"Waste of Money?"

I've been told i'm a big spender almost everyday..

 

i feel upset whrn ppl ar saying that
alsomwhen they say i m too old for dolls
not that i m upset about the words they said
but what hurt me most is that they look down at my hobby
i had teo dolls and my friend said one is "uglier" than the other
i was quite upset

i guess we just need to stop listening to those ppl who dont appreciate our hobby / dolls

 

Whenever people say that I always anwer: "awesome.... so how much was you ipod and your designer shoes....?"

I think there's no need in justifying our bjd purchases. As long as we're ourselves not starving or indebted... it's nobody's business

Plus, some people are fine with having little (despite the potential of having much) and they should just leave me alone. I don't feel like having nothing, just because some people (like my father) are satisfied with having no car, no home, no nothing and an MA in their pocket... That's my actual irl problem... Once I learn of that a given person has such an attitude and also a tendency to suggest others what they should/should not do with their money - I hide from them what I spend the money on. I have a right to have something more from my life -just like's been said above

 

To be honest, I don't really let it get to me, if you think about it a sofa costs twice as much as a 1/4 scale bjd. a SOFA, and yh I know people need places to sit but come on. Like over £600 for a sofa? K ill stop talking about sofa's now... Anyway, when people say they're a huge waste of money, or ask why they're so much. I just say that they're special handcrafted collectable items and the materials, time and effort put into making them obviously costs money to buy. Though something I get told a lot more is that they're extremely 'creepy' and that also makes me sad, and worried that ill start finding them 'creepy' as well. But u know what? The people that say these things, that's their problem. Also, im sure they have things that they like that other people find weird or creepy as well.


Personally I find one direction fans the scariest people on the planet.....

 

I've never been told they're a waste of money, and too me they aren't because my girl that I have now helps out with my art sketching when I'm out of college

 

In my opinion, people spent much money on their hobbies such as cars, jewelry, watches or consumer electronics. People have no reason to tell others who are doll-people. However, if the person who is your Mom, and she gives you cost of living. She can concern you with the source that you spend.

 

Honestly, anyone I catch saying this, I sever ties from them gradually. I am a loner by nature, and very selective with my friends. My dolls really bring me peace and tranquility, and more often than not, they proffer the "fixed point" that I need, in the midst of everything that changes. So, my dolls serve a far greater purpose than other people did (who has the capacity to deal pain, betrayal, loss).

In a sense, I care, but only to the point where I know from whom I will end my connections with. If they don't understand me and what makes me motivated or sane, then they are not worth keeping around at all.

 

On the one hand, sometimes I worry that dangerous spending is an issue with the community.

On the other hand, money is only worth what you use it for, so if your bills are getting paid and your life is in order, who cares what someone chooses to spend their pocket money on?

 

I think no matter what hobby you are in be it in BJDs or cosplay or sports it will always seem like a waste of money for someone who do not understand it fully. I do cosplay as well and let me tell u i get called names like childish and running away from reality same with my doll hobby, it does get heartbreaking but after a while i get used to it. It seems sad but that is the case for me but i do have some friends who appreciate this hobby and find the dolls just gorgeous; and that just makes me so happy.

 

If someone says BJDs are a waste of money, I will know not to bother them with any talk about BJDs. It's simple enough. They obviously aren't interested. They are allowed their opinion, although I'm sure they'd hate it if I called everything they bought a waste of money, if it wasn't something I was into!!! I wish people would sometimes keep their opinions to themselves. Really... I'd rather not hear them if it is something critical. It's none of their business how I spend my money! --and it's STILL not their business if they are my relatives or friends or whatever.

I think it's a pretty obnoxious thing to say to someone: "Hey, that outfit you have on? Total waste of money!" "New haircut? Wow, what a total waste of money!!!" "Are you going out to the movies again? They are such a waste of money!" "Oh, you got that new car you wanted? Stupid waste of money!"

