What if someone else opened your doll?

I'd probably just feel kind of sad. Mainly because it means someone else got to see what I wanted for so long before I did. My family isn't too great with letting me be the first to open my things. They all knew I got accepted to my top choice college before I did because they opened my mail. My first doll was a birthday gift so I convinced my mother to let me open her box and make sure everything was okay before she wrapped it but really I wanted to be the first person to see her. I generally just feel sad when people don't respect that I've been waiting for something for a long time and that I want to be the one to open it and see it first.

 

My mother never opens my things, she asks first. And when I have fun things arriving, and she picks it up, she leaves it on my bed, but then corner me in some part of the house and goes: "You have mail! Open it!" and basically forces me to open my letters/packages haha!

Not sure if it counts, but when my Unidoll Jace arrived at the customs, they opened the box (and checked for drugs I guess), wouldn't have bothered me as much, as it actually did, if it wasn't for the fact that he arrived home to me broken and with a customs fee of 1228 Sek.. They opened my box, broke my baby and charged me for it, bastards.

 

My boyfriend practically did my girl's entire unboxing; I had opened the outer cardboard and Luts box and had been looking at the manual that came with it, turned around to look for my camera and when I looked back he had my girl out on the bed and was taking the bubblewrap off her face and limbs. I didn't really mind, it was kinda cute, he was curious as I had been excited for awhile.

 

You mean, like, if someone in my family opened it? aside from the invasion of privacy I wouldn't care...it's just a doll...I don't see whats so deeply, intimately personal and private about it...

 

I would probably be REALLY upset! I remember getting a Jirachi plush on eBay and being dead set on opening him and even playing music that he would like. There is no way I'd let anyone open my doll or touch him/her until I have. Well, unless I planned for said person to be a part of the family? Haha!
But, yes, I'd be very unhappy with someone who opened my doll before me and got to see him first. There really is something special about being the one to open your doll and see them first, before anyone else. That's all robbed from you when someone else does it.

 

I actually wouldn't mind. The box opening isn't a big deal to me. I get frustrated with all the bubble wrap and what-not.

My biggest thing with them is putting in the eyes and dressing them up for the first time. I don't find them extremely attractive all nakey and boring. My excitement comes from the customization, not the opening/initial meeting of the doll.

 

Firstly, it's a federal offense in the US to open someone else's mail without their permission.

It's also a personal offense. I couldn't care less about what's in the package, only about how someone would display such extreme arrogance/entitlement and a gross disrespect for someone else's property and privacy.

On the other hand, if I can't get to a package and someone informs me of its incoming, I'm more than fine with allowing them to open everything and set it all up for when I get home. But that's with permission. It's both illegal and extremely rude otherwise.

+1, but I always thought I was the only one lol

 

I imagine I'd flip out rather more than might actually be necessary.... I have some pretty severe issues about people touching my things without permission (and even rarely with it- I've got to hover over the SO any time he decides to go poking about at the dolls just in case he's handling them with less than kid gloves.)... While I don't really enjoy 'box openings' quite so much (the doll isn't -finished- until it's been dressed/completely put together!) the idea of somebody else opening the box and rifling through everything is very unsettling. Luckily I'm pretty much always the first one to the door/mailbox in the case of incoming packages...

I suppose I might feel differently if the doll was a surprise of course- opened before I knew it even existed, but like some others who've remarked before me, I've just got to be the first person to really 'handle' the finished doll, otherwise it seems to lose a little of that feeling of 'mine'...

 

i would flip out! i can not even imagine having someone else opening a new doll for me.
in my opinion, the box opening is the most important part of bonding with a doll. its like giving birth in a strange way

 

I don't like people touching my stuff, so I would consider it more as an invasion of privacy than anything else. I also really like opening new things, and a brand new chunk of resin is on the top of my list! Besides, I live alone atm, it's not like my cat can open a package twice his size.

 

I would be very upset and angry! I love myself to open the box alone ...

 

It would bother me. I can't even think of another person opening up my doll. >.<

 

I'd get mad, I hate when others open my possessions

 

I've never had a problem with anyone opening my mail, but I imagine I would be quite angry if it were to happen.

 

Blind rage would ensue. I would feel that way about any violation of my personal property,but I would seriously go off on someone if they opened my doll.

 

I wish I had a conherent answer to this prompt, but I feel like i would go through the five stages of grief.
Denial - there is no way that's my package, I'm just being stupid
Anger - HOW DARE YOU TOUCH MY MAIL. THAT'S A CRIME!
Bargaining - (couldn't think of a way to make it relate)
Depression - -sulking in corner-
Acceptance - I'm going to get through this, it's just a doll opening.

The only explanation I can give for it being such a big deal, is that a box opening is the first contact the new owner has with their new doll and it's these first minutes that tend to set the foundation for bonding. Dolls I have felt sub-par about during the box opening I almost always sell later. It's kinda like childbirth, like instead of you holding the child first, your cousin does or something. It's just not cool.

 

If you open my packages, it better be because the box was ticking :/

I don't open other people's mail without permission so I expect them to extend the same courtesy to me. And what if it wasn't a doll? What if it's a Christmas or birthday gift I bought for them early? Or something REALLY embarassing for me that they are going to WISH they hadn't seen? XD If you're suposed to see what's inside, I'll SHOW YOU.

My brother gets me to order him socks. They come with my name on the package. If he's not home, I've considered opening them and having them washed and ready to wear for when he comes back. But, it IS a package for him and even though it's not super exciting, why not let HIM have the joy of opening it?

Customs. -_- Now there's some people who should have "How would I feel?" on their minds when they do their job. Okay. It HAS to be opened and they are legally allowed to do it. But they would probably hate having their mail touched too, so they should be as careful as they would want someone else to be with there's. As far as clean hands go, if they don't already, maybe they should be wearing latex gloves anyway? If not to keep the contents clean, then for their own safety in case someone sends something dangerous.

 

I've asked a friend to open a doll for me a few times because I was away. I've also had customs open a doll once or twice. What I worry most about customs is the chance that something 'falls out of the box' and gets lost.
When I was in Japan, my Aunt opened some of my mail without asking me first, but it turned out to be very important so I'm grateful she did! Sometimes you have to trust that people have the best intentions!
Other than that, having my own place means I don't run much risk of other people opening my doll stuff. If a roommate did, I would be upset and we'd have to talk about it! It really is a matter of respecting each other's privacy.

 

I'm honestly very upset when ANYONE opens ANY of my packages. As others have mentioned, it's against the law and I don't feel comfortable with people opening and potentially taking or damaging any one of my items when they go to open them.

 

Opening a doll that I worked my butt off to pay for and I waited patiently for for months would be the last thing that person would ever do, because I would kill them. It even makes me upset when it is clear that customs has opened my doll for inspection.