What if someone else opened your doll?

My Peakswood girl was opened up and pushed around by French customs and when she arrived to me, she was out of her protective head mask and her entire head was off. Luckily she was packed by a great seller who sent me pictures of her departure, so we knew that it was customs. It made me mad, but fortunately she was alright.

If someone at my house opened a doll I would be disappointed. You're right, it is fun to open them from start to finish like Christmas morning. (If it was an accident or they thought it was something else I would understand.)

 

I would FREAK. OUT. Whoa. I'm generally a very, very mellow person and will let just about anything slide, but dear heavens DO NOT open my doll. Even my darling, loving, sometimes unintentionally intrusive husband would feel my fiery wrath if he opened a doll without me. It would be like waking up christmas morning and finding someone else sitting in a pile of wrappings, playing with my new toys. Not just annoying, intrusive and cruel.

 

In the US, it's a Federal Crime (up to 10 years in prison, up to $250,000 fine), to open another person's mail.

... unless it is an honest mistake or you are the parent and the address is your under 18 child.

I wouldn't mind if I'd given permission or if the person did it for reason of checking the package for breakage--but really, I've never had the delivery guy wait for me to open a package to check, so I think I'd just wait to do the checking myself no matter what.

I did used to live with my mother who had no concept of the law... I just told her that she shouldn't be opening other people's mail without permission.

 

Because I live alone, I no longer have to worry about this issue as much, but when I lived at home with my parents, I would call the post office the day my package arrived and have them hold it, because my parents intentionally opened every package that came in, no matter who it belonged to. Sometimes they would hide the contents away and bring them out wrapped for Christmas or another gift holiday, even when whoever it belonged to had purchased it for themselves. Several years ago I bought a book in early November, and the seller and I were afraid the book was lost in the mail because though it had been confirmed as delivered, it was nowhere to be found and my parents "had no clue about anything like that arriving." Lo and behold, Christmas morning, there was a package under the tree, wrapped in gift wrap, that just so happened to be the book I ordered, which arrived in the third week of November. I told them how upset I was because they weren't just messing with me, they were messing with my seller too. They essentially told me to get over it.

What really bothers me now is that my brother, who lives with friends in a house with a perfectly good porch and mailbox, sends all his mail and packages to my house ( Fifty miles away) and the only time he ever calls me is to figure out if the package has arrived or not. He doesn't tell me when he's expecting one, or when it should arrive, he just calls when the tracking says it's been delivered. He then comes over, unpacks the items, leaves the packaging everywhere for me to clean up, takes his items and leaves. When I forget to give him his bills while he's over making a mess of things he gets upset with me. I filled out a change of address form for him the other day when I'd finally (after two years) had enough. I had ordered a doll head that was to be delivered, and on the day the doll was to arrive, I came home to packages on my front porch. I got all excited expecting the head to be there, but every single package was my brother's, and every piece of mail in the mailbox was his as well. Fortunately, when I called the post office, they tossed the head in with their other priority packages and had it delivered to me a little later. I still felt a bit robbed of excitement. Had I have known my brother was waiting for packages too, I would not have been so bothered. I'm so glad I'm moving from this place, I can finally have my mailbox 100% to myself.

 

I posted earlier that I don't have an issue with family opening my boxes and I don't, and occasionally my packages get opened by customs which I don't have an issue with either. I do worry slightly when I see an opened by customs sticker because I worry about the doll getting damaged. On the other hand, I've had one doll opened by customs and to see what was inside, they slashed the box open. Now that I do have an issue with. The lid of the box is now wrecked (it's in two pieces) and should I ever want to sell/ship the doll elsewhere, I've got a problem using the box. Not terribly happy with that state of affairs. I'm more unhappy because I view slashing a box as someone being impatient and unprofessional than I am with them opening the box in the first place.

Also after reading this thread, some parents are strange. Particularly the ones above who give kids presents they haven't purchased???

 

Well, this actually happened to me, but it turned out to be surprisingly positive!

My yo-SD Remi arrived, and while I was in the house, my sister went ahead and opened the box. I was a little sad to miss out on the initial "gasp" and "aww" I would have done, but luckily, I entered the room right as she did so. I now consider little Duckie to be partly my sister's. She named the doll "Duckie" or "Darci," which is adorable, considering my sister basically imprinted on the doll, as a duckling would do to its mother. So reverse imprinting! If I ever wanted to change Duckie's face-up or wig, I'd feel obligated to ask my sister - not because she'd demand it, but that I'd simply feel bad if I changed Duckie without asking her, considering how fond she is of that doll.

My sister is now interested in dolls, and jointed the forum! I'd say having her open my doll was quite a good thing! It's so nice to share a hobby with a sibling!

 

Uh... I would bite their ears off or something. No touchie, please. D=

This is making me really paranoid that someone will open my bjd because I'm currently looking for one to buy. My parents or sister usually open my packages... so I hope they don't get to it before I do. However, summer break is coming up so I'll be at home the whole time waiting for the mailman to come. No one is going to get to my bjd before I do. MUAHAHA. xD

Plus, I'm planning to record the process of me opening my bjd so I really hope no one gets to it before I do. Then I'll have to tape the box back and pretend it was never opened. Lol.

