When was the first time you could not bond with a doll?

I had a problem bonding with Jin Kwan. When he came, he was gorgeous, but he didn't look right. I fiddled with different wigs and different clothes, but nothing seemed to suit him. I didn't want to sell him because I loved his mold so much, but I was really starting to consider it. Finally, I just changed his character. That changed everything. He was soo much easier to find a wig for, and clothes! I think he just wasn't suited for the character I'd bought him for, or the storyline I'd made for him. I ended up scrapping that character anyway. Now I am so much happier with my Jin Kwan and his story and I love him to bits!

I think sometimes, when you are not bonding with a doll, try a different character with them. If they aren't fitting a character you had in mind, don't try to force it. If it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't meant to be. You should love your dolls, if you don't, why bother keeping them?

 

I am having big issues bonding with a doll that has been complete now for about three weeks. When she was just a head i was smitten and the fact she is vinyl was fine. I do love to look at her but i have a total knowing that
handling her just can never be the same as a resin doll. I have bought her a perfect outfit and tried to take her around the house with me but really, the vinyl thing is just niggling and making the bond impossible.
I find i am now really bonding with my tiny Narsha boy now and love holding himso that is one plus side!
I can't believe i am saying this after being so thrilled to have such a divine head but maybe i should actually sell her on to someone who loves her for who she is in total, awww..we all just want to loved for who we are don't we?
Ps,another bad sign is that i get a bit envious when my best friend brings her Big resin girl around and they sit along side each other, phew...rave rave..yack..kk i will shush up now, Blah

 

I am just now bonding with my first doll that I got over a year ago. It's taking forever!

And I will probably sell my second doll that I got in January. He's adorable, but he's just not cutting it. I've dcided to stop settling on dolls and start saving for ones I actually connect with.

 

I have a serious problem bounding with Ha-Yarn. Her face simply don't fit the character I wanted. I'm pretty persistent so I had tried several times to not sell her but I really cannot bound with her.

 

No, I have never had this happen to me yet.... not after 19 dolls.

I use the Zen method of shopping. Basically, I know which doll to buy when I see him. I will just KNOW. He is the One. Even if I keep having mixed reactions to his face, or other people's photos of him, there will always be a little fishhook-something pulling away in my gut, tugging away despite all the rationalizations I throw at it, pulling, pulling, telling me "That's him."

Ignore this fishhook at your peril. But do learn to identify it; sometimes it's easy to confuse with the Barbs of Quick Lust & Infatuation. In the end, you just KNOW. If you can fall in love before hitting the "Buy" button, that's always best.


Once the doll arrives, I invariably fall in love with him, no matter how ambivalent I was while waiting for him to arrive-- apparently, my fishhook knows its business. So nobody ever gets sold, either. There's drawbacks to too much bonding, you know.... Like running out of room in the apartment! ;;

 

Shelving. Build upwards like doll roofscrapers.

I'm currently learning to love after a rough start. It's a first for me. I usually get frustrated, and at the point of anger, it's time to let go.
This time around, I passed him off to a friend to refaceup for me, and after futzing with him some more... something is ...settling in.
That's just Shin-u.
Tsugi got lucky, and something just clicked, and I finally decided maybe having a sweetie pie wouldn't be the end of my ranch. We're coming to a peaceful arrangement.

 

I bought two dolls because of the price, a Goodreau Innuendo and a RanD Angel. I have not been able to bond with either of them. I keep thinking I might use them to practice face ups or stringing.

I was also really disappointed when I opened my Narae. I actually cried. I had been saving to get the doll I really wanted and asked for a custom face up. I waited what seemed like forever and when she came her tanning had a grayish cast. It seems basicline left and the team took over. She had white eyelashes, the eye sockets were rough and her look is bland.

I can't decide whether to get another head, have her face up redone, or just sell her and try again later.

It's not that I'm cranky, I do have six BJD's I love.

Patricia C.

 

I wish I could bond with Roisel (DOC Twin B boy) but I just can't. I think the reason why I can't bond with him is because I HATE the face up DOD did on him, and I want to change it but I can't do face ups so every time I look at him, I feel frustrated. The other reason is his looks. I just can't seem to find the right looks for him, I know what I want but it just doesn't feel right. And lastly, I don't feel the same connection I have with kyoshi and Dantès.

Even my brother noticed it. He said that I'm not as kind with Rosiel as I am with my other dolls. He's really cute and I want to love him as much as I do the others...Although I've been thinking on selling him, I prefer to change his looks first and find his personality before deciding whether I'm going to keep him or not.