Really... people need to try and be nicer. If they are truly worried about someone's spending habits, there are better ways to approach it. Actually, I tend to spend more if people give me a hard time about it...

 

It's easy for people to be judgmental about something like this, and it can hurt when someone you care about gives you grief for something you love, but keep in mind that everyone has some frivolous hobby they're spending money on themselves. Updating your cell phone three times a year costs money, seeing your favorite sports teams in person costs money, that thing they collect that they're so sure is perfectly proper and adult costs money. Just because they see the value in their hobbies but not in yours doesn't make them right.

 

Many of my family and friends have called it 'weird', 'a waist of time, effort and money', and an 'endless money-pit'.
I tend to just shrug it off though, just gotta keep on keeping on!

 

Almost all of my friends and family are in the hobby, so I rarely hear this lol. If my mom or aunt ask why I'm wasting money on a doll or something for a doll, I usually just ask "so, how long ago did you order that $700 doll you're waiting on..?" lol.

 

My husband thinks it's a waste of money. I always deal with this by realizing his hobbies could be considered a "waste" of money as well. I say, live and let live!

 

Fortunately I don't have to answer to anyone about how much I spend on anything, but I've had someone ask me if the money I spent on computer games was wise. My response was that there are worse things I could spend my money on. I don't do drugs or gamble or drink, etc. That ended questioning.

 

It's a hobby - something you enjoy.
Like someone else here said everything you spend money on is essentially "a waste of time" unless its for our survival.
Saying "it's a waste of money" is like telling a photographer that their hobby is superfluous just because of all the money they spend on equipment, or that playing sports is a waste of time and buying sports equipment is a waste of money.

This hobby isn't hurting anyone else (except our bank accounts ahahahahh)
People should let us be IMO haha. I dont really get why other people feel that they think they should deem what we love worth of spending money on or not.

And as some others have pointed out - the people who say this are usually not educated enough as to know WHY they are so expensive.

 

I'm a collector. I've always been a collector. (I blame Pokemon) At first it was plushies, pokemon, and barbies when I was little, then it was mostly video games and systems, recently it was Monster high dolls, and now I'm into bjds. My mom thinks its absolutely ridiculous to spend what we spend on bjds, and while she somewhat respects that it's my choice what to do with my money, I just hate feeling so judged and pressured.

I recently got in to the hobby, and just got my first dolls. In an effort to maintain balance, I have thoroughly gone through my room and done what I call a "purge" of things that I no longer need or pay attention to. I feel that saving up for my first dolls helped me quit buying monster high dolls (I have a rough time mentally when I'm away at college and they were turning into pure consumer therapy), taught me a thing or two about saving and really working hard towards a goal, and helped show me how few things I truly actually need in my life, and what there is that I can bear to part with.

What's frustrating, is that I argue all of these things to her, but still all she can say is how oh I was 17 when I moved out and I paid for college with a job over the summer and I didnt BUY things, Cari, I bought a coat once and that was it, what is this obsession with things needing to be cute??

How do you guys deal with this? I have no frame of reference and while she respects my choices, it bothers me that that respect feels like it's only so that we won't fight a lot and not that she really gets it or can see what the hobby has helped me to do already..

 

I constantly battle with myself on what I consider a waste of money...I always say my dolls are a waste of money but...if they make you happy and keep you occupied and you can still pay your bills I say go for it.

 

Why would I spend that much money?

Because I am a working, functioning adult & I want to.

People spend their money on all kinds of things-- why is it a sports fan can spend hundreds on football paraphernalia & tickets & no one blinks an eye? Come on.

 

The way i look at it is, its your money. Save it up and buy the doll if you want it. My mom likes reborn babies. She understands my hobby. She still thinks im just going through a phase and that my new girl will be on ebay with the next month. However i have been looking into this hobby for TWO years(sorry for caps) and i cant be happier with my new doll. I had my eye on this sculpt since i started looking so why would i sell her. I think that as long as you care and give your doll the attention it deserves its not a waste of money