What if someone else opened your doll?

I need to qualify this statement. My first two box-openings were private, ritualistic affairs to me. I didn't want anyone around the new arrivals until I had a tolerable idea of how they made me feel.

My third box-opening was mind-boggling. A special someone surprised me with a new doll o.O I did wind-up doing the physical unwrapping myself, but the outer box was gone, and I wanted to share the experience. In this case, it probably would have been okay if the doll had been opened.

 

If they knew how to handle it and what you need to check for when opening the package (is the box damaged, is the doll damaged, is everything in there, etc) then sure, yeah. Open my doll for me.

If permission was not given, then I might be annoyed though not seriously mad as long as nothing was damaged and the doll was packed up again until I could inspect it. If, say, my postman left a box outside my door, and a stranger in our apartment complex opened it - even if they repackaged everything, nothing was missing, etc - and left it where they found it again, I'd be a bit more annoyed. Fortunately, no such incident has occurred and likely never will.

 

I've actually discussed this with my parents to make sure they wouldn't when mine arrives. They didn't get why I didn't want them to but after explaining it to them I hope they listen. o uo;

 

I also told my mom to not open it up! I think it is an intense moment when your opening the box

 

Well if somebody alreaddy opend it, it alreaddy happend so you can't change it. I would be sad, but I wont make a fuss about it. It has to open anyway.

 

I would probably be really upset. It's something that you have invested a lot of money in and have waited and waited for. It would take away so much of the excitement.

 

true, KiwiManatee . it would make me less excited than just angry.

actually people can kill my pet, eat my school lunch or tell me the end of movie im watching, and i wont be that angry as if someone will open my doll before me. its just a crime.

 

I for one would be fairly agitated as i abhor people touching my mail at the best of times.
I like opening my own mail packages - it's kinda like recieving a present - albeit that you payed for and have waited patiently for.
So i equate people opening my packages as opening a birthday or christmas present in a sense.

Also i have threatened family members with violence if they touch anything of mine that arrives - esp as i buy a lot online.

 

Until recently I've been living with a family member who used to not only open my parcels, but keep them in her room for over a week before mentioning to me that they've arrived. Thankfully I adequately demonstrated to her my supreme irritation at her actions before any resin started turning up, and this hasn't happened since.

I feel deep empathy for people who have to experience the carelessness (or even paranoia) of their family members / roommates / landladies/lords / even NEIGHBOURS, sometimes, in opening a parcel not addressed to them, since it can be very aggravating and intrusive to the parcel's intended recipient - not feelings you'd want to associate with a lovely new doll.

On the other hand, I don't believe in harbouring resentment due to a one-time absent-minded opening, and I think a lot of stress can be avoided by just letting the relevant people know that there is a parcel on the way which you would prefer people to leave alone - I believe this has been previously mentioned numerous times in this thread.

Sentimentality is a large part of what appeals to me about this hobby, and a box opening is a very significant sentimental event for many doll owners - it's hardly surprising it can have such a great effect on 'bonding' and feelings of ownership.

 

We had this problem, adorkableprince and I, about opening up each others boxes.
It's shown in our box opening videos but like. We ordered 3 Luts dolls at once. We both got KDFs
so it's hard to tell who's is who's cause Lut's also doesn't put pictures of the model on the box like some companies do.
We found a away to both open the boxes to see if there were certificates...
there were none...
in the end after switching around a few times we got to unwrap our own dolls XD
I'm not really bothered by this fact but I was worried about opening up her doll and vice versa.
Not to the point where i'd freak out but like it's our first dolls XD it's magical desuuuuu

I'm probably more worried about other people handling them.
I would hope that no one else opens my boxes because it's clearly addressed to me but like...
I would be pretty angry if it was someone I don't know. Like I don't like how customs sometimes opens the boxes and check the dolls. =w=
It can't be helped. I'd just yell at whoever in my place opened a package that was clearly for me and they'd never do it again..
Cause isn't it against the law (unless you're underage) to open someone else's mail?

 

I check the mail everyday when i order a doll.
And i ordered my first BJD on tuesday. (From Ebay, im going to customise her).

If someone in my family opens a doll for me I would be pretty pissed off, the doll opening is really exiting when you wait for a looooooong time then after all that waiting and purchasing you would love a reward with your doll, so that would make me upset if anyone exept me opens the doll! >_<
But I let my mum put the package on my bed, when it comes when i'm at school, my dolls just wait in the box on my bed, then i get a supprise in my room when i flick the lights on!

