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When was the first time you could not bond with a doll?

Feb 8, 2007

    1. Awww I love CB Shiwoo! He's my first boy! XP

      I just had my first none bonding experience last weekend with my Freyja Miyu. It's like I don't even want to try to bond with her and was not motivated at all. I didn't rush to opened the box and waited a day or two to do so as well. It's not that I didn't have time or couldn't. I just didn't even feel like it!

      Then when I finally opened the box and all and took her out to have a good look at her....then immediately I knew she was not for me. She's a limited so I don't want to mess with her face-up (because that defeats the purpose of limited face-ups). She's beautiful and all but not to my taste. I'm going to put her up for adoption too because I know there are many people out there who wants to give her a good home.
       
    2. I guess I'm kinda' going through this "not bonding" issue. I bought a Latidoll Aida not too long ago when they went on sale on the website. From the moment I saw him I thought he was the most beautiful doll ever.. XD When he finally arrived he met all of my expectations as far as quality goes.. His faceup is like.. omg-amazing to me.. But for some reason I just don't like playing with him. D: My Woosoo gets toted around everywhere with me, so I know it's not because of his value that keeps me from not playing with him. I guess a doll to me needs to have this certain cuddle-ability to it, and my Aida just isn't doing that for me atm. o: I plan to give him a few more weeks to see if I can really get into enjoying his presence.. and if not then.. T___T;;; I'll probably be selling him to pay off my car.
       
    3. I have this problem right now.

      I used to think the way doll owners talked about bonding was a little silly. And it can be, when we get into things like marriage ceremonies (let's not think about that too much again...) But eventually I learned that bonding can be a lot of different things. I received a doll and bought two that I felt an instant connection with, even if redoing a faceup or trying on another wig changed the personalities for me. Then I got my AR Ami. I knew I planned to mod him, but still, before I finished the process, he was just sitting around, doing nothing. Now I like him much more, but it took a while. Then I got my F-09, and for all the waiting and anticipation... he's not doing anything for me right now. The faceup was not quite right. I touched it up but it still doesn't make me happy. I've changed wigs on him a dozen times, and only two look decent, but still nothing fits just right.

      When I decide to do a photoshoot, I pick another doll, not Camille. When I imagine a photostory setup, I know how four of my boys will react to it, based on their personalities. I can't feel it out for him. I don't know what he likes and dislikes, or what his personality is like at all. And it kills me, and I don't want to sell him, because I love the mold. It's a beautiful doll, which I love to look at, while at the same time it bugs me that all I can do right now is look at it.

      I've learned my lesson, though. The AR Ami was pretty low on my want list and I bought him because he had a great price in the marketplace. Same with the F-09; I was in the LA area and had the money. I'm not going to jump after impulse buys anymore. I'm commissioning someone to do a custom faceup on Camille and if that doesn't do the trick, he's going on the Marketplace or going to live with my sister.
       
    4. So far, I've had one doll which I just did not bond with, an Elf Ducan. He was and is the most gorgeous doll I've seen.

      But a big reason I love dolls is the character creation part, and knowing they look and act the way they do at least in part due to me and what I can bring out. Ducan came to me... too complete. There was nothing further I could do to his character, nothing for me to add or change. It bugged the heck out of me. I loved to look at him, but that was about it - I had to force myself to give him photoshoots or put him in different clothes.

      After a few months, I realized my mom adored him just as he was, and sold him to her. :)
       
    5. Never thought I'd be in one of these threads.

      My Ando head, the one intended for Bailey.

      When I first got him he was perfect but face-up less...I sent him off for a face-up which took a extra long time and when he came back he was not at all what I wanted, I still loved my chacarter Bailey so much that I just left it alone. Then I got his eyebrows darkend, that helped a bit but not much he still wasent Bailey at all. Still I held on to him, just hoping he needed time. After School C came out I thought about selling Bailey's Ando head and trading it for a School C, but was talked out of it. I eventually wiped his face-up and did some mods to see if that would correct the problem. It didn't.

      After two years I've given up...I put my Ando officialy up for sale yesterday. As much as it pains me we just never bonded, and its time to try a new head for Bailey.
       
    6. I've experienced this problem with a volks Kun head that I bought off of Y!Japan. I loved the head - loved it before and after I bought it, but it just did not suit the doll/character that I had created in my head for it. I tried re-doing the face-up and everything. I think eventually I gave into the realization that she really didn't fit in with the house of boys I've got and have planned for... Took me a while to resign to the fact, but c'est la vie!
      I don't know thought... bonding is pretty important to me. I take it quite seriously, which is why, from that experience, I tend to plan around weather the doll will fit in with my resin family, since it seems to matter a lot (at least to me... but mebbe I'm jus' weird that way... :sweat ), as well as fitting the caracter they're meant for.
      -V
       
    7. I didn't really bond with my first doll.
      He was an AR Jade v.1 and he came with a wig an outfit. I think it was like what Ashvolt described with her Elf Ducan - he was a lovely doll but he was so...complete. I felt I didn't have anything to add or change to his character so we never really bonded. I'm glad he has a good home now, and his current owner gave him his own personality, something I never really did.
       
