When was the first time you could not bond with a doll?

Hrm. Well, I'm not sure what would work, but maybe working out what you want from the hobby might help? Writing out a list or just generally your feelings about it in some private place . . . Or setting some small goal, like having a doll sit in your lap for a while, or handling them for five minutes a day. Or the flip side: finding a safe place to display them and seeing if that makes you happy.

 

im having a hard time bonding with my aod chi. i think i named him wrong maybe. anyone have that problem? and i just cant figure out his personality. dose anyone have any advice for figuring that out? im thinking of changing his name but im not sure it will be enough.

 

i will try that, thanks!

 

Try putting him in different eyes and wigs and see if something else feels right - I had a similar problem with my vamp elf Yder until I put him in a black wig and pale blue eyes, whereupon he promptly "told" me his name was Lythande and suddenly had this fully-fledged character and personality. Sometimes all it can take is a change of eyes.

 

The first time must have been in 2009, when my Chami lost her character and simply couldn't find a new one. She didn't fit in, I couldn't bond with her no matter what wigs, eyes, clothing styles I tried, and in the end I sold her this year. This has happened several times since then, I get a doll home and suddenly I find that we're not bonding. I always try to swap eyes and wig and clothing style to see if the doll can still "fit in", but when it doesn't click no matter what I do, I tend to sell the doll, hoping it will have a better home with its new owner, because I hate it when I can't feel that I enjoy having the doll at home...

So I think, if you have changed the doll's appearance as much as you can and still don't bond, maybe it's not meant to be... Unfortunately, this happens at times. I hope you figure this out.

 

Also, I forgot to add, there are good writing excercises to figure out characters and names. One is very good, and I do it a lot to figure out characters, since I'm also a writer.

Open a blank text document. Write down the scenery. It should be something you're comfortable with. Decribe yourself, you can look any way you like that is comfortable to you. Then invite the unknown character to this place you've just created. Write what feels right, bring out a tray for tea or whatever, offer a seat. Have a conversation. Make a deal; if I answer one of your questions honestly, you have to answer one of mine. Write down the conversation and q & a's. You don't have to be a skilled writer to do this, and it can be written in any form you like. But it's a good way to figure out the personality, and sometimes to find a name (at times, all you have to do is ask!), and I find it works very well for me.

 

I have not bonded with one of my fellows, can not even find him a name. He's been sitting around for months now, getting different wigs, different clothing, different colors. He just doesn't have a personality that I've been able to discover. He may be going to a sale, but I'm giving him a repreive for a little while. I may even box him and set him aside to see if in a little while if I unbox him I'll see who he is.

I tend to buy used dolls, I like the feeling of adopting someone. Maybe that's why he's having troubles, he was my first from the manufacturer doll.

 

you just do. or dont.

i have one doll with which i didnt, so i sold him.


and also, at one point i thought im not longer bonded with my first doll. i sold her. but then i missed her so much, i bought her back! (the person i sold her to happened to sell her =D) and now i know that shes here to stay. forever!

 

To be honest I never though I would have that problem either...but there were a few dolls that I had that weren't getting much attention. I never thought I would sell a doll, but now I've sold several. Only once did I regret selling the girl and I bought her right back that same day :P Pretty silly, but I did. Now I have a collection of girls I really love...of course the collection is still kind of big, but they all make me happy and that's what matters most!

 

Im sort of having this problem now with my Bobobie Mei... she is beautiful and I do love her but she was a gift from my ex and our breakup really hurt me so its hard for me to even look at the doll...

 

I have had this problem in a minor way a few times. >.> First was with my BBB Sprite; LOVED her when I first got her, then she kind of sat around while I didn't know what to do with her. And then recently I blushed and tatted her, sueded and restrung her--and I adore her all over again, although she's now a cranky fairy that I am finding hard to dress.

