When was the first time you could not bond with a doll?

If your dolls aren't doing it for you after 2 years, I'd say it's time to sell them and try a different doll. You probably ended up buying dolls that just weren't for you.

 

That's always sad to hear.
Well, like Nefla said you could try selling them and their stuff, and use that money to get a different doll?
I dunno what else to say... If it's taken that long then it's probably time to let them go.

 

I agree. They probably just aren't the dolls for you. It happens all the time. I've had plenty of dolls I didn't bond with at all, and some that I wouldn't want to part with for the world. Some in between. When you get the doll that's right for you, though, you'll know.

 

This.
Use the money from the sold dolls to buy one of your dream dolls. Don't feel guilty - after all, dolls should make you happy, not guilty.

 

I don't think anything is wrong with you other than you sound like you're trying to be like others. -poke- If you don't "omg 333!! -squee o' doom-" over your current dolls there is nothing wrong with that! Just relax and find your own way to enjoy them. If you compare yourself to others or force yourself to do what doesn't feel right, you'll just make yourself miserable. That said...have you considered that your current dolls aren't "right" for you? Have you looked at or played with dolls from other makers? I really like Josslyn but Peyton's posing ability makes him so much more fun to play with. What sizes are your dolls? That is another thing that you might want to consider. Try playing with dolls that are smaller or larger than your own to see if that makes a difference.

EDIT: lol, I'm so slow! Hehe..

 

I agree with everyone else Nothing is wrong with you, sometimes the doll's just don't 'click' It's like music, some songs/genre's just don't work for certain people.
Try selling your dolls and starting anew. I've pretty much known right off the bat if a doll and I didn't click and I get rid of them as quickly as possible to avoid the 'guilt' feeling.

 

I love getting second hand dolls. Browsing the marketplace is a favorite past time. Besides, they're often less expensive and just as good. Over half my dolls are second hand.

That said, I have had trouble bonding with my first doll, Micah, since he's so different from the rest of my collection, both in features and in circumstances of how he came to me. There was a huge gap between when I got Micah and when my other dolls came.

That's probably why he stays in his box so often. Still, I can't bring myself to sell as he was a gift. D:

 

I think you said it all in your post "she's not the doll I wanted". Sounds like it's time for dolly to move on.

To answer your questions:

Have you ever bought a doll second hand? Two of my dolls are second hand.

Did you have trouble bonding with it? No. One is my grail doll, another is an all time fave. Love them to bits.

What did you do if you did have trouble? No troubles at all.

Any advice for me? Yes. Although you have an aversion to second hand dolls, you might want to consider rethinking this as you move more into the hobby. You might come across a sculpt that you love and find out it's limited or discontinued. This is when second hand becomes the only option. As a rule, BJD owners take very good care of their dolls, and with a bit of research, you can end up with a doll that is as good as factory made. As for an aversion to dolls being pre-loved, there's nothing I can really say here, except that some people find this aspect of the hobby part of the fun of collecting.

 

I agree with those who are saying that the dolls you have probably just aren't right for you. I own and love several BBB and RS dolls (just look at my sig, heh, which needs updating again) but am happy to admit that they aren't for everyone. If you got them because they were cute, and cheap, there's nothing wrong with that, they make great starter dolls. Use your time with them to help you in choosing your next doll. What things about them did you like? What things about them did you not like? Seriously, write a list of both for both dolls, and use those lists to help you decide on your next doll. Some examples that I've seen numerous times from people who decided that BBB and RS weren't right for them: People often love the price, but not the simple body sculpts. Sometimes the BBB and RS faces are too stylized, and people want dolls who have more realistic sculpts. For some they're too skinny, for others it's the lack of posing ability that turns them off. If you LIKE the price, the sculpts, the posing, then maybe it's the size. If your dolls are SD, maybe try and MSD or tiny. If they're tiny try MSD or SD, if they're MSD and it's the size, would you rather have larger dolls, or smaller ones that are easier to carry around? Maybe it's just that smooth feel of the BBB resin that you don't like, or how light it is. Some people just prefer heavier resin with more 'tooth' to it. Personally, I LOVE the lighter, silky smooth feel of the BBB resin, but I know others who don't, and feel like it feels too much like hard vinyl for them.

