When you are unhappy, do your dolls cheer you up? (Emotionally dependent on them?)

Thank you so much everyone for all your sympathy!

Kitto-Chi & dicebox: You are absolutely right, it is very easy to fall into the retail therapy trap. Even though I don't really consider BJDs retail . This was quite an impulsive buy (I had been eying him, just figured I needed to wait). I will be careful.

Guide & Brsis: I rarely feel sad or lonely anymore (I feel very loved and comfy)... but this news just put a huge damper on us from out of nowhere, so I figured a one-time expensive treat for sadness would be ok...

nightmarenurse: You had it much worse than me then. At least my husband is out on the ocean, not at the front lines. My heart goes out to you. *hugs*

Wifey: LOL! I hadn't thought about it like that, but maybe you're right. ^_^ I will tell this to my husband when he comes home and asks why my dolls have multiplied. ("Would you rather I hang out with my new doll-boy or the pool-boy??" (like we have a pool))

On an OT healthier-dealing note, I went and joined a gym today. Maybe my new boy can accompany me there.

 

I bought my first doll, Victor, with money I had saved up for a summer in Japan study abroad program. It got cancelled because we were like 2 people short of the required minimum. So I bought Victor 1: because he was perfect, and 2: to make me feel better about the cancellation. XD

 

Well, it might be a coincidence, since this is the first time I've had enough money for a doll since I bought Raziel last year, but my dad is very, very sick right now, and will only be getting worst. Still, I know that Trixie will help me feel better when the time comes (and once SHE comes. ^^; )

 

Sorry about your dad. I hope your Trixie comes soon to comfort you.

Carolyn

 

AniDragon: All the best for your Dad!

 

Thanks! ^_^.

 

Tristan was the reward for my company making me work Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years without asking me first. Latly when I've been down I can spend a couple dollars to buy fabric to make him new clothes. Right now my company is making me work on my days off without asking, so I could either a) rant and rave, or b) come to the conclusion that if I work 2 or 3 days like that I'll have enough for a body for my vamp head. (and to finish paying for his head.)

So yeah, I totally see where you're coming from, and assuming your checkbook isn't eating loose change it works.

 

I ordered and have been gradually paying for my Soony since feb. I was gonna save & wait but i wanted to get my order in before the price increase. She was going to be my congrats gift to myself for getting into art college...but I didn't get in, so she's gonna be my consolidation gift instead, and although i didn't make it in, I was one over over 1000 applicants to that course, and I worked my butt of to get in. So she's a reward for all my hard work too. That's what I'm gonna say when I eventually tell my parents anyway..lol

 

I almost did the same exact thing. My boyfriend had been in other states from the begining of June all the way up through the very begining of January. In December I told myself that if he didn't at least move back in state, I'd buy a BW Chiwoo and get the Juri head.

The funny thing is that he did move back in state, but he's in another part, and I haven't seen him since he passed through town in January. I don't miss him anymore, but I do kind of wish I'd bought the Chiwoo. That sounds so terrible.

Sorry about your husband. That really sucks.

 

yes, because i relocated and had no friends for more than three months.

my Lishe has kept me from complete reclusiveness.

 

Astri is the child of a very difficult and messy breakup with my 5 year boyfriend. He's such a sweet thing though, that I don't feel too bad having spent $400 on a consolation toy for myself. So, no, you're not alone in this at all. ^^

 

I'm not sure "consolation" is the word, but . . . as a kind of remembrance, yes. Lyon, my Haute Hound, cost exactly the amount I received from the little life insurance policy that my mother bought when she got her first job.

Does having him console me for losing my dear mom? Not in the least. But is it kind of nice to think that, in a way, she gave him to me? Yes.

That's why I named him after a real person (my grandfather, Mom's father)--something I've never done before and never expect to do again.

 

That's a really lovely thought, Cynthia. He must be very special to you.

 

ha..ahaha.. I'm thinking about doing the same thing, as a reward to myself for
a)working three 48 hour weeks
b)working seven days a week while I transition from two part-time jobs to one full-time
c)going through the horrible pains of learning a skilled tradesman's job and making n00b mistakes all the time

That is going to be one fat paycheck (compared to the pittance I've been earning 'till now), and boy howdy am I tempted to blow it on one of the half-dozen Korean honeys I have my lecherous little eyes on. I think the rate at which I buy them, however, is disturbing to my boyfriend, who tends to get worried whenever I overly obsess about something. (And I always find something to obsess about.)

So, yes, it is normal, but if it's going to put your finances in jeopardy, be smart! Make sure it won't hurt you later on and THEN push that "order" button. : )

 

I bought Justyne because I was so amazingly stressed out with everything and I thought looking forward to a new doll, my first 60cm, even, would cheer me up xD;

It did make me feel a lot better, too.

 

I would like to buy a doll to cheer me up about my financial worries, but I don't think that would work so well. XD;;

 

I have to be careful doing this, because I am overly sensitive and associate too many feelings with things. I am afraid that purchasing something when I'm REALLY upset may end up having negative feelings attached to it, and then the doll would be a negative force which is REALLY the last thing I need (the last thing anybody needs, right?).

After my cat Phoebe died, I bought a Unoa, Calliope. When I look at her I think of Phoebe but only in a GOOD way, so, she isn't a source of upset for me, and I love her. I really couldn't afford her and put her on a credit card, but I'm not sorry. Clearly I was in mourning, but I don't feel like I did something REALLY stupid, I can pay off that credit card bill. I did think about it, and it wasn't an impulse buy at all.

So... I can see people doing this... I can see people realizing the doll is actually reminding them of an upset, and then not want to keep the doll, too.

 

I can see this happening too.

I know that for a long while I carried about negative connotations to something that, for a long while, I loved very deeply. I've only recently been able to shake it off. I've had minor thinsg like this happen a few times now.

I think it depends on your reasons. people who worry about money, but save up to get a doll and work hard for it, just feel accoplishment/glad they can still get things they want.

but someone who has money troubles, buys a doll and then just gets furthur into debt will have a lot of guilt attached to said doll. just an example of course but yeah.

hmmm it's something to think about.

 

Ya know, if the dolls help you feel better and less lonely I do not think you need to feel guilty about getting another one.

I have 3 dolls and each one seems to have come at a time when I needed them most. I do not know if it is just coincidence or not but they have definately cheered me up when it was needed the most. If anything, because I was physically unable to play with them or anything much on the arrivals, it made me concentrate more on getting better so I could play with them, make thier clothes etc. If I would start on the road of utter dispair, just seeing them in the display cabinet gave me a lift as I think about customizing them and character concepts ...

If you can buy a doll and it makes you feel better, and you can afford it then by all means DO IT!

 

That's how I feel - I have a job, I can pay off that bill.

I've actually had it happen where I bought an animation cel on ebay and the whole experience was so bad that I ended up reselling the cel because it reminded me of a bad experience! >.<

But as for this doll... he won't remind me of being lonely. He will be there to hold when I feel lonely. Waiting and planning for him cheers me up and makes the days go by faster. He is a reminder that even if my husband is not here, I am still an independant, strong person who can get by on her own, who holds down the fort (a job, grad school, 2 cats, a puppy, and a big house), and who deserves whatever makes her happy.