    8. I'm another person I could not imagine posting in one of these threads :sweat It shocks me, but for some reason I simply could not bond with my Syo Sweet Dream. I think I only bought him because I felt like I had to, since I love my two normal Syo boys so much and tried to make somewhat of an image for myself using them. I might just keep it at twins now, no grand plans of 500..but maybe one last boy in sunlight, if I get anymore, I do rather like just having white twins. I'll be trading my Syo-SD head for a friend's Liz Spring Stroll head, and already I think Liz (Fujiko) is opening up to me more than Syo-SD did even when he lived here for three months. It's funny because before this I never even thought of getting a Liz, let alone a Liz SD13 boy..guess you really never know what your family/collection will turn out to be like.
       
    9. At the first sight, I had no issues with Ophelia, but I do have now sometimes. Especially now my Narae is on its way. Though, I'm NEVER going to sell Ophelia. It's just that I need to spend more time on her, I really need to -__-
       
    10. I thought I'd never have the problem too, but I did... ._.

      It wasn't with a COMPLEATE doll, but it was with a BW EL head. I bought him from a member here, and I was sooo happy when he arrived. It was beabutifull, but he was so big! Bigger than my fist! I was so intimidated. X_X I mean, if his head was so much bigger than my MSD boys heads, he's going to be huge when I actually get him a body!

      I sold him to a member here that is going to love him more than I could. He desurved a better home, and I was happy to find one for him. ^_^ (Although I did feel bad, because the person I bought him from got kind of angry...;__; )

      And I DID have some bonding issues when Ichi first came, but it was just because I thought he looked to child-like for his character, but I got the right clothes and some sexy boots and I love him now. >=D And Yuki and I will be together forever, he's never being sold. X3 And my wishel is soo cute to carry around, I'll be keeping him forever, too. :fangirl:
       
    11. with my first doll ^^; he was a dollmore Asha boy that I bought from someone in the market place... I absolutely love the face mold and him... but it was his size that I wasn't really comfortable with. So I sold him to a lady that would give him more attention then I had been. I've also told myself that I'll only get SD and larger dolls now ^^; but there are tinies trying to talk me into buying them XD I do hope to later buy a Dollmore Bella Auden (because she looks very close to the Asha mold and just switch the body to a male body ^^; ) to bring Lawrence back :3
       
    12. my first doll!

      it was an impulse buy and after playing with him for awhile.. i kinda grew.. bored? Then.. i changed his faceup! liked him alot but the feeling ain't there.(but i still love him~~)

      so i found out this term called moddding and i asked my friend to help mod my boy.. which turn out horribly FANTASTIC. i gave him a faceup and he look awesome!!

      and so i changed his faceup again.. removed his eyebrows and i love him to bits~~
       
    13. I've never actually had an immediate bond with a doll. I think it's partially the fact that I fell in love with a certain look, be it another person's doll of that sculpt, or the company photos.

      Initially, quite a while after getting Kyouya (DOT Camine, and my first ordered doll), I still didn't feel attached to him and I was getting quite worried. I was afraid that even though I loved reading DOA and looking at photos of these dolls, I wouldn't actually suit the hobby because I felt no love in person. Made me very sad for a while :...( Now I love Kyouya to bits. My most recent doll, Key (Dolkot Loon) I managed to bond with relatively quickly.

      I'm still working on it with my twin tinies (my first received dolls, yes they came before Kyouya who was ordered a month or so earlier than them :| ), and my Lati Chaim (who came before Key did, but still hasn't gotten a name).

      I think for me it generally takes a lot of time and handling ^^;;

      However, in certain cases like my Lati Aida, I just felt he was amazingly gorgeous but more of a 'glass case collector's item' than a doll with a personality, so I sold him. I feel the same way about Chaim still actually, but I'm less willing to let him go because I really like that third eye of his and he'll be hard to buy back if I regret selling him. I don't feel any sort of connection yet, though, but I'm trying hard.
       
    14. My first boy, Jin-Sung was an implusive buy sort of. I was saving up for a El and then a Domuya Zen popped up on eBay. having just enough money to buy him (well, I was $50 short but I asked my parents) I got him. He came face-up less and I thought since I could draw on paper it wouldn't be that hard. I was wrong...super wrong. I can't do a face-up to save my life >_> So, after only a week of fussing over him...he sat by a cold window for six months :( .

