When was the first time you could not bond with a doll?

I really believe that gut feeling and instinct play a part in determining whether or not a doll can bond with you or not. Also I guess it boils down to the 'why'. Why was that particular doll chosen? Was it because it was pretty or certain features actually caught your attention? Or did it call out to you in some way?

I'm getting really nervous and worried about my coming M now...

 

i have had trouble bonding with my second girl, a dollmore torrie.
i wrestled with it for a while, but decided to hold onto her, as changing her eyes did her the world of good! (hey, im new to this!)
i have decided to maybe get her a new faceup, something less 'vivid' than her default, rather than selling her. I tried to sell her, but thankfully opted out of it. it began to hurt, so i kind of knew she was meant to stay with me

a new face up would definitely be better than losing a beautiful doll altogether.

i wonder if anyone else has re-bonded more positively with a doll after a face up... i would love to hear about it..

 

ow man i can relate with people here, My first girl was DOC pitts. and it was very stressful. I really tried to bond with her. Gave her meny face-ups even a new body. And she just didnt work for me. so i decided to sell her. so maybe someone else could love her. I seen other memebers pitts and they looked great. I just dont know what happened with her to this day its hard to explain why i didnt like her .

 

It's interesting, really. I seem to have a similar problem with "female objects"- I did have girl friend throughout my childhood, I did play with Barbies etc., but I never manage to bond to *anything* female- even animals. So far I've only found one female BJD I like enough to own, and I haven't even bought her yet so I have no idea whether or not I'll be able to bond with her. Even when I do buy a mold that's originally intended to be female- I turn it into a boy.

 

I pined for a Supia Yisol for months. Printed out photos, sighed longingly over them, spent waaayy too much time on DOA looking for owner pics. Then she arrived, I gave her a faceup and full-body blushing and manicure, was very happy with the results, but...something was lacking. She was beautiful, but that little 'spark' of bonding just wasn't happening. So yes, I did give her another faceup, and tried different eyes, wigs, and clothes, but nothing worked. It was so strange...I felt so guilty since I thought I really wanted her...but she was just a doll while my other BJDs were more like little people with personalities.

It was so strange...her face was just gorgeous, she was an ethereally beautiful doll, but we just could not bond. I can only liken it to a guy I dated in college... he was good looking, funny, smart, kind, and we had fun together, objectively he was the perfect guy...but those bells just didn't ring, if you know what I mean.

That said, I ended up selling her, and putting the money toward a 60 cm girl. Maybe I can only bond with the bigger dolls because they have more...presence? Personality? I still miss Yisol and enjoy seeing owner pics of her. But she was just not for me.

 

I thought that I wouldn't have much trouble bonding with dolls. I was wroooong! I bought and sold several dolls, but I think the most upsetting was Chinastu the YO-SD. I love YOs but she just wasn't [in my mind] as cute as my Suzu...and she wasn't quite fitting in! Don't feel bad about not bonding, it happens.

~Alyson

 

I'm having a bonding problem with my Limhwa Half-Elf, and that makes me really sad. I loved her from the first moment I saw her, waited looong weeks for her and when she finally came, she just didn't feel right. It might be the size, I was dying to get my first SD, but she just seems so big.

She's now been to a face-up artist to have a new face-up, and my hubby just called to let me know the package had arrived today. I'm nervous to see if we'll bond now that she's got a new face-up, if not, I'm going to propably put her up for sale and get another MSD, a Narae.

I do feel guilty and dissappointed in myself, but hey, if it's not working out, I think I should just let her go to a home where she'll be loved, right? As it is now, she's just been lying in her box for two months...

 

For some reason Taffy, my half of the Recall twins, and I have not bonded like with the other dolls. Even his brother and I get along. Perhaps Taffy knows he's the only head I didn't chose for it's sculpt and I do call the twins white elephants.

We're starting to warm to each other but it's slow. When I did a doll show the people could sense there was something different about Taffy and that we just don't get along yet. Selling him isn't an option, I just need to find our thing.

 

You really can't tell how you'll feel about a doll until they come! I had a wonderful JollyPlus head that I ordered blank--and he came with a face-up! They gave me a discount since it was a mix up, and it was a gorgeous, perfect faceup--but it wasn't what I had planned, and he always looked anxious to me--and once his body came I put him together, got him dressed, tucked him in a box and gave him to Pegapup, who had adored him even as a head--and darned if he suddenly didn't look 100% happier!
On the other hand I ordered a Fantasy Doll Tobias to be a body donor for my Juri06, (who it turns out fits perfectly on an Obitsu body) and when he came I realized I'd bought his head, too--plus he was pretty battered from being on the outside of the giant group order box: facial scratches, broken head cap, chipped forearm--so I put in some odd red acrylic eyes I had laying around, and a ridiculous black wig, and did him a goofy goth faceup--and now I laugh every time I look at him, and I even have some clothes for him now, and I'm trying to think of a better name for him than "Emo Tobias". So you never know how it will turn out

 

I am still not sure I have bonded with Eon. He is still my Dream doll, and I love him, but I really have no drive to be with him. It is more fun to be with my boyfriends MSD Hearst. I think that I really actually prefer MSD size, but I love my gorgeous Eon - my first doll, that I could never sell him. If they made a Lie in MSD size though I would snap him up and then move his personality down a size!

