When, or if you do have children, do you intend to give your dolls away to them?

I would love to do that if I feel that my children (I don't actually have any a bit young for that) respect and love them the way I do. But a part of me also thinks how nice it would be to have them all with me when I die. But then I stop myself and think that then their beauty would never be appreciated by someone else and that I plan on being cremated anyways so that wouldn't make a lot of sense.

My grandma loved collecting dolls and although she has passed away, there is a glass case in her basement with many dolls in it, all different. I think maybe my dolls will be like that so that my grandkids can appreciate them and know they are watching over them or something like that.

 

Well I wouldn't give my dolls to my hypothetical children for a few reasons. Mainly because they might not even be interested in BJDs and I wouldn't force my kids towards anything.

Secondly, if they were interested then I'd let them buy their own - I wouldn't want someone else's cast-offs, I'd want my very own dolls, that I've chosen myself and I'd afford that courtesy to my children. I wouldn't buy them a doll though, I'd give them more pocket money because they'll learn to be patient, learn the value of money and once they saved up enough their doll is completely theirs and they'll be proud of themselves. Wigs and clothes etc I'd buy a few of to get them started.

I doubt I'll still be into BJDs when I'm in my 80's though, so as for what happens to them when I die I doubt they'll still be around, they'll have been sold to someone that can give them the attention.

 

If my future children would be interested and wanting my dolls, I would give them to them when they would reach an age I thought appropriate for them to care for them. Of course an appropriate age has little to do with actual age and everything to do with how they act.

 

Recently my husband and i have been very,very seriously considering children. I was completely shocked when a really close friend, who is completely aware of the cost of my collection assumed I was going to give my dolls to a possible baby.

Let alone the costs, but also the glass eyes, small parts, swallowable magnets (how to seriously damage a babies intestines in one simple step).

if we are lucky enough to get a child, i will get it a lot of childrens toys.

 

Ok so it has been a year and a half since my last post on this thread and my answer has changed a little. As far as when I have children, well I still have two boys that hasn't changed and I still have no intention of giving them my dolls. Those dolls are mine and I am still actively collecting. However both of my boys have shown enough interest in that time to convince me to gift them their own dolls. First my oldest son asked for a doll for his 9th birthday, then he bought two more dolls on his own in the following year. He seems to be quite taken by the hobby. I do help him with face-ups and shopping. My youngest pleaded and for his 5th birthday received his first doll. I was apprehensive because he is such an active child but he is very gentle with his little doll. He has several more dolls on his wish list for the future as well as a camera so he can take pictures of them.

 

Uh, no, never, lol! My dolls are mine. Besides, a large part of this hobby is about customizing the doll to your own desires. The odds are low that my potential future offspring and I will have the exact same ideas for any one doll.

If they wanted their own, that's great. They can have one for Christmas maybe. But I would never just buy them one out of the blue, lol. I've always had to buy my entertainment items with my own money (which came from allowance, for chores and good grades, when I was younger, and jobs when I started high school)... If non-necessities are just handed to you all the time, you get spoiled. (Actually, I've seen people get spoiled when necessities are provided to them for too long... For example, lots of friends in college who ate out every meal every day and bought lots of clothes using their parent's money... Bad news!).

Man, I sound pretty strict But even though I was raised that way, I feel spoiled all the time, because I always had everything I needed, that isn't true very often in many places in the world. Wait, how did I get on to this? @__@

 

I'm only 16, and I have NO intentions of having children any time soon/at all. But if when I'm older I have a child, I wouldn't give them my dolls. If they make the decision that they would like to get into the hobby I would gladly pay for half of their first doll and have them save up the other half. After the first doll should they decide they want more I'll make them pay for them theirselves. x,D

 

Simple answer would probaley be no. I have other dolls that are more 'pass downable' but my money, my bjds, my characters. I would be happy to help them purchase their first dolls, but my dolls are my dolls.

 

I'm way to young to be thinking about kids, but if I do one day have kids and they show interest and want my dolls, I'd leave my dolls to my kids or grankids in my will. If I dont have any children or they aren't interested, I like to think I would have the opportunity to give them away over the DoA marketplace to a young member who wants them ^^ before I pass away XD

 

I can't wait to have children! I will probably keep mine for myself and buy them their own dolls. I'll probably wait until they're old enough to pick out their own. That is if they show interest in them.

 

I can absolutely see myself giving one of my dolls or a doll to an interested child. If they weren't interested, I wouldn't involve them or anything like that. I won't be having children for awhile yet though, so who knows how I'll feel about it then. Frankly, there are a lot of cheaper options (like some of the more popular and/or mass market produced vinyl dolls) to give a child that may only have a partial interest but still have the effect of a bjd. They'd make a good starter I suppose.

 

If I have children, I'll probably introduce them to the dolls at a young age and see if they cultivate any interest in them. I'll teach them the proper way to handle these dolls and if they grow to like them as much as I do, I will share my dolls with them and continue to add to the collection. It would be fun, I think. Of course, I wouldn't let them play with the dolls until they're a little older and are able to understand how to care for one.

 

I don't have kids, but I think I'd give my dolls to them even if they didn't have an interest in my dolls, only because I'd hope that their kids might have an interest in them as they grow. And if they aren't particularly into the hobby, they can keep them as a memento of me when I'm gone. A lot of people have inherited grandparents' porcelain dolls, so why not do the same with BJDs?

 

My kid knows that she's getting everything of mine when I die, including my dolls. I'm hoping that she'll stop being creeped out by them and will learn to love them like I do.

And if not, then they will be passed down. Eventually someone will love them too, right?

Ryu

 

When I die I will pass on my karma.

 

Well I am expecting right now, I am having a boy though so the logic of him having the dolls isnt really strong since my husband is pretty closed minded about men having these dolls. (he is opened minded and all but realistically speaking the higher percentage of doll owners is in fact female) If and when i have a daughter I will probably use them as a way to teaching responsibility for other's items and taking care of things that are very expensive, but yes would hand them down before I die

 

Well, I have a very strong bond between me and my beloved things, so I couldn't give them to anyone, to matter how I loved the person. I would encourage my kids to earn or save money for their own BJDs. It would together be a good lesson for them to understand that things don't come easy in life and that, if you want to have something so beautiful and valuable, you have to say no to other things.

 

I have no intentions of having any kids. However, if I had too give them to somebody, I have two options. I could hand them down to my niece, who is also showing an interest in them. But I would like to see how she treats her own doll first.
The other option would be, that I would give them to a friend who has a lot of experience with taking care of BJD's.

 

I was thinking about that today. I am certain I will not have kids of my own. I'd like to think I'd still have my dolls when I'm an old lady (if I make it that far). But they'll be so yellow... and the elastic will be all perished. Has the hobby been around long enough for us to know whether resin goes brittle after 40+ years?

I wouldn't want to give my dolls to a kid kid. Maybe a young lady (or man) who understood how precious these things were. That young lady or man won't have been born yet. I'm hoping that some dear friend will have a pleasant grandchild somewhere down the line.

 

I have a 5 years old daughter, and she doesn't like dolls!!!
Actually, I don't have a BDJ (maybe next month) but I'm a doll collector, and I have so many dolls (including a crib full of reborns). But my daughter NEVER touch my dolls, she isn't interested.
She likes Gormiti, Bayblade...Pokemon...
Maybe, when she grows, I can give her my dollies (if she want)... who knows!!!