 

Just so everyone knows I am going to give it one last shot :3 If I still do not like them then I will reconsider my choice. I do appreciate all the help :3


Edit: I am also going to save up for a new doll from a different company.
I really like it if they can hold poses Pretty well.
I also found out thanks to my current dolls that the body has to be at least semi detailed for me to like the doll. (Ella, My BBB Espree's body is the mature BBB body and it bothers me a lot)
Anybody have any recommendations?

 

WaterAngel: Honestly? If you want to keep with a cheaper body, go for the new Resinsoul Rong body. It's a new MSD sized female body, with double joints, and a pretty nice sculpt (at least, it's to my tastes, I love mine, which is being used with my Espree head).

Here's a photo of the Rong body alongside the original Resinsoul Single Jointed Body, and the BBB Mature bust body that you have (I own all 3, though my BBB body is now being modded)

The Right body is the RS Single Jointed body, Middle is the new Rong body, Left is the BBB Mature Bust body.

 

For mature 1/4 girl bodies I like:
http://dollfairyland.com/shop/step1.php?number=80
http://iplehouse.net/shop/step1.php?number=1043
http://www.rakurakutei.com/theloft/unoa_faq.htm
http://dollsoom.com/eng/shop/list.php?ca_id=401030
http://dreamofdoll.com/eng/product/...Order_Name=p_num&Order_Type=Desc&Order_Num=16
http://angell-studio.com/en/?product-306.html

For immature:
http://dollmore.net/shop/step1.php?number=1103
http://volksusa.com/super-dollfie-mini-super-dollfie.html
http://eluts.com/frontstore/main/su...dpos=1&cat_spin=0&m_name=LUTS-KID+DELF&spin=y
http://dreamofdoll.com/eng/product/...Order_Name=p_num&Order_Type=Desc&Order_Num=16

That's what I can think of at the moment ^_^

 

I think my problems with "bonding" is because I couldn't seem to find the sculpt that is the right fit for my characters, and they had to go through several sculpts until I was happy with their current ones.

I find I enjoy my non character dolls a great deal when I first buy them, so I imagine bonding wouldn't be a problem for me with non character dolls.

 

I onle had 1½ brand new doll. all my others where second hand. In a way i prefer getting new dolls for all the reason you said, but i always end up on the market place xD I just don't think of it when i get them (they all look like new).
but i gotta admit, wheter new or not i always end up selling them it's normal in the hobby, but in my case its axegerated!! i keep them 2 weeks, not even long enough to buy them clothes or anything, i dont give them a chance and i get like: Bluh, i'd rather have another one instead!
it makes me feel a bit stupid and a bad doll owner

so i would just tell you: if you don't like it, sell it! damn it! è____é
but you shouldn't take advice from a compulsive seller/buyer like me xD;

 

Have you ever bought a doll second hand?
So far, all my dolls are second hand. I'm counting down the days until I can afford my own first-hand doll. I can't wait.

Did you have trouble bonding with it?
The only doll I've had trouble bonding with so far is a modded IoS Gin head I got of the MP. I love the mold, and I love the scar mod. We just have a limited number of eyes and wigs, and none worked for him. I tried him with everything I could think of, I tried him with any character I thought fit his mold. It wasn't until very recently that I actually found something that I liked for him. I'm still not 100%, but he's working for me so far.

What did you do if you did have trouble?
I did everything I could think of. I didn't have a character in mind for him when I bought him, and I didn't know which eye/wig combination would fit best with him. I finally just gave in to temptation and put a previously established characters eyes and wig on him. Which seemed to fit fairly well. Now I'm just worried I'll get bored with the character again.


Any advice for me?
There's nothing wrong with being unable to bond with a doll. Sometimes styles just don't work for you. Especially in your situation. Look for a doll you love, and get it. If you have to scrimp and save to get it, it'll make it all worthwhile for you to have a doll you love. It happens to the best of us.

