money on them when I could buy something we need and can use!

 

The only Male friend i have Happens to be my boyfriend, *only person who shares the same interests as me, Anime, Manga, Art, Asian/japanese stuff~* When i showed him the site with the Dolls, He practically wanted one himself XD; Im so lucky ._.

 

I have't had my husband tell me I needed to sell my dolls. He did, at one time start telling me that I was getting a bit 'olde' to be a Goth. To which I answered that if he was embarassed by me after all of these years then he could file for divorce! That olde adage about how women go into a marriage hoping their spouse will change and men go into it hoping they won't has been the opposite for us.

Reminds me of that episode of Seinfeld where Elain expects a guy she just started seeing to get rid of his cats(which were around long before she was) how egotistical can some people get?

 

I have't had my husband tell me I needed to sell my dolls. He did, at one time start telling me that I was getting a bit 'olde' to be a Goth. To which I answered that if he was embarassed by me after all of these years then he could file for divorce! That olde adage about how women go into a marriage hoping their spouse will change and men go into it hoping they won't has been the opposite for us.

Reminds me of that episode of Seinfeld where Elain expects a guy she just started seeing to get rid of his cats(which were around long before she was) how egotistical can some people get?

 

"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate.

"Don't let the doorknob hit you on the way out." says I.

 

I am a full fledged doll collector now. At the beginning, when I was just getting hooked on dolls, my husband came home while I was in the living room playing with a few. I quickly started to put them away because I felt self conscious. My husband said, "It's alright darlin', you don't have to hide your dolls."

Nowadays he doesn't want me busting the bank with my doll addiction. Still, he is still extremely supportive even though he thinks the BJDs are creepy and doesn't really get it.

 

I am a serious addict now lol I obtained 8 dolls in less than a year -_- My fiance thinks they are creepy and helped me with most of them but he said no more....

But i'll get more one day! Just stay out my room!

 

"Sell your dolls" says the potential mate...

Fortunately I am happily married to an extremely supportive and wonderful man *gloat* BUT were I single and looking to get involved, the above scenario would never happen because someone that selfish just wouldnt be attractive to begin with....

 

In my opinion, If the person really loves you, they should respect you and support the hobbies you love and not tell you to get rid of them. I would never get rid of my dolls just because some man tells me too. No matter how much I love them. There's always other fish in the sea.

 

Sell your mate! I've been with my partner for 21 years and have been interested in BJD for only 2 years, so he is not too judgmental. It does embarrass him a little bit, especially when Hazy is in her underwear.