Ways of getting your boyfriend into BJDs?

I got 2 27cms on Ebay once-- just as a fluke good price sort of spur of the moment thing.. I kinda regretted it a little after they got here-- I was going through the stuff after it arrived and my fiance was helping me.. I was joking around and said he could keep one of them if he wanted and we could modify dolls together and I laughed. He nodded as he picked one of them up and started moving the limbs around and said "actually I would like to keep this one if that's ok"
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Nothing else to it! ^_^ He's planning on re-constructing Major from Ghost in The Shell.

 

It wasnt hard to get my ex into these dolls, as he is the kind to spend money fast. He saw Petsha and fell for her.

 

I dont have a bf just guys that r friends...
A few points to get 'em interested:
-Customization
-The fact that you can make them look like you, or an anime character

TELL him you want to make one that resembles you as an anime character, and ask questions like this head, or this one? and 'which eye looks the most like mine would [if i were an anime character]?'

Drop the doll in his arms as you run off to do 'something you forgot' suddenly, before he can respond.
Lastly,
Boobies. The all-time winner.

 

I don't. If he's not interested, then he's not interested. My guy adores chemistry and physics and politics and so forth... and I'm not always into that. And he doesn't try to get me into it so I don't try to get him into something he's not truly interested in. ^^;

That said... I still do talk about my dolls to him and he lets me just like I let him talk XD

 

Got mine interested by saying I wanted to get a hound and make it look like Wolfwood from Trigun. He was so confused by what I said, I showed him a Hound, then pointed out how it would be awesome to have at my art table at MTAC.

Now he's buggin me to get my first doll to make it cosplay stuff.

 

I just gotta say, I love this thread!

Soon as I get my dolly, I'm looking forward to seeing my boyfriend's reaction. Haha.

 

My ex-boyfriend was a photographer, so he loved the dolls because they were more patient models than I was My current boyfriend hasn't been introduced to my dolls, but his grandmother collects porcelain dolls, so he understands the collecting aspect of the hobby, even if he doesn't get how awesome the dolls are themselves... yet!

 

My fiance also thinks dolls are a waste of money. (this coming from the guy who's buying a close to $200 game so he can get the remote control bomb car that comes with it...) But he's slowly coming around. Mainly because I'm saving the money myself, and I promised to never buy him a present again. (he hates presents... yet I love giving presents... oh well. A doll is well worth it.)

 

I don't think my boyfriend will ever be interested in dolls. He just doesn't get it and when I showed him my Elfdoll Tasha he was disturbed by her (admittedly) pointy nipples/push up boobs and questioned why I (as a feminist) would be interested in a doll that is sexualised when it came to her breasts. Trying to show him female dolls with more realistic breasts just made him even more concerned about the mentality of doll collectors xD. *Cough* as you can see, he'd be more offended if I tried to get him involved with the 'big boobies!' tactic (although I'm rather proud of him for that).
So, er, yeah that shut me up. He just finds them creepy although he does seem to have some interest in Chrom and his wolf claws, I think he likes the werewolf idea

 

I don't like forcing people, even if he's my boyfriend... I'm just not that type
Anyway, I love alot of things and so as my boyfriend, there are things that we are the same so are those that we are not
it is a matter of respecting, I cannot coerce on what he likes to do or what he prefers
if he likes the hobby, then so be it, if not, then there is no problem
having differences gives thrill and excitement...

 

My boyfriend has no frickin idea what a bjd is let alone the fact that I secretly pine for my own!! Although he does know that I love minatures and that I get more-than-normal attached to things. I really don't know how I would break it to him haha but I don't think he would be that surprised in the the long term... I think its best not to just spring the hobby on to someone whether you're dating them or not. Most people are very inquisitive so questions and interest would probably develop over time ^^

 

Maybe it's just me not having a boyfriend, but... does he HAVE to be in the hobby?
I'd be just comfortable with boyfriend accepting it, but not wanting to indulge in it himself.

The guy might warm up to the dolls, but some guys really aren't interested...

 

I'm a guy myself, and I think that acceptance is kind of a non-problem. If the guy respects you, he will acclimate when he recognizes that it is not just your latest fad. That just takes time. At worst, he'll just leave well enough alone. If he rages, there is something else going on.

Buuuuut, if recruitment is really the goal the best way is to tie it to an existing hobby of his.

• Artists are easy. Make a doll pretty or otherwise visually interesting and he's in.
• If he is a collector, then consistently call your hobby collecting.
• If he does crafting, ask if he can make something doll-sized.
• If he plays with action figures, show off the dolls' posing abilites.
• If he likes anime, show him a Dollfie Dream.
• And if the best approach you can get is just that he likes girls, then show him an EID or SID woman. Present them as 3D pin ups that you consider OK for him to ogle!