 

My third doll is second hand, a Luts Abadon LE. I have the advantage that I had been looking for him ever since I realized I had missed the deadline to order him for a couple of hours (I learnt to remember that different countries usually have different timelines ). I believed it would be really difficult to bond with him because he was second hand, and I usually prefer to buy everything new, because you don't really know how has people treated the doll until you really see it in person.

First thing I did was wash away the (wonderful) faceup he had. I was tempted to leave it, because I loved that faceup, but I knew I could never love him if he wasn't "mine". I also try to spend a little while every day playing with him, stretching the joints to realease some tension, and learning to pose him. Seeing as how I really wanted an Abadon, it didn't take long to feel the bond, though.

My advice would be that you consider seriously if you really like the scultp, or if it's just the details such as faceup and yellowing. There are some threads in the forum about whitening a yellowed doll. Or, if you know someone who has studied Chemistry, ask him to white her. I've been told there's a combination of products that's highly toxic and dangerous, but it whitens the resin without damaging it. My friend's boyfriend whitened one of her dolls after an accidental exposition to direct sunlight.

Other thing you might want to consider is, are you really unable to bond with shinku, or is there maybe a bit of jealousy because your friends have factory bought dolls and you don't? We sometimes cannot admits our feelings to ourselves, and we end up blaming the most innocent around. I remember being jealous of people who could buy a bjd when they were still too expensive for me, and since I have a reeeeeeally nasty temper, it wasn't pretty (always when I was alone, of course ^^;;;; ). Maybe you feel yourself unable to bond with shinku because, deep inside, you see her as "not as good" as the others...

If, after thinking seriously about it, you find you don't really want to spend time and money taking care of Shinku, it's nothing to feel ashamed of. Maybe she's not the right sculpt for you. You could sell her, trade her, or give her away as a gift and make someone else happy

 

It's rather hard to admit, but to be honest, I don't know at all what "bonding" is. I have been reading the forum but I can't seem to find an answer. I bought my first doll last year, two more have followed and I'm about to order a new one. Why? Because I love how they look, I like to dress them and all that. I love my dolls and I would never sell them and I don't regret buying them in the slighest. But, then again, I'm the kind of person that's very attached to her stuff in general (even kept my old toys). My dolls have names and all that....but...........there seems to be something terribly missing. They haven't developed a personality and I don't play with them. I take photos now and then. But I'm a very paranoid person, they are so expensive and I'm so scared of damaging them or "hurting" them by handling them clumsy. The last time I undressed my dolls it gave me a headache. I feel like I can't handle them at all.....I feel bad for this...like I'm mistreating them.........But I don't know what to do. I read some ppl suggest to just take them and play with them, but what if I simply can't do that? Ppl might think this is the wrong hobby for me then...but....my dolls mean a lot to me.....

Sorry, just saw this thread is rather old but I had no luck to find a newer one with the exact same subject.

 

I had a lot of trouble bonding with my first.
I just couldn't seem to connect with her and come up with a story or personality for her. Being my first (and currently only) doll, I didn't want to sell her and decided to hold onto her and see if she would finally tell me her story someday.

The moment I started to come up with ideas for my 2nd doll, Chiru finally decided to tell me her story and her personality was revealed (nothing like what I wanted her to be originally).

I think she just needed another doll friend (or enemy rather. She's not too thrilled about doll #2).

 

That's just up to what you like to do. Bonding just means attachment, and if you love your dolls, isn't that enough? There are people who keep their dolls in glass cases, there are people who don't give their dolls characters. You do NOT have to handle them and give them attention, they're objects and can't care either way. The only important thing is to figure out what you specifically like to do with them. There's no right way to participate in this hobby.

As for me, the first time I had trouble bonding with a doll was when I started thinking about changing a doll's character, and at the same time put in eyes that just didn't work for him; for about a week I wasn't comfortable with him. Then I switched his look and decided squarely on who he would be, and he's been with me ever since. The only time I completely failed to bond and sold the doll was my Soom Chalco. I just didn't like much about how he was designed, built, resin quality, etc., and I also felt it wasn't time to shell anybody in his particular storyline. So off he went.

 

That's true....it just feels like it's not enough. I'm not satisfied with myself and it feels like I can't get much happiness out of my dolls because I'm blocking myself. But it's very hard to get over that barrier...