      Untill, about three months ago when I re-did his face-up (which still sucked but was much better than his last one) and bought him a new wig, new eyes and clothes. For once I really liked him...but then Sheung Fu came. He was face-up less too and that was a mistake. DollZone's Yuu's eyes are super small and I knew would look super bad with his character. I modded the heck out of him and sent him up to a wonderful face-up artist. He's still hasn't been worked on yet but hopefully he'll return and I'll love him to death ^^ Which I'm sure since Shuui does such wonderful face-ups!!

      Now, Giovanni has arrived and Oii is on the way. Giovanni has such a beautiful, professional default SoulDoll Paris face-up and it's perfect for his character. He still hasn't gotten his character's wig but he's just perfect right now even if he does have silver hair instead of dark brown ^_^;;

      I sold my Jin-Sung because I knew it wasn't working out. I had changed his character to the point where he looked nothing like him. I knew a beautiful CP BW SS Shiwoo would be better suited. So, I sold his body and his head to two DoA memebers which I'm sure will take good care of his body and head.

      I thought it was silly for people to not bond with their dolls but I was wrong when I had my boy just sit there for so long when I spent so much money on him. It was a waste of money I thought to just buy him without considering my commitment to these dolls.
       
    15. When a doll was powered or created and fueled by some thouoght/emotion/idea that I don't know, uderstand or agree with. If that makes sense.
       
    16. My first doll...
      She was an Orientdoll So Ji, and to be honest I bought her because she was all I could afford. ^-^; But I just didn't feel anything for her, so I decided to let her go and save up for the dolls I really want instead.
      I miss her now... ^-^; But I'm sure that will fade once I have another doll.
       
    17. Howabout... The first two dolls I bought?
      I didn't end up liking my Sharmin's face in 3D as much as I thought she was pretty in pics, and I was too intimidated by my big boy LH ShinCho to really enjoy him, though I thought he was gorgeous!

      It turns out I'm super picky and sell more than I keep, but I've got about 15 dolls and it's getting to where I know exactly what I can live with or can't so I don't sell as much as I used to.

      All I can say is "Hang in There" and don't let anyone intimidate you into keeping a doll that isn't right for you, or making you feel bad for being picky if you are so inclined to be.

      ^_^
      Raven
       
    18. The first one I just couldn't bond with was my third doll, a DOD U. He was supposed to be one of my oldest novel characters, Eiji, and the companion to my DOD Wi, Kyo. But where the Wi fit the character of Kyo perfectly, it just wasn't happening with the U. I gave him a different name and clothes, but it still just wasn't happening.

      I kept him for 6 months before I gave him to my girlfriend as a birthday present - she adores him in a way that I never did, and I have to say that I actually appreciate him a lot more now that he's not mine anymore.
       
    19. Hahaha.

      I actually couldn't bond with my first doll. XD
      I got him because I thought he was gonna fill the spot of the one that I really wanted... So, we never really bonded. It was more like I forced myself into it, and we both weren't happy.
      He was a DoD Yen~ <3

      I was really in luff with Eun, but he scared me because of all the money that I had to spend in order to get him..
      Then I sold my first dolly, and this other dolly that I had to get the babes that I love so much now!
      Nothing will ever get me to part with them. ^w^;;;
      Although Sundae doesn't like to be held... >__>
       
    20. I'm glad i found this thread...i'm having bonding issues right now. I guess they aren't so unusual, but they're not fun.

      I guess i thought the whole idea of "bonding" was kind of silly at first--i mean, i figured you either want the doll or you don't. But, see, right now i love Mariette: she's beautiful, she's perfect...but it's like i don't really know what to do with her. I keep her in her box a lot of the time. :( Or she sort of hangs out on my desk. I don't know. I wonder if i should have gotten her in the first place if all she's going to do it sit around like...furniture and have me ignore her. It's like i can't figure out her personality or something. I know what i wanted her to be, but the minute i saw her, i knew that's not really what she was. And it just keep changing by the day. It's kind of like...she's got no personality at all, almost.

      I'm sort of starting to feel like i shouldn't have gotten into this hobby at all.

      It doesn't help that i can't get anything new for her right now (i want to try different eyes on her). No funds at all to speak of.

      I'm kind of okay with Hajime and Sayo, my Ivan and Kirill, but maybe that's just because they're new?

      I'm wondering if i shouldn't have stuck with my plan of having only boy dolls. I know i can sell her, but...for some reason, that just breaks my heart to think about right now.

      (She's watching me write this, too... We don't need help bonding, we need full on couples' counseling! And i keep wanting other dolls--i don't understand myself! Argh.)