There are a huge selection of dolls. So there are a similarly huge selection of approaches you can take.

 

I agree with what gaiaswill said. For me all it took to get him interested was asking his help in naming Josslyn and mentionng that a lot of people use them to represent characters. He's a big DnD player and has a couple PCs that are really special to him. "Unfortunately" he'd rather me get the dolls I want before he does, lol. I almost had him tempted with Iplehouse's Chase and the doll armor and weapons (sword, axe, mace...) at the bjd con! If I could get him to actively doll hunt I could surprise him.

 

All I had to do was show mine pictures of the SD16 boy.... now he owns the three biggest BJD's in the house (as well as being some of the most expensive ones).

Teddy

 

My hubby was a little confused when I appeared with a doll. Dolls do not fit my personality very well. As my mother says they seem more in line with him than with me, but he supported me from the start. I don't drive, or socialize on my own (social anxiety) so he took me to my first meet up. Luckily it was a small meet, not too over whelming for me. One of the locals says to me "Here you should hold him" and drops her big DOI A&D into my arms. She told me to let hubby hold him too. Well that was it for him. He has been absolutely in love with dolls ever since. He had a DOI Luke within months (a gift from me). I fell for the big boys at the same time and totally changed my collecting habits. Even our boys (the real live fleshy ones, not the resin ones) are in love with the dolls. Our oldest son has his own doll, a dz bunny named Edward, though she is a girl. Our youngest is hoping for a doll of his own for his birthday though he claims Kitsune wants to be his doll and he likes to hang out with Noble when he gets the chance.

 

I don't know if he's particularly into them but when I mentioned a while back that I was planning on selling my collection (not anymore lol) he just looked at me, very perplexed and said "But you love your dolls!"

No way to really get people into them. They may like them more if they get to look at and touch them instead of just looking at pretty pictures of a very expensive collectable on the internet.

 

As a guy, I'd say just show them to him. Talk about why you like them so much and expose them to him a decent amount. If there's even the slightest chance that he has the potential to get into the hobby he'll eventually become curious. And like many of the others have said, just give him the opportunity to play with you doll(s). Guys like to play with stuff and if they play with something enough then soon they'll want one of their own.

 

My boyfriend likes my boys as well. If I leave any of them sitting out in easy reach he will start playing with them and posing them. Hahah. He even added 'asian ball-jointed dolls' to his likes on Facebook. :P

 

My boyfriend tolerates my doll obsession just like he tolerates my maid obsession (and go figure the girl that likes being a maid gets the boyfriend who thinks it's weird). He's not so keen on the money aspect, but he's fine with it because I work to pay for my doll stuff. While I can't tell you how to get your boyfriend to like dolls (I don't think anyone can MAKE a person like something), here's my summary of how he can live with it.

1. Try to control the urge to babble about dolls dolls dolls. He needs a change of subject. If he's not already into them he probably doesn't understand and probably doesn't want to right now. If you smother him with DOLLS all day long, you might cause him to resent them.

2. The doll cannot be more important than him. Nobody likes to give someone all their heart, but play second fiddle to something/someone else. How would you feel if he valued a bowling ball over you? If you both have more important things than each other, you're good. If you're casual daters, then it doesn't matter.

Exceptions to this rule are made when there is something wrong. For example, your boyfriend throws your doll down the stairs on purpose (yes, this happened to a person in the Ringdoll waiting room). In these cases, the issue is not the doll being more important, but the lack of respect for something you care about. We told the person to dump that jerk fast. If he treats your things like that, how is he treating you? Hate the dolls or not, he should never go out of his way to hurt something you care about.

3. Let him take it at his speed. You cannot force love onto a time-table.

4. Fanservice doesn't hurt. If you have a female doll with a great rack and he likes nurses, I don't he'd complain if you left her hanging about in a nurse costume for a few days. Again, don't thust the doll into his face and shout "Look at mah sexy dollies T&A!". It needs to be subtle to be less creepy.

5. Don't spend his money on something he doesn't like. Your obsession, your funds. Period.

6. Limit the creepy factor. Don't leave your doll somewhere in the house where your boyfriend will feel watched. Watched = need to stop the watcher = hate. Your doll should be fun and non-threatening, not a resin stalker. For an extreme example, NEVER leave your doll in the bathroom staring at the toilet overnight. I did this with an off-topic doll and scared my little brother to pieces. Nobody likes being creeped on on the potty.