 

Oh boy I'm not alone. And here I was feeling bad for selling my little angel recently. I got him based on a charrie of mine, but he wasn't becoming that charrie and I wasn't bonding with him like my other boys. And he was my third doll >_>

And now having that same problem with a new boy. I pined for him for I dunno how long and like spazed when I realized I had my chance to buy him. And when I first got him I adored him. But...I have no idea what it is, its like he doesn't belong in my doll family '_' and I just don't feel those same gooy feelings I do when I hold my three other boys. I also can not for the life of me find a name ;_; And because of it I left his clothes off him. ^^;;

But you know I think its fate though because my first doll I ever sold, made that buyer very, very happy. Maybe he's meant to be in someone else's arms, I dunno. Anyway I don't feel its wrong. I also don't like the idea of holding onto a doll I'm not bonding with or stays in his box. ^^; When someone else could be loving him or her, right?

 

These days I always let a doll sit for a good while before acting rashly. I repented of my welcome to a Nono once, and passed her onto a good home. I have regretted it ever since. It can sometimes take me a month and more to come to terms with the disruption to the family that a new face brings.

I suppose what I am saying is, don't act in haste. It can take some time to build up the bond sometimes.

 

It happened to me with a DOC Tender Yen that I bought on impulse. After being abandoned for a couple of months in his box, I tried to force one of my original character on him...and it didn't work X_x gave him a new faceup and modded his eye a little bit, and still nada. In the end I renamed him, changed his faceup completely...and still waiting for the time I finally be able to connect with him...the little guy has suffered enough under my hand ^^; I feel bad not being able to bond with him until now. I hope it'll be okay soon.

 

My reticent doll is my DOC Si, Kiun. He was the friend doll of Kyuubi (V-Day event Twing-Key) but I decided to buy a Hoo head as well since they weren't offering Hoo as one of the choices and he was my favorite.
So, Arashi (Hoo) stole Kiun's body and he and Kyuubi get along just fine. And I'm comfortable with just the two of them. I guess the problem is that I'm in no real hurry to get to know Kiun, as I'm only just starting to bond with my Twing-Key and Hoo. And I know I could justify spending more if I've only got the pair to buy for. At the same time I do feel bad that I don't spend as much time/ effort on him as I do the other two.
I've decided at the very least that I'm going to wait until I get Kiun his own body before I make any decisions.

 

Shasta took a while to bond to, because he didn't turn out to be the character that I had intended for him to be, and it felt so weird to have a non character... to have a "person" about that I didn't know much about.
I'm waiting on Katherine, a R. Gena... and while the mold is beautiful to me, it's not perfect. It's just the closest thing I've found so far (until today). It's not quite her. I'm agonizing right now, because I've found someone's Limhua who looks just LIKE Katherine... EXACTLY. I've fallen in love with the mold, despite french resin problems, and delicate body and whatnot. She's just absolutely perfect. I'm agonizing because the Gena was an impulse buy (I was saving for a CP Miyu), and I don't have a job, so buying an Limhua Half-Elf would be not be possible soon... but what to do with the Gena in the meantime? @_@ Sell? What would I most be happy with? Would I bond with either of them? Gaaaaah!

 

You know, I'm very much going through this now again. The first time I didn't bond with a doll was when I got my second doll ever, which was a Volks MSD Akira. I liked him in his pics and I thought it would be neat to have one that size (my first doll and I had at the time was SD13 Syo). But when he arrived, he didn't look like what I had expected and my giddy smile of opening him immediately turned into a frown and I felt SO crushed! I kept him for a long time before selling him though but we never truely bonded.

Now I have a Dollzone Mo that my mom got me for christmas and I LOVE the Mo mold and I was so utterly excited to get him but... I'm not bonding with him now. I've tried everything. New looks, new clothes. I just gave him a new face-up last week hoping it would spark something but there's nothing there and I feel bad for it. He doesn't even seem to bond with my other dolls. He's a great doll, but sigh! I don't know what it is. So I want to sell him =/ If anyone is interested, PM me! I've been too lazy to get a thread going in the market. Well, that's not true, I've just been trying to get better pics but all I have is a phone camera so it's been difficult.

 

I have a cian that will some day be a speific character but for no I have been unable to give him a proper face up and he doesn't have a body he fits on o it's been difficult for me to bond with him T.T I'm hoping after I redo his faceup next week and make him look a little more himself that I can bond better with him...

 

I bought a Happy Doll Arthur because at the time, he was the tallest, most mature male doll available. I had him only a couple of months when Dollshe released Hound, then soon after, Tensiya started re-releasing Bermann. Compared to my more realistic Hound and Bermann, poor Arthur looked like a doll, so he had to go. I didn't bond with my Unoas either, so you never can tell; most people love them.

 

I wasn't able to bond with my Asha for the looooongest time. I tried my hardest, I bought things I felt were good for her, and all of that. I am determined NOT to sell her as I am her fourth owner now and that's just sad. I initially loved her faceup that I had done, but then I started disliking it...I still may have it redone, actually.

What happened with the two of us is--I got another doll that I loved instantly. I decided the new girl would be the Asha's girlfriend. The Asha herself underwent a transformation--her clothing style totally changed, as did her hair, she got a big ole pair of cute glasses, so on and so forth. And now she's part of the group. She has a purpose and a look I love, and I've finally bonded. She's no longer the "other" as she has been for most of a year.

 

I had a Domuya Sophie that I just couldn't bond with. She was a beautiful doll but I just couldn't get a grasp on her personality. I originally tried to shoehorn her into a character that just didn't fit her soft, lovely sculpt... and it was kind of downhill from there. I gave her multiple faceups, changed her character several times... but nothing really clicked. She was the first doll I ever sold (and is still so far the only one), but in the end I'm glad she went to a new owner who will love her.