Actually, he's not the first doll I couldn't bond with. I purchased another DOD in the past, didn't feel anything towards him and sold him a week later. I didn't feel any remorse or anything, in fact, I felt happy and relief when I got rid of him^^ with Rosiel is different, I can't bond with him but I want to.

 

To add to this: Also, put a LOT of thought/research into your first doll... when I bought mine, I just took someone's advice of "Oh, this will be a good starter doll"...
I'm too picky for "starter" dolls, that's why my first dolls were sold rather quickly... because soon after purchasing, I started doing my research (bass ackwards, that was) and realized there were several other dolls I'd much rather own.

 

Ah, thank you. The relieved me at least some. =] I hope it goes well too.

 

haha. Oh beleive me. I made sure that wouldn't happen. I'm just so PARANOID. I have so many options...I mean..I really want a D.O.D Camine...Badly..I just knew he was the one...

and I've seen so many dolls and read up on so much. Its like "What do I choose?" I have a list now! Sorry for rambling...I'm just paranoid I wont bond with any..or if Camine is the one XD

 

There are some bjds that I did not bond and end up selling. I tried changing eyes, wigs, clothes all did not work.

 

It's been a year since I said what i said about Rosiel! *see above* I just want to say that I'm totally happy with him now *hugs him tightly* his face up was changed, his personality/look was found and now he's loved by all! I'm so happy that i gave him a second opportunity^^ I love him so much!!!!

 

I couldn't bond with my second doll, a CP Shiwoo. ;_; When he got home, he just looked too soft and sweet for the character he was intended to be. >< Oh well---he's going to a new home where he will be loved the way he is, so I'm happy and thankful for that at least. :3

 

I have had Corvas since January and she and I still havent clicked....and I have a feeling she is gonna change her name...again.

 

The first doll I just couldn't bond with was actually a head. I recieved a Tender Elf Sha head with my girl Rynn. I tried and tried again to bond with him, either by brainstorming different personalities, or just staring at him hoping something would click like it did with a previous bond-problem (Valevan, my Nanuri '07. Who is now very much loved.) Eventually, I did end up having to trade him. It actually did make me kinda sad, but he's in a happy home now. ^^

 

I just recently had my first not bonding experience. I was just starting to feel adverse towards my first boy, Tae-Jun. I put him away in his box for a few weeks, to see if I would miss him. I took him out randomly one night to look at him again, and ended up dressing him again and leaving him out. I thought about the idea of selling him, and what might happen to him in someone else's hands, and it made me really sad. His character is not very well developed, and that's part of the reason why I wasn't feeling so warmly towards to, but I think that it will come out on it's own eventually, I just have to be patient. I suppose it's still possible that my feelings will change again, but for now we are friendly again. xDD

 

Well I am not really bonding with my dolls at the moment. Only because my boy doesn't have a body, and my girl only has 1 pair of clothes and 1 wig. I need more clothes and wigs for me to really start the bond.

 

Hmmm...well the first time was when I bought an Isabella off the MP. I fell in love with her cute wee face, and was so excited to get her home. However, once she was here I realised she really didn't fit - not necessarily because of not fitting in my doll 'family' - which is a definition that's pretty loose anyway. But she didn't connect with me. I kept her about a month thinking it was just a matter of her being 'too new' but I ended up selling her.

The only other time it's happened is with my Sky head. I again, fell in love with him before I bought him and he's been around almost a year. However, I've recently realised that he was more a 'oooh pretty' purchase as I haven't done anything with him and realistically never will. Therefore it was time to let him go and see if he can't find a home where someone will be able to bond with him.

 

I have this problem right now, I LOVE my hound and have probably said a thousand times on here that he will always be Corpse, untill I recently saw Nayuta on Dollmore. The doll is the perfect height for the character, his look is closer, if he was a white skin I would be in real trouble. In the end I decided if they release a WS ltd I will get him, and then see what happens, if Corpse moves over, if body swap is in the works, or if Nayuta goes the way of the marketplace and Corpse stays in his Hound shell

Directly on the not bonding issue, I have had a DZ wing head floating around for over a year, I cannot bond with him, I modded him a litttle, played with a few crazy faceups, nope he is not interested at all. I also had some trouble with a Tender Too I got secondhand recently, he refused to tell me who he was for ages. Finally he revealled he is a dragonling in disguise. I am still not sure how permanent his stay is but for now he is stunning and happy here