When you are unhappy, do your dolls cheer you up? (Emotionally dependent on them?)

Aww...I don't think that's bad. That's a long time.

XD I thought you were gonna say something along the lines of, "I just got dumped! And got a bad grade on a report! I DESERVE ANOTHER DOLL."

Usually, I just eat ice cream and talk to my girlfriend and mope and cuddle things until I feel better. ;D Although if I had the disposable income enough for a doll, that'd clear up the sad way faster.

 

Actually I've done the same things with my dolls. I wasn't into BJD's and I really didn't want to spend the money but once my mother got sick, she was depenging on me and my stepfather a whole lot and in order to take my mind off of how horrible she was doing, I bought Nny. My mother has Multiple Sclerosis and so she goes through periods of her life when she needs me to stay with her to help her when she isn't feeling well and I always bring Nny and Julian over to help me feel better when I'm feeling upset about it.

Plus my little sister is 5 years old and enjoys dressing them with me. Surprisingly enough, she's really well behaved with the dolls, though I wouldn't leave her alone with them because I'm paranoid O_o. It kind of helps her get through it too. I guess both of us have used Nny and Julian as an outlet for our problems.

In any case, I don't think that you are crazy for buying your doll. October is a long way away and if it makes you feel better then you should have no shame in doing it. ^_^= I hope the best for your husband and pray for his safe return.

 

Sorry if there is already a topic like this, I searched around and wasn't able to spot any.

I was wondering if anyone has had any experiences where their dolls have helped them through a tough spot in life?

For example, I just ended it with my boyfriend of 2 years. Even though I did the dumping, I'm terribly sad. But now that I have Lily, she's been keeping me busy with making her clothes and jewelry and the like. Spending time with her is very theraputic, and it helps distract me from feeling so depressed. At the moment she's in the middle of a face-up so she's in pieces... and I miss having her to hold at my computer already! ;_; But again, on the flipside doing things like face-ups and the like with her help me out soooooo much.

Has anyone else had any experiences like this?

 

^^; my boy tends to help me out when I'm feeling in the dumps every once in a while if that works =3 For some reason when I'm feeling a bit sad sitting around and playing with Kyo cheers me up =]

 

If it were not for my first boy Jacinto, I really dont know where I'd have been. He came just when I broke up with my boyfriend and kept me company through the lonely nights. I know it's going to sound really stupid, that a doll helped me move on, but that's how it was. As it is, because of Jacinto, I was able to stay sane and handle the break up. =)

 

I went through several rough spots in my life starting in 6th grade, and have battled depression and cutting since. When I got Winter, it was just after I had broken it off with a girlfriend who was extremely controlling. It was also while my best friend was away in Japan, after we had recently patched our extremely strained relationship. So, he just helped me get along a little bit more. Every time I hold Winter he calms me down, if I am depressed or just feeling off I hold him in bed and I feel instantly calmed. I have a lot of home stressors, as my mother is very sick, so my dolls help me get away for a while. Much better therapy for me than the therapists I have visited before. ^^

 

i don't have serious pyshical health problems, though i'm not 100% emotionally or mentally...i've got severe anxiety around people among other things that i've spent a good portion of my life working through...but having my bjd around when i get home really gives me something to look forward to.

i tend to think bjd give us a sense of control and accomplishment that isn't really always tangible to the rest of the world, though they have their own forms of release as well. bjd provide focus and a sense of interaction. they might be objects, it might be a tool of escapism, but people shouldn't judge another's sense of "happy" or "being content"...things that people can be passionate about renew that sense of being alive. i'm glad to read that they've done so much for so many people here.

 

well, i don't know about illness, but i DO know that whenever i feel down, or stressed, or upset, or even confused, i grab up Mykal, and squeeze him in my arms, and i feel SOOOOOO much better....
I know he's just a doll, and i know he's just resin, but to me, he's alive, and very much a living thing, even if he really isn't....if that even makes sense... LOL

 

Such little resin angels they are, yes? hehe I don't have one(yet) but just seeing them and finding out about them on various sites makes me feel better. I was depressed a little since my husband is not here but when I found out about BJDs I feel soo much better. When I think about what I am going to do whenever I get one, I get really happy. ^--^

 

I bring my doll to bed when I've had a paticlarly uncomfortable or unhappy day. I feel comfort from my doll... but then again, I don't really suffer from any serious illness.