The other time was my DZ Celine, who I also loved like crazy, but I thought she was one of my characters and I wasn't prepared to try to mod her. I then changed her eyes and wig and put her in some robes, and she was a totally new character I'd never known of before. She is now one of my most-snuggled, posed, played-with and pampered. ;3

I'm not overwhelmed by my RS Jun, but he's a lot of fun to dress up, and he's so cute paired up with my Shoyo that it makes me giddy. My BBB Elfkin is frustrating me only because I have a lot of crafting left to do with him and a lot of it is stuff I haven't tried before, so he just feels frustratingly unfinished. xD

It would seem my "bonding" rituals are entrenched in the customization process. o3O

 

I had problems bonding with my Euclase/Resinsoul hybird girl.
She was second hand, bought from a friend and an impulse buy.

She was bought with a faceup and wig, which she was in for a long time, but when she was like that she just didn't feel like she was mine. I nearly sold her twice becuase of it. Just changing her faceup didn't help, I had to changer her wig as well. With that I had her looking how I wanted, it was the first time I'd properly felt like she was mine.

I will sit with her on my lap while I'm on the computer the way I do with my other dolls of the same size, I never did before I made the changes to her.

 

thanks ill try that. i know part of the problume was his name i canged it and that helped a bit but his wig keeps falling off so i think hes telling me he wants something else. how do you find a wig that wont fall off?

 

Sounds like the wig is too big. Try an elasticated one a size down; you can also get silicone wig caps that go on underneath the wig, prevent staining and help the wig to stay on. Some people glue velcro onto the doll's head which helps grip the underside of the wig.

 

im not sure what size it is, how do i figure that out? i thought about velcro.

 

Im having problems bonding with a doll now. I think its just because of the character i intended him to be just..isnt in my heart like i thought he was. i love the mold, i just dont know how long hes going to be sticking around.

 

I don't really bond with my dolls. For me they are inanimate objects and bonding with them sound a little bit funny ^-^ Like bonding with a really nice pare of shoes
So for me it more of a matter of liking them or not, sometimes i get bored, or my tastes change, and then i sell it, and get a new one. Gosh! i sound so horrible

 

My first doll. I saw him and thought he was the best ever and bought him, but soon enough I saw how he compared to other companies and I was put off by his not so well crafted elf ears and traded him away for another doll I'm not bonding with. Sigh umu

 

I think I quote this as feeling a lot like same. For me dolls are just dolls, even though loveliest and cutest dolls ever existed in my life, but still not alive beings.

I have noticed clearly, that even still I like lots of kinds of dolls, not all of them work well with me. Every msd sized doll I´ve had has not felt right; it´s too big size. I´ve given up with boy dolls, white skin dolls and some tiny dolls too. I may feel so much admiration to doll´s cuteness or beauty, but if there´s something that doesn´t feel quite right I rather pass them on, even though it´s sort of hard to do. I´ve been in hobby less than 2 years, had about 30 dolls going past my hands, and let them go on and bought new ones if found out it´s not feeling right. I´ve never bought a doll I would have been disappointed or not to like it, but sometimes it just goes that way, you enjoy more looking pictures of others for some spesific doll than owning it yourself. I hope that I won´t trick myself anymore thinking to buy a doll which is too big, male or white skinned, as it´s clear those are the ones that leave home, not depending how much I them like. I loved so much my white skinned Littlefee boy, and the Bisou face is my big favourite, but I noticed never taking him out from box as I did with my NS Littlefee girls. Also I had adorable Twiggy Yumi (Dami) hybrid doll, which I loved and adored, but realized I only took her out of box to squee her beautiful face and put her back. It´s no use for that much of money to store them away. I rather sell them and enjoy new owner´s pics.

My first doll, a Fairyland Littlefee Ante, is still my huge favourite. Same as my Domadolls, Pukifees and Littlefee Leah. Everyone else in my ~15 doll group may leave some day, but I think those ones will stay.

 

According to your profile, he's an AoD Vampire Shi; according to the AoD website, he has a head circumference of 22cm - that's 8.6", so he takes a size 8-9 wig.