 

It would depend on the circumstances, ie: someone got me a doll as a gift, I'd expect them to open it and inspect it for damage before giving it to me. If I wasn't going to be home for several days and a doll package arrived severely damaged, I'd ask my roommate(or if my roommate is gone as well, whoever is getting our mail) to open it to check for damages. Heck, if I wasn't going to be home for several days, I might have my roommate open the box for me anyways--so I don't have to do it .

I don't really care about the box opening any more so it really doesn't matter to me. If it was a complete stranger, I'd be pissed, but more because of the "stranger opening my mail" thing than anything else. In fact I live in my Mother's house with a roommate, my Mother doesn't live here, but still gets most of her mail here. I go through it and send it to her at least once a month. I open(with her permission) anything that looks important so I know if it needs sent on imediatly. We get a LOT of junk mail. As for packages, since my roommate is fairly phisicaly disabled I end up opening most of them anyway--hers and mine .

 

I would be mad...especially since I haven't gotten a doll yet so the next box opening will be my first and if someone took that away from me, I would be pissed for a while.

 

I don't think I'd be annoyed if anyone opened my box for me - I'd just be really confused. How in the world could anyone mistake a giant box with Korean/Japanese/Chinese on it for any of their stuff? Barring group orders and explicit permission, of course. Thankfully, when I was living with my parents, they knew better than that. Now that I'm on my own, it's a nonissue.

That said, I do like unboxing them myself and taking pics - that's the only way I manage to remember when what dolls arrived

 

I wouldn't like it if someone opened my doll without permission. Though due to being at college (and the dorm mailboxes being tiny), I do send things to friends/family instead so I usually tell them to look things over, since it's best to report damage (if there is any) as soon as possible.

 

The box openings are something special to me, so I would be angry if someone opened my doll. Unless I had given permission, that is (which... I probably wouldn't). Even if I got a doll for my birthday or christmas (from my parents), if it had arrived a week or a few days early, I would have wanted to check for any damages and to make sure everything was there before packing the doll away again (after all, there's really no spoiling the surprise. I would have had to help my parents purchasing the doll anyway to make sure everything was right and to pay (my dad has paypal, but doesn't really know how to use it)).

 

My brother and sister in law opened my first doll. At first I was just excited that he was finally home, but later on I realized how I didn't seem to bond with him at all. He stayed in his box almost all the time. A few months later, when I was looking at my new doll, I flat out told them that if they open her, I'll break their hands. D:<
I ended up selling Flo, the one they opened, but I got to open Lo and with a friend present.

Like vanzinger said. It's like they're not quite YOURS when that happens.

I guess people don't know that it's illegal to go through people's mail. D:<

 

Just to preface, I dont get excited about doll box openings.

And my mom opens ALL my mail. I dont have things sent to my apt. for safty reasons and my mom likes to open anything I get and call me and tell me whats in the box. I dont mind at all really, she's allways opened my mail if im not there first, at least if its a package and she's not the type to ruin anything so its just a non-issue for me.

edit; When my mom knows doll things are coming, I think she opens them because she's just as excited as I am and wants to see it. *shrug*

 

I never really gave this topic much thought, but recently my friend who is about to buy her first doll wanted to ship him to my place [because she didn't want her parents to know] and it dawned on me that I really wanted her to be there to open him, and not me. I imagined myself opening her doll and I know it just wouldn't feel right, because even though I looked at him first, he was not mine to keep..

These dolls are not real or anything but it's weird how this imprinting thing is so important to some, including me. I remember seeing a box opening video where two friends were trying so hard not to open each other's dolls, because they arrived at the same time... it's kinda cute. :3

 

My partner was talking recently about ways he wanted to propose to me (because he is a darling) and he said that one way he would love to is to buy a doll for me, and then to put the ring in with the doll, so that the doll was holding it when I opened the box. I loved the idea, and he was the first to bring up the 'would you be mad if I opened the box first?' discussion. I felt that as long as it felt like I was the one opening it, then I wouldn't be too worried. But I do like to be the first one to welcome my little resin babies to the world. His next idea was to get a doll from a small company (he was thinking a BlueBlood Doll I have been wanting for ages) and ask if they could put the ring in with the doll heh! I laughed, and said that was far too complicated.

I do have to say that, with my dolls that I have, I didn't get to open Andi as she was owned by my friend first, and it took me longer to bond with her than the others, I think because I didn't get to welcome her. So from now on I would most like to open all my resin babies!