 

I don't actually have a doll yet. ^^ But when I do, she'll be a great joy to me. Something very customizable and pretty and.. well, heck: I'm a girl, after all. Girls basically have an inherent love for dolls, most of them. But.. as much as I'll love my doll and give her a personality and story and whatever, I won't ever be dependent on her for happiness. I see that a lot of you are suffering from depression.. When I suffer from depression, or am facing major adversity (mental or otherwise) I turn to God. I'm not going to preach or anything 9_9, but I'm giving my opinion just like everyone else is. I'm building my relationship with Him right now, so it isn't perfect. I admit that. But when I have problems, I know he's the only one who can help me work through them in the correct way. I rely on him before I rely on material things. >_> I admit that I play WAY too many video games and various things like that, so I have certain little escapes, too. But I'm starting to learn to put things like that second to my relationship with God. ^^ I'm going through a lot of things right now, since I've turned to Him. Rough things. But I'm a lot healthier than I used to be, no matter how rough my life gets. I can find deep enjoyment in BJDs and whatnot, but nothing can take the place of God. At least, that's what I'm working toward. ^^;;; *has got a long way to go*

 

my dolls make me happy, more than alot of things I have bought...except for maybe my ebay laptop...best thing I ever bought..can be online anywhere...but they just make me happy, it must be a hold over from being a little girl with dolls..not sure.... I smile and "pet" my hound...even though he is standing around nekkid..lol and the others are in various stages of completion..when I get home from work, I am in a differrent world...its fun.

especially when i get a new one in....it is like Christmas....I get this high...and am cloud nine...oohh come to think of it, I have my elf asha and my souldoll metel and mau head coming in soon....oooohhhh squeeeeee!!!!!

 

One thing I am finding recently is that a few of my dolls' personalities (I'm thinking in particular Perseus, Eric and Marius here) are reflections of facets of my own. Eric is very me in a lot of ways; Perseus seems to represent the part of myself that is caught up in the whole spiritual crisis thing (and allows me to explore my fascination with stigmatism, angels, the whole nine yards), and Marius seems to represent the older, more worldly-weary, has-to-be-the-responsible-adult part.

It's interesting being able to explore these different parts of myself through my dolls' interactions with other dolls. I've only recently started RPing with other folk on AIM, and it's a wonderful creative outlet in addition to the usual photostories etc.

Gets very confusing being in three different dolls' heads, in three different situations, RPing simultaneously whilst being in regular chat with two other people though - excellent way to flex those mental muscles! And a very good distraction when life is taking a really shitty turn and you just need to escape for a little while; just hop into your doll's head and think like them for a bit.

 

Cheer me up? Yes.

Emotionally dependant? No. I'd be worried if my doll was the only thing that could cheer me up when I was down.

 

Yes.

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

I have social anxiety disorder and sometimes it interferes with my job. I'm a cashier at a grocery store. One night I had to bring August with me because I was going strait to Omichao's after work and didn't have time to stop at my place and pick him up. So he was sitting on my register, tucked under the monitor and probably not really comfortable, but I really didn't want to keep him stuffed in my bag in case it got kicked or stepped on. I was feeling a little uneasy since I'd woken up that morning, like a panic attack was eminate. So when I felt a little rushed or nervous, I looked at August and it was like he was telling me everything would be just fine. He's the more calm and observant of my dolls, and that helps when I'm feeling not-so-stable. I love him for that.

Since the arrival of my first doll I've become more social as well. They go everywhere with me (with the exception of work) so I usually get a few questions asked about them. That sort of made me have to be a little more outspoken and social. Doll meets have helped a tremendous amount, too.

 

While I don't have any major or chronic illnesses, I would have to say that my dolls just plain make me happy...often when I need it most. I can't help but smile every time I look at them. They are my form of meditation and relaxation and escape from real life woes and stress. When I [get the time to] play with my dolls, I don't think about anything else for that time. I come away feeling more relaxed and happy and ready to get back to real life and whatever it has to throw at me.

 

Well, they did. In a very weird way O.o

I've always been a bit shy and insecure, but joining this forum (and taking a job as waitress *scary!* to get money for Ichijouji) made me a bit easier around people. I also dare to speak my mind more now. And looking at pictures of the DoD Hoo makes me all happy inside ^^

 

Yes.

I'm artist and often times I'm not allowed the creative freedom that I want. And with having Caleb I'm able to express myself through him. He's what I am on the inside, but am to afraid to express to the public for fear of being made fun of again.

 

oh yeah, I'm depressed, it comes and goes, but having my guys around helps. Closest things I have, other than pets, who don't judge me on my looks, feelings, you name it. I'm very antisocial due to the contant teasing I had to endure. I am also the weird one in the family and therefore I have no real reason to speak when family is even around. I don't actually fit in anywhere, try as I might. Round peg is a square peg world, basically.

 

Yes. My dolls help me keep my mind off things that make me unhappy. On the other hand playing withthem sometimes helps me think of a solution without meaning to.