Look at me getting ahead of myself. I haven't even ordered a bjd yet but I'm sooo anxious already. I'm still looking for the perfect one.

 

i would be so unhappy with this,and if this person haven't told me about that,i think it's a bad behavior to do this!!
i can't bear this.

 

My Mom used to open my mail all the time so one day I open somthing of hers and she got made then I was like well see how I feel. She pretty good about not opening somthing that is addressed to me unless I ask her to do it like if I am visiting friends and I want to make sure the doll is undamaged. I am still miffed that when I got my Recon Ravage a transformer in the mail my mom opened it and said oh I thought it was that book you ordered for me... How do you think that when it says Hasbro and NEST transformers on the package gees. I sitll worry so most time I am glad I can get to the package before my mom gets home but with summer here and she off from school she a seceratery at a elementry school I work all Day so it will be harder but i think i can trust her I hope.

 

Besides the fact opening other people's mail is also out of law where I live, if someone else did that to me without my permission (I can not think of someone interested in such a thing, but if that person were not my partner or my mother I would surely answer "No") I would believe that person did not know, or did not care at all about, how much that means to me. Even if it was unconsciously it would hurt me. I truly think that is one of the important steps of the process of getting a BJD and that his/her owner is the person who really deserves to enjoy it. I might understand it when you are not in that right place, at that right time and want someone else to check out for you if everything within the box is safe. You may want to share your BJD arrivals if you feel that way too, but for me always it is possible the opening should be the owner's task, like it was when he/she ordered it and when he/she waited and saw for the finally arriving home day.

 

I wouldn't ENRAGE.... but I would maybe storm about a bit because after a really long wait I wanna be the only person opening the box, that's a really special moment.

 

I would.... Probably be absolutely livid. I hate when people mess with my mail, federal offence or no. Do not open my mail. For any reason. I always let my mom and my neighbour know when I have a doll package of some kind coming. I usually tell them what state it'll be coming from, about the size of it, and that when it gets here, DON'T OPEN THE PACKAGE. So far so good.

 

I would of course be angry, but luckily my family and boyfriend respect me more than to do that. If anybody saw it was addressed to me, they would call me to say it has arrived and ask me if I wanted it to be opened (sometimes I do, sometimes I don't) and if not set it aside. Luckily nobody has ever opened my mail without asking me. But sometimes it can get confusing, occasionally packages for me will be addressed to my father and whatnot, so I'm always sure to tell them when a package might be coming!

 

Dont care. If Im away and a doll comes to my house Im happy for my partner to open it and play with it before me. I had a doll delivered to my mums house and I let her open it, play with her and make her some clothes. It doesnt take anything away from me personally. But thats with my permission to do so, if they just opened my doll without my permission Id be a bit annoyed but Id get over it.

 

As a matter of fact, since my Chic Rou might arrive during my holidays, I had him shipped to Dambuster. Since I oredered and paid him in the first hour after they went up on the Fairylandsite, he will probably be among the first to arrive. I really, really hope that Dambuster01 WILL open him up for me and post some pics of him on DOA.

 

I would most certainly punch my boyfriend in the nose if he opened my doll! Fortunately, he'd never do that!

On another note... all of the mail that goes to my mother's house (which is mostly just my bank statements and some mail from my university) always seems to get opened by her... something that angers me to no end. It is illegal, after all.. I don't ship anything to her house, however.. So I don't have to worry about my doll being opened without my permission..

 

I get very mad when others open my mail,m though my mother seems to think that's perfectly fine. however if I were to even accidentally open her mail i would never hear the end of it. If she happened to open one of my dolls (which i'm getting one from my girlfriend soon) i don't think i could forgive her. especially as it wont be from a company address but from my girlfriends.

 

I just recently purchased a Cerberus Project Dreaming Moon head from the marketplace, and since I'm in the process of moving I had it sent to my new address since my boyfriend already lives there. He claims he's going to open it if it gets there before I do. If it were a complete doll I would read him the riot act over it, but since it's not... have fun with that blank disembodied head, loser! XD

 

As an adult living on my own, this isn't a particular problem for me at the moment. My permanent residence is my parents' place in Canada, though, and they have accidentally opened stuff before . . . I think a doll box would be rather obviously mine, though!

If it did happen, and was anybody but customs (annoying, but I wouldn't take it personally), I would be quite angry. A box opening is a bonding thing. They lose some of their magic after a while, but it is often your first real look at your new doll, and a chance to check them over, check them out in wigs and clothes, etc. I wouldn't want to lose that.

 

Thankfully no one in my house has ever opened my mail, nor would they unless I asked. If a doll comes while I'm out (as is often with work/school) and moms home - she just puts the box up in my room where it's safe until I come home. ;D She always texts me to tell me it came too haha.
If someone DID open my doll without my permission though, I would be irritated first off because that's MY property and they have no right to touch it. Not to mention the legalities. It might make me mope but if I really loved he doll I don't think it would really ruin the moment for me. If they dressed the doll and posed it somewhere though, I'd probably drop kick them in the head. That's my right. Unwrapping them makes you a jerk, but to 'complete' my doll and put them all together with wig etc, that would be the thing that would upset me worst.